Ohio12 Posted August 6, 2008 Share Posted August 6, 2008 We are invited to an evening country club wedding of someone dh works with (but not closely). I have met him several times and her once at a political event. (DH does policy research) They are ten years younger than we are but come from $$. (hahaha we do NOT) How much do you think we need to spend on a gift? And, what are you basing your answer on? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kathleen in VA Posted August 6, 2008 Share Posted August 6, 2008 I don't think you should be concerned with the cost of the gift beyond what your budget can bear. Choose something you think would be useful or appreciated, regardless of the cost. A nice wall plaque with an encouraging motto might be nice - every time they read it they will be cheered by it and think of you:). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mom2legomaniacs Posted August 6, 2008 Share Posted August 6, 2008 I think something fun like a theme basket is nice. We have gotten several of those types. One was a small basket tray with a couple of cute mugs and several types of hot beverage items (teas, coffees, cocoas). Another was a mixing bowl with apron, wooden spoon, recipe for cookies, and the stuff to make them. One more I have seen is a colander with pasta, sauce, etc. I love creative theme things like this. The costs can be anywhere you need it to be. But the main point is that the receiver can see the thought that went into the gift. I love that! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JFSinIL Posted August 6, 2008 Share Posted August 6, 2008 You could probably find some crystal gee-gaw on sale at a department store - a small vase or candy dish or nice frame. They would not know the cost. Now - if you went for a place setting - they would know. I tend to go for very nice 5x7 picture frames.....since I still use the few I got as a bride. Since you are not close friends or family you are not expected to be lavish, either. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WTMindy Posted August 6, 2008 Share Posted August 6, 2008 I would spend what you can afford and what you would normally spend on a wedding gift. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Connie1961 Posted August 6, 2008 Share Posted August 6, 2008 I agree, I would only spend what you can afford. I think a real nice picture frame would be a good gift also, especially if you don't know them that well. Once the wedding pictures come in, I'm sure she would appreciate a nice frame to put her favorite in. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ohio12 Posted August 6, 2008 Author Share Posted August 6, 2008 I would spend what you can afford and what you would normally spend on a wedding gift. I haven't been to a wedding since all my friends got married about ten years ago. I was wondering if things have changed. I used to spend $40 -$50 but I am wondering if I need to bump it up a little? I think I will stick to the registry. I don't like to get people something to hang on the wall in case it is not their style. I know I like to choose my own stuff like that. If it was a close friend, I would do the custom basket, but I don't know these people very well. (also with the basket, when I have done that for showers, I have found you can easily spend $50 filling it up!) I think I don't want my gift to be unique. I want it to be acceptable and a passing thought. Any more thoughts, if you consider that I think I better stick to the registry and they will know what it costs? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mom2legomaniacs Posted August 6, 2008 Share Posted August 6, 2008 Well the range you specified sounds just fine to me. If you can find something on their registry in that amount, easy, and you know they will like it. Just go that route then. Perfectly acceptable! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ohio12 Posted August 6, 2008 Author Share Posted August 6, 2008 Well the range you specified sounds just fine to me. If you can find something on their registry in that amount, easy, and you know they will like it. Just go that route then. Perfectly acceptable! I think I can. But I guess part of what brought this on is that most things were more than that! Place settings were over a hundred and one goblet was around a hundred, but I can get a bowl for $40 or a place setting of silverware for $65. The $40 seems low but the silverware made me feel like choking a bit. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ohio12 Posted August 6, 2008 Author Share Posted August 6, 2008 I have been to a ton of weddings and I have never seen anyone give anything other than money. I wonder if this is due to where I am from? I usually give about $100. For someone I only know casually I would probably give less. Maybe $75. I have heard of giving the couple money at the wedding after having sent a gift ahead. I think this is a New England thing (I also know an Italian family that has told me this is a custom) I don't see it at most of the midwest wedding I go to. I am afriad that your range of $75 - $100 is accurate. Do you write a check or give cash? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sasharowan Posted August 7, 2008 Share Posted August 7, 2008 I think I don't want my gift to be unique. I want it to be acceptable and a passing thought. Any more thoughts, if you consider that I think I better stick to the registry and they will know what it costs? For the last wedding I went to for friends, we got them a gift certificate for a nice restaurant. They were both just finishing college and I had never even met him, I knew her from classes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reesegirl Posted August 7, 2008 Share Posted August 7, 2008 I have been married 27 years. Almost everyone who came to the wedding gave us a gift. I haven't been to a lot of weddings recently but my neighbor's daughter got married last Spring and my neice this summer. Both received a lot of gift cards and checks. For my neice, There were probably 2/3 gift cards or checks to 1/3 presents. I was really surprised to see that so many people opted for money. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stacia Posted August 7, 2008 Share Posted August 7, 2008 Place settings were over a hundred and one goblet was around a hundred, but I can get a bowl for $40 or a place setting of silverware for $65. The $40 seems low but the silverware made me feel like choking a bit. What about a $50 gift card to the place they have their registry? They can put that toward anything they want from the registry. That way it would also remain w/in your budget of around $50. I wouldn't feel pressure to spend more. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Grubbsfamily Posted August 7, 2008 Share Posted August 7, 2008 :iagree:Get what you budget allows even in the gift card. It a GIFT. The gift card to a place they have registered is nice b/c you can spend what you feel is in your budget and not what some store told you an item costs. The couple can also then decide where they really need the $, maybe they need towels more that a plate or fork, and it reduces hassles for duplicates or returns b/c they need linnens more that a place setting of china. Happy gift giving, and have fun at the wedding! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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