CookIslandsMommy Posted June 16, 2013 Share Posted June 16, 2013 I would like to stop people who are friends with my friends (who I actually don't know) from contacting me...I have tried looking to change my privacy settings, so that the only people who can "contact" me are "Friends". So I have gone to the dropbox menu where it says, "Who can contact me"..."who can send me friend requests" problem is I don't have the option for just "Friends"...only 2 drop options, 'Friends of Friends' and 'Everyone'...why is there no option for 'Friends' only? I wondered if anyone knew how to fix this one? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nmoira Posted June 16, 2013 Share Posted June 16, 2013 FB removed the Friends Only option for this *and* the option to hide from FB search/find a person . I'd prefer nobody be able to message me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Mungo Posted June 16, 2013 Share Posted June 16, 2013 Because how could people you are already friends with send you a friend request? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amyco Posted June 16, 2013 Share Posted June 16, 2013 I think "Facebook privacy" is an oxymoron. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
athena1277 Posted June 16, 2013 Share Posted June 16, 2013 What are they contacting you about? If they are just the "let me send a friend request to every person FB suggests so I'll have a million friends" kind of people, just ignore or block them when they come up. Actually, you can just block them regardless. Soon there won't be any "friends of friends" to contact you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nmoira Posted June 16, 2013 Share Posted June 16, 2013 Because how could people you are already friends with send you a friend request? But there used to be settings such that not only could nobody send you friend requests, you could also choose to hide your existence in FB. No more. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mommybee Posted June 17, 2013 Share Posted June 17, 2013 As of right now they haven't removed it for everybody because my options are still there. But I assume it will go away soon if and that is going to really annoy me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CookIslandsMommy Posted June 17, 2013 Author Share Posted June 17, 2013 Thank you all! The reason is my husband has friends who then can find me and try and add me as their friend. We both come from very difficult emotionally crazy families and I have for my sanity and peace in my home made a policy that I will not have family members as my "friends". He is much tougher than me and can handle them all better and so he has them as friends. Problem is I don't want to hurt these people when they try and friend me, by me not adding them, BUT I have learnt my lessons from the past. We just had a funeral in the family and now a few relatives want to stay in touch and have linked through to my husband and now trying to add me as their friends. Shame they took away the option to hide. I feel it protected me and also them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mommybee Posted June 17, 2013 Share Posted June 17, 2013 After many years of being on facebook I no longer worry about hurting peoples feelings by not friending them. My facebook is for me and I like people on my page that I communicate with or who don't annoy the heck out of me. Sorry your having this problem though. It's so weird and difficult to me how facebook is such a thing now. I can't quite explain it but it's just so full of this kind of pressure. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DianeW88 Posted June 17, 2013 Share Posted June 17, 2013 Just ignore their friend requests. They can't add you if you don't respond to them. Or you can block them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bettyandbob Posted June 17, 2013 Share Posted June 17, 2013 I just ignore friend requests. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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