Aubrey Posted August 5, 2008 Share Posted August 5, 2008 Remember the uncle problem I posted about a while back? http://www.welltrainedmind.com/forums/showthread.php?t=29659&highlight=uncle+aubrey It's still a problem, & the more dh & I have kept an eye on things, the more convinced we are that we need to do so, if that makes sense. Not that anything has happened. Anyway, we've successfully come up w/ excuses for the dc not to stay w/ ils for a couple of mos now, which is hard & highly unusual. They've asked for the dc almost every weekend. One weekend, we all spent the night out there together. (That was hard, & dc & ils both, um, *mentioned* that it's fun when dh & I aren't there, lol.) Another weekend, ils stayed here while dh & I spent the night on campus for our anniversary. That was nice, but stressful on their end. Well...maybe a little on mine, too. Anyway, you can feel the tension building. They haven't asked any questions yet, but I can feel it coming. Uncle was in the hospital for about 2 weeks last mo, w/ complications, etc.--heart problems & artery/vein collapse & replacement, etc. But he's fine & at home now. So, mil has watched our dc for about 3 days every time we've had a baby. Dh mentioned to her recently that we might prefer that she come here to watch them this time because I want the kids to be close. She said she's willing to do whatever I want, but she's worried that that will stress me out. (She's right.) And, although she didn't say anything, I know her sister is coming to help her watch the kids, & we don't have enough places for the two of them to sleep. (She does.) So dh has put her off so far, waiting to see how uncle's doing & if it will even be an issue. We just found out yesterday that he's been home for a week. I called mil yesterday to tell her the good news about my book (which she's super supportive of), & she immediately wanted to know about where the kids would be staying when the baby's born. I tried my best to side-step it, change the subject, etc., but she finally told me point-blank: "I'm really looking forward to spending time w/ all 3 of them." I know she means at her house. It's easier to spoil them there, lol, & she's more comfortable, & there's a lot more space, & even though we get along great, you know how it is to be at someone else's house. You're always just a tad on edge, worried about doing something they won't like. So what do I do?? I don't want to hurt them, & not explaining is doing that. Explaining would do that. Pg hormones are causing inhibition to wane just enough that I really have to be careful what I say, & I have a tendency to be a little blunt (ok, a lot, lol) anyway. Maybe I can just stay pg forever? Fake my own death? <sigh> Please, please tell me you have the perfect solution. Or a house for us to rent in Botswana. :001_huh: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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