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I work in a recreation center serving a diverse community. Today we had a fight break out between two adult male basketball players. Not unusual, unfortunately. The other players separated the two guys, One man is a regular and very nice. The other is new. Both men leave, but a different times. Soon after, the new guy returns to our parking lot with a gun threatening to kill the first guy. As soon as I was told, I called 911. The police responded quickly, but the guy got away. Since we are an ID facility, we knew who the guy was. He's been arrested thankfully. No one was hurt.

 

It was scary. I insisted we lock our main doors; my co-worker disagreed. Our facility has a huge number of large glass windows. In my opinion, it was better to lock the main doors even though he could shoot through the glass than let him enter the facility where he could follow people shooting. There were people outside, but we could have let them in as necessary. Plus, we are set in a large park; there were many ways to run away or hide. We have two exits that are locked from the outside only. People inside could still get out through them if needed.. Anyway, I locked the main doors. My boss told me later that he probably would have made the same decision. I'm second guessing myself now.

 

I have a headache and I'm hungry for comfort food that I don't have to cook. My daughters are attending a church function today so I'm home alone. I would appreciate kind words, and tell me was I right in locking the doors?

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(hugs)

 

What a day!

I'd have locked the doors too. Good job keeping your head!

I'd also be comforting myself with a lot of chocolate and probably a good cry to let out some of the terror.

Glad everyone is okay.

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How frightening! I'm glad no one was hurt. Sounds to me like you made the right choice. :grouphug:

 

You said the fighting was not unusual. Does this facility have any documented safety procedures or guidelines addressing "what to do in XYZ situation"? If not, perhaps this would be a good time to suggest that to your boss or whoever heads up the facility. That way, you and others don't have to second-guess yourselves the next time something like this happens. The matter of whether or not to lock the doors, and other safety precautions, can be clearly spelled out so that everyone knows exactly what to do.

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Thank you so much! I'm shaking now, but felt calmer then. Strange how our bodies react. My 21 yo co-worker told me I panicked, but I didn't. I was scared though. He didn't do anything, including informing our supervisor. I had to make the call, write the report, ask for names of witnesses (for the center, not for the police.) I've got some wonderful dark chocolate that I'm going to relish as soon as my tea has brewed.

 

I didn't know that it's harder to hit someone through a window. That's good to know, although I hope that I don't ever had to find out.

 

The center may have protocols in place. For fights, we call the police if necessary. Most of the fights are handled by the other players. I told my boss I will not attempt to break up a fight. I don't get paid that much. As for a situation such as this, I don't know if we have anything in place. At a different center in our area, a man threatened suicide in the parking lot. The police put the center in lock-down. I guess this was similar only the man escaped from our parking lot just as the police arrived. I'm just so thankful he was arrested and no one was hurt.

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I definitely think you did the right thing. :grouphug:

 

 

 

Thank you so much! I'm shaking now, but felt calmer then. Strange how our bodies react. My 21 yo co-worker told me I panicked, but I didn't. I was scared though. He didn't do anything, including informing our supervisor. I had to make the call, write the report, ask for names of witnesses (for the center, not for the police.) I've got some wonderful dark chocolate that I'm going to relish as soon as my tea has brewed.

 

I didn't know that it's harder to hit someone through a window. That's good to know, although I hope that I don't ever had to find out.

 

The center may have protocols in place. For fights, we call the police if necessary. Most of the fights are handled by the other players. I told my boss I will not attempt to break up a fight. I don't get paid that much. As for a situation such as this, I don't know if we have anything in place. At a different center in our area, a man threatened suicide in the parking lot. The police put the center in lock-down. I guess this was similar only the man escaped from our parking lot just as the police arrived. I'm just so thankful he was arrested and no one was hurt.

 

That sounds appropriate and even healthy! I'm afraid I would be in a fast food drive thru. :auto:

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I definitely think you did the right thing. :grouphug:

 

 

 

 

That sounds appropriate and even healthy! I'm afraid I would be in a fast food drive thru. :auto:

 

 

You have no idea how much I wanted to head for a drive thru and french fries! The saving grace was I did't want drive anywhere. The chocolate and tea were here.

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How scary! You did the right thing. I figure if the protocol for schools is to lock everything down when someone has a gun, it must be the safest choice. I would have done the same thing.

 

 

This is what I thought as well. I've never been in this type of situation before. It's hard to make fast decisions. Thankfully, all ended well this time. As much as I like my job, it doesn't feel safe now. No where is really.

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I guess I do not see where doing anything OTHER than locking the doors would have been any better. What you did is exactly what our public schools do whenever there is a threat anywhere in the vicinity of the school. Why should your facility handle a threat any differently? I believe a lock-down was the correct thing to do. Schools have glass windows, too. Unfortunately, they will not stop someone if they want to get in badly enough (i.e. Sandy Hook).

 

If you are still questioning protocol, why don't you call the officer that responded to your call. Did you get his name or card? I bet they could give you an idea of what they would suggest if something like this was to ever happen again.

 

Also, I really think you should have more faith in the action you decided to take in a crisis rather than listen to your 21-year-old co-worker's opinions of what he believes should have been done. If I were in that facility, I would have preferred that the doors have been locked if a man on an anger binge was in the parking lot. I think you did EXACTLY what should have been done.

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Thank you all! I really do believe I made the right decision. When I called the center supervisor, he kept asking me how long the doors were locked. He talked about the fire code. He was very concerned about the doors. At the end, he said he probably would have made the same decision. I guess his quizzing me has me second guessing myself. I can't see doing anything else under the circumstances. Strange that such a small thing would become center stage, not a potential shooter. I feel no one else there considers a man threatening to kill another man in our parking lot a serious matter. Thank you for letting me talk about it.

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