Mom in High Heels Posted March 19, 2013 Share Posted March 19, 2013 So yesterday was my and JB's 18th anniversary. It was our 11th anniversary apart. We got to Skype yesterday morning, but only for a short while. Still, it was better than nothing. I was mostly okay yesterday, just a little sad. I did try to drown my sorrow in wine and dark chocolate and felt much better. Anyway, today I've been really down. Aside from our anniversary, my 40th birthday is next week and Han Solo's 2nd birthday is the week after that and he will miss those too. He also missed my birthday and HS's 1st birthday last year. I'm just tired of it all. I knew what I was getting into when he decided to join the army (we were married a year before he joined), but I feel like we've had too much asked of us. He can retire in 3 more years, but if he gets promoted (which we both want because he'll get paid more and get more in retirement), he'll have to stay in even longer. Gah. It's all just too much right now. I'm tired and lonely and I just want JB'S around for our special days. Okay, enough self-pity. I hear dark chocolate calling my name. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happypamama Posted March 19, 2013 Share Posted March 19, 2013 I'm sorry. It is so unfair. It's not much to say thanks for the sacrifice you and your family make for the rest of us, but thank you, anyway. (((HUGS))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Mungo Posted March 19, 2013 Share Posted March 19, 2013 I understand, BTDT. I think towards the end of a career families start getting very, very tired of the sacrifices. My dh missed my son's crossover to Boy Scouts last night because he had to attend a "mandatory fun" work function. Really? That is bull. Sacrificing for the greater good, fine. It is the other stuff that I'm tired of. Bleh. We are less than 2 years from retirement unless he makes the next rank, which would add 3 years. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BlessedMom Posted March 19, 2013 Share Posted March 19, 2013 :grouphug: I am so sorry you are down. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tex-bex Posted March 19, 2013 Share Posted March 19, 2013 Hugs!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
justamouse Posted March 19, 2013 Share Posted March 19, 2013 Actually, it can be. My husband leaves the house before any of us are up. When he gets home, it's dinner, clean the kitchen, bathe the kids,and put them to bed. By the time each of us showered and ready for bed, he has about seven hours to sleep before starting over again. Most of his days off are spent with kids or giving me a break. I can't imagine expecting 15 hours acting like newlyweds every week. We both remember our childless days fondly and we look forward to our empty nest days. But right now, these moments are not just about us. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: I know it doesn't mean much, but thank you. For him, and for the real true stuff you sacrifice, like this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
twinmami01 Posted March 19, 2013 Share Posted March 19, 2013 ((((HUGS))))) I'm sorry. My husband is in law enforcement and I knew what I was getting into, yet it's still hard. No, I know that doesn't compare to the long stretches that you are away from your husband. I can't even imagine. Thank you for the sacrifice you and your family make for the rest of us. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hypatia. Posted March 19, 2013 Share Posted March 19, 2013 :grouphug: BTDT (DH is retired Navy), it's hard. Nothing to say other than I can empathize with how you feel, and I hope you have a nice supply of good dark chocolate and wine. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GailV Posted March 19, 2013 Share Posted March 19, 2013 :grouphug: That sucks. No words of wisdom, but I'm going to go eat some dark chocolate in your honor. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dandelion Posted March 19, 2013 Share Posted March 19, 2013 I'm sorry. :grouphug: BTDT too (including DH missing DD's birth due to a deployment). It can be so hard. Hope you can do something extra special to celebrate your 40th. Hang in there. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TammyinTN Posted March 19, 2013 Share Posted March 19, 2013 I know exactly what you mean. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dana Posted March 19, 2013 Share Posted March 19, 2013 :grouphug: Hope you have some of the really good chocolate! My father was army. My folks have their wedding anniversary and they also would celebrate a couple of months later so they'd hopefully be together at one point. I think the deployments nowadays are beyond ridiculous. It is nice that you've got better contact though... I was talking with my son today about how when I was 5 my father was in Korea for a year. I think due to expense he and my mother only talked on the phone two or three times that whole year. There were a lot of letters and audio tapes sent though! Thanks for your sacrifices. And it really sucks too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TraceyS/FL Posted March 19, 2013 Share Posted March 19, 2013 :grouphug: Thank you ALL for your sacrifices, from the bottom of my heart. My boyfriend isn't in the military, but his job has him on the road almost 300 days a year. It has been harder than I thought it would be, but it could be worse - at least we have a chance of seeing one another since he is in the states. Every time I think about wallowing, I think about all your military wives and it shuts me up. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Forget-Me-Not Posted March 19, 2013 Share Posted March 19, 2013 Hugs mama. Your sacrifices are appreciated. I'm sorry you're having a rough time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted March 20, 2013 Share Posted March 20, 2013 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: I admire your strength. I don't think I could bear it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
freeindeed Posted March 20, 2013 Share Posted March 20, 2013 ((Hugs)) I know it sucks. My oldest child is in the Army and has not been home the past three Christmases or for any other major holidays. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kroe1 Posted March 20, 2013 Share Posted March 20, 2013 Thank you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TN Mama Posted March 20, 2013 Share Posted March 20, 2013 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Let it all out, girl. I'm sorry, and I know it stinks. Thank you, JB and MiHH for your sacrifice. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Live2Ride Posted March 20, 2013 Share Posted March 20, 2013 I've been there as a military 'brat' :patriot: and as a wife. Hugs to you and thank you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ruby Rose Posted March 20, 2013 Share Posted March 20, 2013 That sucks! I'm sorry. :( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Another Lynn Posted March 20, 2013 Share Posted March 20, 2013 I'm sorry. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Starr Posted March 20, 2013 Share Posted March 20, 2013 :( I'm sorry. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AlmiraGulch Posted March 20, 2013 Share Posted March 20, 2013 Awwww, I'm sorry. I wish I had something constructive to say, but it just really stinks. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JuanitaL Posted March 20, 2013 Share Posted March 20, 2013 He can retire in 3 more years, but if he gets promoted (which we both want because he'll get paid more and get more in retirement), he'll have to stay in even longer. I'm commiserating with you. My husband had that "P" status, we retired anyway. He made considerably more in his first year as a civilian than he did at year 19+ active duty. That retirement check isn't huge, but we bought a very modest house and it takes care of the mortgage + utilities. It was a big, scary leap, but we're 18 months retired and very happy. (I do hate paying for groceries at WalMart, I really, really miss the commissary.) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lollie010 Posted March 20, 2013 Share Posted March 20, 2013 I get all upset when my husband is late getting home from work. I cannot imagine how handle so much responsibility. A huge thanks to your whole family! Hoping you are all together soon. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kfamily Posted March 20, 2013 Share Posted March 20, 2013 :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tammyla Posted March 20, 2013 Share Posted March 20, 2013 :grouphug: Big thank you to both of you. Military life does demand so much of families. I'm another BTDT retired now, who was very burned out the last few years. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jujsky Posted March 20, 2013 Share Posted March 20, 2013 :grouphug: I've said it before and I'll say it again. I have the utmost respect for military wives. You have a tough job and sacrifice so much. I don't have it in me to be that unselfish and self-sacrificing. Go have that chocolate. You deserve any little treat your heart desires to compensate for what you really want. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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