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I can't share an update yet. I went to sleep before she came home and she went to work before I awoke.

 

All I know is that they went to the Big City and had dinner at one of her favorite restaurants. He let her pick.

 

I am assuming since she was gone for a few hours (a two hour round trip was part of it) that she had fun.

 

DH and I did notice that they are both quite slender and wore similar outfits, including black fitted North Face Jackets. They looked like a couple of North Face catalogue models.

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Well, that's the end of that. DD deleted his phone number and told him to no longer call her.

 

It turns out that at the same time he was talking to DD he was talking to his ex-girlfriend. It's a long back story (and you must remember we live in a small town) but his ex-girlfriend is tied in with DGD's father's family. I guess once the exgf found out who the young man was interested in all he-- broke loose.

 

I am so sad. :( and angry and frustrated and could simply scream. Why is it that the lousy dog of a baby daddy can do whatever he pleases and DD cannot even go on one date without trouble or drama?

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:grouphug:

 

She sounds like she has excellent no-drama skills. Once she found out there would be drama - DELETE. This will really serve her in the future. This guy seemed great, but clearly he was not Mr. Right. He will arrive, ScoutermominIL, it's ok..... :grouphug:

 

Yes, this is an excellent trait! Avoiding drama is sometimes hard, but it pays off. Good for her! And sorry it ended that way. :(

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She can concentrate on her daughter and school for now, and the right man will come along at the right time.

 

 

This is what we tell her. Focus on her future, provide for her DD and continue to take the high road and everything will fall into place.

 

It's difficult for her, though, as all of her friends are out partying and having a grand ole time being college students.

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Well, that's the end of that. DD deleted his phone number and told him to no longer call her.

 

It turns out that at the same time he was talking to DD he was talking to his ex-girlfriend. It's a long back story (and you must remember we live in a small town) but his ex-girlfriend is tied in with DGD's father's family. I guess once the exgf found out who the young man was interested in all he-- broke loose.

 

I am so sad. :( and angry and frustrated and could simply scream. Why is it that the lousy dog of a baby daddy can do whatever he pleases and DD cannot even go on one date without trouble or drama?

 

 

Oh, wow.

 

What's wrong with people? Don't they have any manners anymore??? How dare he ignore your daughter and what, text? the ex-girlfriend? Or do you mean he told her they were still an item?

 

Confused about the babydaddy? It wasn't her date, right?

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Oh, wow.

 

What's wrong with people? Don't they have any manners anymore??? How dare he ignore your daughter and what, text? the ex-girlfriend? Or do you mean he told her they were still an item?

 

Confused about the babydaddy? It wasn't her date, right?

 

 

No, the guy she went out with isn't the baby's father. She didn't even know that this guy knew the father. This guy is from an even smaller town, went to a different high school and graduated a couple of years before DD and the baby's father.

 

From what I understand, he has been 'talking' to both girls over the last two weeks. He has been interested in DD for about the last 6 weeks or so (he met her at one of her jobs and has been coming in and talking to her). She checked out his FB page and looked through his available history and discovered they didn't have any mutual FB friends. She thought it would be okay so when he asked her out she said yes.

 

Evidently at some point during the date he confessed to DD who his exgf was and told her the exgf was trying to get back together with him and that they had been talking (via text I guess) during the evening. The exgf has ties to the baby's father as do some of the guy's other friends. :(

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Evidently at some point during the date he confessed to DD who his exgf was and told her the exgf was trying to get back together with him and that they had been talking (via text I guess) during the evening. The exgf has ties to the baby's father as do some of the guy's other friends. :(

 

He sounds like a real wimp to me. What kind of loser texts with his exgf while he's on a date with someone new?

 

The exgf sounds like a b*tch, but I don't blame her for this. All of the blame falls on the guy. He's the one who's letting his ex drag him around by the nose.

 

Thank goodness your dd saw the guy's true wimpy, cowardly colors before she got emotionally invested in a relationship with the guy.

 

I feel very sad for her, though. I think she needs to find a way to get out more and meet more people. I know it's really hard to do because of the baby, but even if she joined some kind of club that met once or twice a month, it would get her out there and meeting new people.

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He sounds like a real wimp to me. What kind of loser texts with his exgf while he's on a date with someone new?

Exactly.

The exgf sounds like a b*tch, but I don't blame her for this. All of the blame falls on the guy. He's the one who's letting his ex drag him around by the nose.

No, this girl has caused problems for DD in the past. It's on her. He told DD they broke up more than 7 months ago and it was only when she found out he was interested in DD that she entered the picture once again. My guess is as soon as she learns DD told him to get lost the other girl will be gone too.

Thank goodness your dd saw the guy's true wimpy, cowardly colors before she got emotionally invested in a relationship with the guy.

Yes, I am glad she did this all on her own and only told me after the fact.

I feel very sad for her, though. I think she needs to find a way to get out more and meet more people. I know it's really hard to do because of the baby, but even if she joined some kind of club that met once or twice a month, it would get her out there and meeting new people.

 

I had hoped she would meet someone nice at her LAC. She says it is difficult with her work schedule and not living on campus. (I know there was a thread about commuter students and their unique difficulties a few weeks back).

My dream for her is to meet a guy from some other state, who knows nothing about the local social scene or hangs out with townies.

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No, this girl has caused problems for DD in the past. It's on her. He told DD they broke up more than 7 months ago and it was only when she found out he was interested in DD that she entered the picture once again. My guess is as soon as she learns DD told him to get lost the other girl will be gone too.

 

But it still isn't the other girl's fault.

 

OK, she's A Mean Girl who has a grudge against your dd, so she went after this guy to try to hurt your dd. It was a lousy thing to do.

 

But the thing is... the guy could have told the other girl to get lost. And he didn't.

 

So ultimately, the guy is to blame. It could have been any other ex-girlfriend and he may have done the same thing. The Mean Girl isn't in control of what the guy did. It was his choice to choose Mean Girl over your dd.

 

If you think about it, Mean Girl did your dd a huge favor. I know she thinks she won out over your dd, but what she really did is show your dd that the guy wasn't worth getting involved with.

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