Kari C in SC Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 I'm very sorry. Please be very gentle to yourself. I understand the guilt feeling from when my son passed away. The last thing I said to him when he called that afternoon was that I was busy and would call him back. Only, I never did call him back. I remember thinking about that literally in the first couple of minutes after I found out he had died. Grief brings guilt and you just need to remember that you did the best you could and find your way to peace. That is going to take a long time and you just do what you can when you can. Many hugs to you and your family. Please come back here and share whatever you need because you need friends. We are all here to help you through that. Quote
HRAAB Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 I am so sorry for your loss. :grouphug: Quote
Heatherwith4 Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 I'm so sorry. Many hugs and prayers for you and your family. :grouphug: Quote
mom2samlibby Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 I'm so, so sorry. Please let go of the guilt. Your children needed you too at this time. Take care of yourself and your sweet children. :grouphug: Quote
Stayseeliz Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 I am so very sorry for your loss! I will be praying for you and your family!! Quote
Annie Laurie Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 I am so very sorry for your loss. :grouphug: Quote
BrookValley. Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 :crying: No words, just hugs. :grouphug: Quote
UnsinkableKristen Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 I am so sorry. My prayers are with you today. Quote
twinmami01 Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 (((((HUGS))))) I am so sorry for your loss. Quote
G5052 Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 I'm so sorry to hear this. And consider how you were there for him and supported him through this last stage. The guilt of missing the very end must be horrible, but take comfort in the overall picture of care you provided. It sounds like no one expected it this soon. You did what you could. Quote
delaney Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 Wow I am so sorry that it all happened so fast. Not easy either way, but still. Quote
Kirch Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 I'm so, sosorry. You and your family are in my prayers. Quote
Crimson Wife Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 I am so sorry for your loss. Praying for you, your family, and your DH's soul :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote
brehon Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 I'm so very sorry. My family will keep your family in our thoughts and prayers. ((( )))) Requiescant in pace. Quote
myfunnybunch Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 I am so, so sorry for your loss. Quote
littlebug42 Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 I am so sorry for your loss. :grouphug: Quote
DianeW88 Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 My heart is broken for you. :crying: You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers. :grouphug: Quote
PrincessMommy Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 I'm so very sorry to see this and I'm sorry that you couldn't be there. You're right, sometimes you just don't know how quickly it will happen. Don't beat yourself up about it (yeah, I know, easier said than done). :grouphug: Quote
Lady Florida. Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 Oh, I'm so sorry. :grouphug: :grouphug: Please don't kick yourself over anything you think you should/should not have done. I think the organ donation was a good decision. My heart is breaking for you and your kids. More hugs. :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote
Lisa in SC Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 I'm so so sorry for your loss. There are no words. Hugs. Quote
sbgrace Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 I am so, so sorry. I don't know if it might help you but when my sister lost her husband in a car accident she found support on this forum for young widows. http://www.youngwidow.org/ She did join a real life widow group too but finding those who also lost spouses while young online was helpful I know. The other thing I know is that guilt feeling is so often a part of the grief--I know that doesn't help process your own feelings. Quote
Flowing Brook Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 I am so sorry for your loss. :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote
momto5blessings Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 I am so sorry. Pamela :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote
catz Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 :grouphug: I am so incredibly sorry. Thinking of you and your family. Quote
gardenmom5 Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 You have my deepest condolences. :grouphug: Quote
Twinmom Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 I am so, so very sorry for your loss. Do not allow yourself to feel guilty...you did nothing wrong. Grieve your husband with a clear conscience, knowing that he knew how very much he was loved. My prayers are with your family. Quote
tex-bex Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 So, so, so sorry. Take care of yourselves. Your grief will come in waves, so be prepared to feel ok one minute, and totally lose it the next. Again, I am so very sorry. I cannot even imagine... Quote
BridgeTea Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 Hugs for you and all your dear family. I'm so sorry you've lost your husband. Luke sounds like a lovely man, and you've honored him well already, sharing his story, taking care of his children, and making all the hard decisions concerning his care and the organ donations. May you find some comfort and a measure of peace in the days ahead as you and the children love on each other, recalling the sweet times. :grouphug: Quote
Ali in OR Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 I'm so sorry. Please don't feel guilty. You were there for him and did all that you could do. Praying for you and your family. Quote
pdalley Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 :grouphug: Please don't beat yourself up. My Mother - the hospice nurse told me she'd seen this before - was waiting for all of us to leave and she was not conscious at the time - hadn't been for close to two weeks. I am so sorry for your loss. Quote
ashfern Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 :grouphug: I'm so sorry for your loss. Quote
texasmama Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 So, so sorry for your loss. :grouphug: Please be very gentle with yourself as you look back on the events of the past few days, knowing that you balanced everyone's needs as best you could, not knowing the future. Much love and many hugs to you and your family. Quote
charcat13 Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 So very sorry for this tremendous loss. Praying for your family. Quote
Swimtaxi234 Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 And so I said no to some other things to compromise and yes to those. But now I don't know if it was the right thing to do or not. I just felt like something good should come out of this. My heart goes out to you for your compassion for others in your complete time of grief. We will send continued prayers for your family. Quote
Just Kate Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 I am praying for you right now. I am so very sorry. :grouphug: Quote
Jennay Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 Oh, I am so sorry. Tears and prayers for you and your family. Quote
jrn Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: I'm soooo sorry for your loss. Quote
Jilly Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 My deepest condolences to you and your family. :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote
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