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I already told the kids and the teacher; no backing down now.

 

How horrible am I?

 

I am just so sick of the lack of discipline my kids display in school. And the sugar. Dang sugar! Why do they have to give kids sugar all the time? Today they made pancakes for "Shrove Tuesday" (?) and of course they ate it with pancake syrup - before classes. Needless to say, my kid got a bad report from each teacher she worked with today - even Mrs. Chapter 1 (or is it Title 1?).

 

No. More. Sugar. At. School.

 

How many more days until vacation????

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Yeah, sugar makes my girls go nuts, too.

 

And Shrove Tuesday is an alternative name for Fat Tuesday - aka the day before Ash Wednesday. There's some theological significance behind the name, but I don't know what it is.

 

Eta: Pancakes are traditional for Shrove Tuesday because they were a way to use up all the rich food in the house before Lent (and the Lenten fast).

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I'm so sorry. I feel exactly the same way, but I'm guessing we're in the minority.

 

Three of my four kids are consistently out of control at parties. They just can't handle the over stimulation. I do my best to avoid them, which puts us on the black list.

 

I detest the pouring on of sugar at school (church is a problem for me!) It makes my kids act crazy and causes dental problems. I have begun a candy buy-back program with my kids. Whatever they bring me from parties, I buy by the pound for a very good price. I got the idea from their dentist, and they all love it, even the 7 year-old.

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I wish I knew how many other kids in the class have problems with this. I get the impression my kid is the only one. I can understand people not wanting to keep a whole class from having a fun treat just because one kid has a problem with it. But at the same time, I don't like my kid being set up for failure so often. I don't even want them having the sugar at the end of the day, because it messes with their after-school extracurriculars. I get an email from the piano teacher or see her act like a fool in karate.

 

I plan to send some stevia-sweetened candy as a substitute once we get done testing it at home for taste and side effects. Now if they could have a nice stretch of "good days," the candy testing could recommence . . . .

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This is the last scheduled party of the year for my DD9's class, but for next year, could you get a class email list together at the start of the school year and send out a general "lets work together to make healthy snack choices" type of letter?

Our teachers do this by having a sign-up sheet at open house for each party with line options to bring in either fruit, cheese & crackers, vegetables, plain popcorn or pretzels and water only to drink. So far the parents have all been respectful of this request!

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This is the last scheduled party of the year for my DD9's class, but for next year, could you get a class email list together at the start of the school year and send out a general "lets work together to make healthy snack choices" type of letter?

Our teachers do this by having a sign-up sheet at open house for each party with line options to bring in either fruit, cheese & crackers, vegetables, plain popcorn or pretzels and water only to drink. So far the parents have all been respectful of this request!

 

The more I think about it, I'll bet many parents would appreciate that.

 

I'll have to give it some thought. As a working mom, I don't have a lot of contacts with the teachers or other parents. I always feel reluctant to impose my preferences on others.

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Our teacher took away the class party all together because of behavior problems. She said she couldn't reward the bad behavior consitently exhibited in class with a party. It ranged from being wound up to out right bullying. Since nearly the whole class was participating in not behaving she took the whole party away. She had to threaten them with the Christmas party as well because of behavior and they only had 1 letter left to lose before they lost the party and had to have the principal come talk to the class about behavior. Dd seems to have a very wound up class of kids but when they have parties most of the treats are sent home rather than eaten at school.

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Re Shrove Tuesday - the theological significance is that people used to be shriven (ie make their confession and receive absolution) so as to be right with God for Lent. Also they'd use up the food that they won't be eating during the Lenten period of fasting. I've also heard it called Pancake Day but never heard of Fat Tuesday before.

 

Re junk food and sugar, we have the same problem with dd's Guides (Girl Scouts) group. I laughed when she brought home a load of information on Healthy Eating, because she gets more sugary junk there than anywhere else.

 

Re candy buy-back scheme, do your kids try to buy the candy themselves and sell it to you at a profit? Because I'm pretty sure that's what mine would do. (Maybe my kids are more machiavellian than normal?)

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Fat Tuesday is the english translation of Mardi Gras, as Shrove Tuesday is known in places with a French influence (like New Orleans).

Ah, of course!

(I sort of knew that in the back of my mind somewhere. Being Australian, Mardi Gras is all about gay pride etc because of the big Sydney festival, so I forgot what it really means.)_

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How to deal with kids bringing cupcakes for birthday parties? And candy given by teachers as a reward? And junk at soccer games? It goes on and on. I have just started homeschooling. Being able to control the food intake has been a nice advantage so far.

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Our school has those parties at the end of the school day, so wired kids are their parents problem, not teachers. Let's just say I am not looking forward to tons of candy that's going to come home tomorrow.

 

Our school has those parties at the end of the school day, so wired kids are their parents problem, not teachers. Let's just say I am not looking forward to tons of candy that's going to come home tomorrow.1.jpg28.jpg3.jpg5.jpg4.jpg29.jpg

 

Second post reported.

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I saw this blog devoted to getting rid of junk food in school, and thought of this thread.

 

Too bad this wasn't available at the time of the Cupcake Thread of Epic Proportion, LOL.

 

Teacher finally seems to be on board with not giving my kid candy. She gave her a substitute when a classmate brought in a birthday treat. I feel sad for my dd for not being able to partake of such things that she LOVES (because sugar would be her life if it was up to her). But sometimes we have to do hard things.

 

Been sending Stevia-sweetened candy in her backpack this week for an after-school treat. So far so good. Though I did get a note from the piano teacher. :/ But the note ended positively as my dd "turned it around" thanks to not being sugared up. There seems to be hope (dare I say).

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OK, here's a bit of insanity for you, my son reported the other day that he was given play money for eating his snack (fruit salad) at school. On further questioning, I discovered that his teacher 'pays' the kids whenever they eat something 'healthy' from their lunchbox. OK, I kind of get that. But, guess what happens when they have accumulated a given number of dollars? They can redeem them for a reward, and one of the rewards is junk food. Yes, the kids are being given junk food as a reward for choosing healthy food!

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OK, here's a bit of insanity for you, my son reported the other day that he was given play money for eating his snack (fruit salad) at school. On further questioning, I discovered that his teacher 'pays' the kids whenever they eat something 'healthy' from their lunchbox. OK, I kind of get that. But, guess what happens when they have accumulated a given number of dollars? They can redeem them for a reward, and one of the rewards is junk food. Yes, the kids are being given junk food as a reward for choosing healthy food!

 

 

Why doesn't this surprise me?

 

What is it about schools that generates so much foolishness?

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