Only me Posted February 4, 2008 Share Posted February 4, 2008 My nephew graduated early from high school last month. He will be leaving in a few weeks for several months of missionary training. My brother called last night to say that they are having a graduation party next weekend and that we are invited. This is the first party (graduation or otherwise) that we have been invited to in the past 14 years. His older sister graduated 2 years ago and they never invited us to that party. We only see my brother and his family twice a year (Thanksgiving and Christmas). We get along ok but for reasons I won't get into here the relationship isn't very close even though they live 1/2 hour away from us. At first my dh didn't want to go because he feels that they are just inviting us so that we will give my nephew money. I think that they are probably inviting us because my mom asked him to. They are having the party at a restaurant. My dh and I were discussing how much we should give nephew (I still have no clue what is appropriate). I said that we also have to take into consideration how much it will cost us for the meal since there are 5 of us. My dh says that there is no way that we should have to pay for our food since it is a graduation party and that my brother should take care of the bill. I don't want to argue with my dh but I'm sure that my brother isn't planning on paying. They are also inviting my sil's family, which is pretty big and my brother has 4 kids. If we don't pay then I'm sure my dad will step in and offer to pay for everyone. My dad doesn't have that kind of money so I don't want to put him in that situation. Of course if my brother is expecting to get money for my nephew to help with his mission training it's not going to help very much if he has to pay so much for the restaurant bill. I'm really torn about what to do. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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