Julie in CA Posted January 20, 2013 Share Posted January 20, 2013 Tell me that I can't leave them, and that even if I'm completely emotionally and mentally unhinged..that I can still help them somehow...? Trying to hit my knees, but the words won't come. Tomorrow is the day at church too. And yes, it really does need to happen this way. If you're a pray-er, pray that I'll retain some semblance of dignity, ok? This is going to be one of the hardest things I will ever do. Just keep breathing, right? Why does that sound like too much to ask? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
saraha Posted January 20, 2013 Share Posted January 20, 2013 :crying: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
VinNY Posted January 20, 2013 Share Posted January 20, 2013 Yes they need you even if you are unhinged. You will not always be in that state. I will be praying and thinking about you all weekend. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted January 20, 2013 Share Posted January 20, 2013 Yes, they need you. And you don't have to be super-mom to be what they need. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Romans 8:26 In the same way the Spirit also helps our weakness; for we do not know how to pray as we should, but the Spirit Himself intercedes for us with groanings too deep for words; Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heatherwith4 Posted January 20, 2013 Share Posted January 20, 2013 Julie, yes they need you. I'm praying strength for you. I'm so sorry. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest inoubliable Posted January 20, 2013 Share Posted January 20, 2013 Sending love and strength your way, Julie. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Impish Posted January 20, 2013 Share Posted January 20, 2013 yes, they need you. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted January 20, 2013 Share Posted January 20, 2013 hugs and more hugs :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: you are constantly in my thoughts Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Janie Grace Posted January 20, 2013 Share Posted January 20, 2013 Your presence is what helps them. You are their bedrock of love, even if you feel completely weak. You don't have to do; just what you ARE is enough. Praying for you. The Spirit intercedes for us... it's okay if you don't have the words. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Just Kate Posted January 20, 2013 Share Posted January 20, 2013 Of course they need you. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Praying for you now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dandelion Posted January 20, 2013 Share Posted January 20, 2013 They need you. You can do this, even though it feels impossible right now. Praying for you, Julie. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chelle in MO Posted January 20, 2013 Share Posted January 20, 2013 Yes, Julie, they need you SO MUCH. Just who you are. Not perfect. Only human. I sent you a message. Well, actually 2 because my computer spazzed. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
celticmom Posted January 20, 2013 Share Posted January 20, 2013 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Julie in CA Posted January 20, 2013 Author Share Posted January 20, 2013 I'm pretty sure I'm scaring them... :-( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
catz Posted January 20, 2013 Share Posted January 20, 2013 :grouphug: Of course they need you! Sending you strength and peace. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Starr Posted January 20, 2013 Share Posted January 20, 2013 Not only do they need you but they love you. I'm praying for you and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harriet Vane Posted January 20, 2013 Share Posted January 20, 2013 Dear Julie, yes, they need you. Keep breathing, keep loving them. :grouphug: Come to Me, all who are weary and heavy-laden, and I will give you rest. Matthew 11:28 God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble. Therefore we will not fear, though the earth should change, And though the mountains slip into the heart of the sea; Though its waters roar and foam, Though the mountains quake at its swelling pride. There is a river whose streams make glad the city of God, The holy dwelling places of the Most High. God is in the midst of her, she will not be moved; God will help her when the morning dawns. Psalm 46: 1-5 And a song that has been personally meaningful when I walked through a dark night of the soul: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anne in CA Posted January 20, 2013 Share Posted January 20, 2013 They need you. They need you to be a good example of how to have grace when the unexpected tears your world apart. But that doesn't make it any easier. I am just sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chelle in MO Posted January 20, 2013 Share Posted January 20, 2013 I'm pretty sure I'm scaring them... :-( It's a scary time, Julie. Do the best you can. Kids are resilient. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chelle in MO Posted January 20, 2013 Share Posted January 20, 2013 I was sure by now God You would have reached down And wiped our tears away Stepped in and saved the day But once again, I say "Amen", and it's still raining As the thunder rolls I barely hear Your whisper through the rain "I'm with you" And as Your mercy falls I raise my hands and praise the God who gives And takes away [Chorus:] And I'll praise You in this storm And I will lift my hands For You are who You are No matter where I am And every tear I've cried You hold in Your hand You never left my side And though my heart is torn I will praise You in this storm I remember when I stumbled in the wind You heard my cry to you And you raised me up again My strength is almost gone How can I carry on If I can't find You But as the thunder rolls I barely hear You whisper through the rain "I'm with you" And as Your mercy falls I raise my hands and praise the God who gives And takes away [Chorus] I lift my eyes unto the hills Where does my help come from? My help comes from the Lord The Maker of Heaven and Earth Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PhotoGal Posted January 20, 2013 Share Posted January 20, 2013 Sending you strength! Your children will someday go through crisis. They may feel broken, out of control, and devestated. But they will know that other people have gone through tough times, too - and come through to the other side. It is okay for them to see you upset and they will also see you as you start to feel better (which you WILL!). Hang in there! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JudoMom Posted January 20, 2013 Share Posted January 20, 2013 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GailV Posted January 20, 2013 Share Posted January 20, 2013 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kalanamak Posted January 20, 2013 Share Posted January 20, 2013 I know someone who lost a spouse through a suicide. He said that being a parent was the easiest part of the whole thing: you just kept doing what they needed. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kalypso Posted January 20, 2013 Share Posted January 20, 2013 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kalypso Posted January 20, 2013 Share Posted January 20, 2013 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Truscifi Posted January 20, 2013 Share Posted January 20, 2013 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lllll Posted January 20, 2013 Share Posted January 20, 2013 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Will be praying, Julie. And they do need you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Whereneverever Posted January 20, 2013 Share Posted January 20, 2013 They need you. They need you today and will need you tomorrow, and the day after that. God be with you, Julie. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hen Posted January 20, 2013 Share Posted January 20, 2013 praying for you. You can do this, God will be your strength, He already is your strength you just need to lean on him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
1bassoon Posted January 20, 2013 Share Posted January 20, 2013 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sbgrace Posted January 20, 2013 Share Posted January 20, 2013 I am praying for you, your situation, and your kids Julie. God holds you even when you can't feel His arms. The Spirit prays for you when you can't find words. He is so very near. What a beautiful song Harriet posted and so very true. He will bring beauty from this pain. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happi duck Posted January 20, 2013 Share Posted January 20, 2013 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QueenCat Posted January 20, 2013 Share Posted January 20, 2013 :grouphug: Julie :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QueenCat Posted January 20, 2013 Share Posted January 20, 2013 :grouphug: Julie :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SpecialClassical Posted January 20, 2013 Share Posted January 20, 2013 Your kids need you to be you, no matter how emotional you are. They need to see you being the strong, faithful person that you are. It is not weak to grieve and be angry. It is healthy and necessary. Praying for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QueenCat Posted January 20, 2013 Share Posted January 20, 2013 :grouphug: Julie :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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pdalley Posted January 20, 2013 Share Posted January 20, 2013 :grouphug: Julie, they need you. I'm praying for you to have strength and whatever else you need. Sometimes God does not ask us to fight the battle but to merely stand and allow him to do it for us. Stand. Breathe. You are strong. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KrissiK Posted January 20, 2013 Share Posted January 20, 2013 Hugs, Julie. God will see you through this! It may not seem like it at the time, but the promises in the Word are for you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Desert Rat Posted January 20, 2013 Share Posted January 20, 2013 They need you, Julie. Not a perfect you. Just you. And letting them see a weaker side of you may help them understand human nature, compassion and kindness, too. I'll be thinking of you tomorrow. I'm so sorry you all have to go through this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
treestarfae Posted January 20, 2013 Share Posted January 20, 2013 Of course they do and you need yourself too. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Perry Posted January 20, 2013 Share Posted January 20, 2013 Oh Julie. :crying: Yes, they need you very much. It will get better. I promise. Have you seen your doctor? There are things that can help you get through a crisis. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest submarines Posted January 20, 2013 Share Posted January 20, 2013 I'm sorry to be blunt, but are you talking about suicide, or about leaving them with your husband as you leave him? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
justamouse Posted January 20, 2013 Share Posted January 20, 2013 (((hugs))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Halftime Hope Posted January 20, 2013 Share Posted January 20, 2013 They do need you, Julie. Not only because someday they will remember that God's strength was your lifeline, even when you felt like you would drown, but because they need a chance to spread their wings and be a help to you when you have a need. Their pain may be deep, but they need to both cling to you and stand next to you, and just by doing that with you, they will grow in strength as you will. You may need to summon everyone together and tell them that at the moment you honestly don't have hope, but that you know that God is true and faithful, and that you are counting on that because you "know whom you have believed." I have lived through something devastating, and it's most certainly a "I feel x, but I know y" situation. One other thing: I heard a prominent Christian pyschologist talk once about his divorce. He said that the only thing that brought him through was walking. When he could do nothing else, barely dragging himself out of bed, he walked, and the walking brought physical relief (endorphins) that enabled him to carry on another few hours. I don't know if you think that would help, but it might. Hugs! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denise in IN Posted January 20, 2013 Share Posted January 20, 2013 Not only do they need you but they love you. I'm praying for you and your family. This. They do need you, and while you may be at a really rocky place right now, you won't always be there. I am praying for you tonight and will continue to pray through tomorrow. The Lord give you strength. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eagle Posted January 20, 2013 Share Posted January 20, 2013 Isn't the church thing tomorrow about your husband? Do you really have to go too? **hugs**. Your children need you just like you need them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elfgivas Posted January 20, 2013 Share Posted January 20, 2013 Your kids need you, both to comfort them and so that they can comfort you. That turns this from something happening to them to something they can do something about (caring for you). Remember Jesus asking God to PLease take this cup from me? it wasn't one of the options, but several times in my life i have related to it oh so well. :grouphug: ann Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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