TXMomof4 Posted July 25, 2008 Share Posted July 25, 2008 Well, today is the day. DH left this morning and while we will get to see him a few more times, he won't be home for a very long time (National Guard deployment). So, he was home all week, I was feeling very pitiful and miserable and basically wallowing in my own grumpiness. Yesterday a friend called and asked us to lunch, and while we couldn't yesterday we made plans to go swimming today. I got home and told the girls we would be going to swim today and my 6 yo says...."yeah! We do get to do something fun for my birthday!" That's right. Today is also my sweet middle dd's 7th birthday. The child who wouldn't call attention to herself for the world turned 7 at 7:15 this am. And I had forgotten. We did do a special Daddy/daughter day for her last week with DH, but still.....how horribly self-centered of me to forget! So last night I ran to Target and tried to buy my way out of guilt, and luckily my sweet friend didn't completely berate me when I called her at 9:00 last night and explained that we would be having a "party" at her pool today. DD will probably never know how awful I am, but what a stinky way to start this whole long deal. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lori in tx Posted July 25, 2008 Share Posted July 25, 2008 OHH honey don't feel bad, you have had things going on. you are going to miss your dh and I am sure your friend understands how you could forget. This is going to be a very hard time for you and you were dreading it all week anybody would/could have forgotten it. ((((TxMomof4))) blessings lori Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brigitte Posted July 25, 2008 Share Posted July 25, 2008 Don't beat yourself up over this. It happens when life gets out of control. While I didn't forget my twins' birthday this year, I did realize the day before that I had yet to buy any gifts for them. So, the morning of I was out shopping like a mad woman. I am sure your dd will have a great birthday and she will likely even say what my girls did, which was "This was the best birthday ever!" Little did they know. edit: The gifts weren't what made the day so great in their eyes, btw. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kathleen in VA Posted July 25, 2008 Share Posted July 25, 2008 Well, I may be crazy for saying this;), but it seems to me that you've had a few things on your mind lately - like your precious husband (can't use dh here, sorry) leaving for a not-so-nice place for a very long time. I'm thinking you might be allowed to have one or two slip ups here and there. Ladies, am I right on this one? :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mom2legomaniacs Posted July 25, 2008 Share Posted July 25, 2008 Awww, don't feel bad! You had much bigger things on your head and heart. And you did get the information in time. That's the important thing! I still haven't made my son the cake he wanted for his birthday that was a month ago.:blush:. Nor have I done the party he wanted to do. We celebrated with lunch out and special dessert there. But I still need make that cake. So, can I join you in that feeling? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ashleen Posted July 25, 2008 Share Posted July 25, 2008 :grouphug: I know this breaks your mom heart, but I'm sure she'll have a great time swimming and she'll enjoy her birthday. I know that you're hurting more over it than she is. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RoughCollie Posted July 25, 2008 Share Posted July 25, 2008 You know what, you aren't the worst mother -- or a bad mother at all. You forgot because so much other very important stuff was going on. Besides, I can give you hundreds of examples in about half an hour of bad mothers -- and you don't even come close, nowhere near it. Heck, all you have to do is read the news to keep this in perspective. The worst mother in a situation like this would have realized she'd forgotten and said, too bad, so sad. You did something about it and saved the day! I'd say that makes you a great Mom. RC Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dayle in Guatemala Posted July 25, 2008 Share Posted July 25, 2008 As someone who was born on Dec. 23rd and had a LOT of birthdays forgotten, I can tell you that I'm still a well-adjusted, basically happy adult who doesn't resent the fact that I was born at a really bad time. :grouphug:Don't be too hard on yourself. As you say, she will never know and you feeling guilty about it isn't going to make it better. Just relax, enjoy the day and your beautiful dd. You had a rough week, it's understandable that things will fall through the cracks. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Just Me Posted July 25, 2008 Share Posted July 25, 2008 Aww...I think you are a great mom to go to the extra effort to run out and get gifts and plan a pool party at the last minute. Tell your sweet girl that the "Pool Party" was a surprise for her that you let slip. You aren't lying, it is a surprise - to both her and you! My boy turns 13 tomorrow, and he says to wish your girl a very happy day! :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elegantlion Posted July 25, 2008 Share Posted July 25, 2008 You know what that tells me? You are raising beautiful unselfish children. She may be wise beyond her years. At her age she already sees that there is more to life than "it's all about me". :grouphug: enjoy your day. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
swellmomma Posted July 25, 2008 Share Posted July 25, 2008 YOu aren't the worst mommy. Your dd will never know that it slipped your mind temporarily. I have to say too that in my family we don't do big parties for the kids, it feels like a gift grab so we do something smaller just as a family. Anyway last year after going out for the boys birthday, Auntie surprised them with a pinata, and we just went door to door asking for kids to come out and break it. My oldest still talks about how that impromptu "party" was the best birthday he ever had. It was not planned, it was a surprise for me as much as him but it was his favorite. You may find the same thing happens for your dd, while it was not a planned party you may find it is her favorite birthday ever. That same son won't be having a party at all this year, he will be spending his 10th b-day in Disneyland without me. Have fun at the pool tomorrow, we will be at Chuck E cheese for dd's 9th birthday tomorrow, and that was only decided upon on wednesday so no big planning there. Happy b-day to your dd. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gretchen in NJ Posted July 25, 2008 Share Posted July 25, 2008 That is one beautiful little girl you have there. You are doing a wonderful job. Bless her little soul. She is a sweetie. :grouphug:For you Mom!:grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GSMP Posted July 25, 2008 Share Posted July 25, 2008 Well, I may be crazy for saying this;), but it seems to me that you've had a few things on your mind lately - like your precious husband (can't use dh here, sorry) leaving for a not-so-nice place for a very long time. I'm thinking you might be allowed to have one or two slip ups here and there. Ladies, am I right on this one? :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: :iagree: just give yourself a hug and realize what you did was a Mommy pulling a rabbit out of her hat. You did good and don't worry about it. She probably didn't even realize and thought that maybe the pool was a surprise.....:grouphug::grouphug: and lots of them..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laurie4b Posted July 25, 2008 Share Posted July 25, 2008 Hey! You recovered well! That's what counts! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sadiegirl Posted July 25, 2008 Share Posted July 25, 2008 Don't beat yourself up. I find as moms we tend to focus on our mistakes and kids are so willing to see the positive in most cirumstances. She sounds like she will have a great day swimming and she is lucky to have the best gift...that of a mom that loves her and cares so much about her. Enjoy the day with your daughter and our prayers are with you and your husband thru the time ahead for you. good luck! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ticklbee Posted July 25, 2008 Share Posted July 25, 2008 Well, today is the day. DH left this morning and while we will get to see him a few more times, he won't be home for a very long time (National Guard deployment). So, he was home all week, I was feeling very pitiful and miserable and basically wallowing in my own grumpiness. Yesterday a friend called and asked us to lunch, and while we couldn't yesterday we made plans to go swimming today. I got home and told the girls we would be going to swim today and my 6 yo says...."yeah! We do get to do something fun for my birthday!" That's right. Today is also my sweet middle dd's 7th birthday. The child who wouldn't call attention to herself for the world turned 7 at 7:15 this am. And I had forgotten. We did do a special Daddy/daughter day for her last week with DH, but still.....how horribly self-centered of me to forget! So last night I ran to Target and tried to buy my way out of guilt, and luckily my sweet friend didn't completely berate me when I called her at 9:00 last night and explained that we would be having a "party" at her pool today. DD will probably never know how awful I am, but what a stinky way to start this whole long deal. Everything is working out, your dd will have a great day and you have a great story to tell her in a few years that will make you both laugh. I bet she has NO idea that you even forgot. My oldest dd starts talking about her b'day months in advance, so I have no opportunity to forget! :tongue_smilie: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Remudamom Posted July 25, 2008 Share Posted July 25, 2008 Don't beat yourself up. Just be glad you got a chance to cover your donkey and she'll be none the wiser. Go have fun. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sweetpeach Posted July 25, 2008 Share Posted July 25, 2008 Ahhhhhhhhh. :grouphug: I'd have forgotten my daughter's b-day too, if my dh were heading away for a long time. In fact, I have . . . during our national convention at Mahone Bay a few years back . . . my dd turned 3 and I completely **completely** forgot. Praying peace on you and your family . . . safety over your husband. Warmly, Tricia Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brindee Posted July 25, 2008 Share Posted July 25, 2008 You know what that tells me? You are raising beautiful unselfish children. She may be wise beyond her years. At her age she already sees that there is more to life than "it's all about me". :grouphug: enjoy your day. :iagree: You're doing fine! It's okay! All of us have had our own "special moments" like this of some sort, so, sorry to tell you, I can't vote for you for worst mom of the year award! And that's said with sincerity and love! :001_smile: Here are some more :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: for you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TXMomof4 Posted July 25, 2008 Author Share Posted July 25, 2008 Thanks for all of your encouragement. She did have a great time today and was thrilled with her time with friends. We're going to attempt a movie this evening with the 2 yo brother in tow (nicknamed the Destroyer), so it will be interesting and quite the adventure. Again, thanks for helping me put this in perspective. Last night, it was the end of the world. Today, it's just another crazy day in our family with things going kattywompus like they always do. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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