lynn Posted December 27, 2012 Share Posted December 27, 2012 Thanks for the responses. I just needed to vent. It is hard not to get on siblings case but then again its none of business. I'l work on not saying anything unless I am asked to. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AK_Mom4 Posted December 27, 2012 Share Posted December 27, 2012 I don't know about keeping the peace. But assuming that everyone involved is a mentally competant adult, then to whom your parents loan money and how it gets spent is probably none of your business. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Impish Posted December 27, 2012 Share Posted December 27, 2012 It's up to your parents. Honestly, I don't know why you'd know about the loans to start w/. *That* seems to be putting you in an incredibly awkward position, itself. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lil' maids in a row Posted December 27, 2012 Share Posted December 27, 2012 I don't know about keeping the peace. But assuming that everyone involved is a mentally competant adult, then to whom your parents loan money and how it gets spent is probably none of your business. I agree with this. Although it would be very hard keep quiet, I think it would be best. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bettyandbob Posted December 27, 2012 Share Posted December 27, 2012 No, unless mom and dad are in financial need and they actually cannot handle "loaning" money. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lllll Posted December 27, 2012 Share Posted December 27, 2012 .. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tex-mex Posted December 27, 2012 Share Posted December 27, 2012 Having been the reciepient of such a "loan" by parents (in-laws), I have to say it is best to keep siblings OUT of the loop. The least they know, the better. Many times the loan was for emergencies. Other times, my in-laws simply wanted to bless us by paying off a car note or student loan -- which completely surprised us and we did not ask for. They did not want to be paid back a dime. And with the savings of the monthly payments, suddenly we had a lot more $$ in the budget -- which was very nice. But the understanding was to not share this with my SIL, whom would not handle the news too well as she might see it as sibling rivalry. I know when my son grows up, I would like to surprise him and his wife by the same generousity if I am financially capable of it. But I would prefer my $$ gift (or loan) to be private and not known to others. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SKL Posted December 27, 2012 Share Posted December 27, 2012 I used to give my mom a lot of money and she'd turn around and "lend" it to my siblings. Did I like it? No. Did I say anything about it to those involved? No. They are all adults and entitled to make their own mistakes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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