HappyLady Posted December 24, 2012 Share Posted December 24, 2012 He's in his mid 50s and has been married for 2 years. It's his first marriage. Since he's been with wife, he's always gotten her lousy gifts. She smiles and thanks him for them, but then tells me how she really feels. Well, I'm guessing I'm going to get an earful this year. My BIL called my DH a bit ago for help with some ideas for gifts. Yes, he's shopping NOW for his wife. First he said he was going to buy a cover for my SIL's Kindle. My DH told him that she already has one (really?? He doesn't know this and my DH does??). Then he said he'd "find something" and they hung up. He called back just now and said he bought his wife a boom box docking station for an iPod and iPhone. That would be great if she had EITHER of those things! My DH told him he should take it back and get something she can actually use. Want to know what my BIL said? He said, "Oh no, she'll be happy! She can return it to Sears and get whatever she wants then!" Seriously??? Yes, I'm sure that's what my SIL has always wanted - a gift she can't use, but can return to get anything she wants...... from Sears. *sigh* Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anne in CA Posted December 24, 2012 Share Posted December 24, 2012 LOL, some people are soooo funny. :rofl: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OrganicAnn Posted December 24, 2012 Share Posted December 24, 2012 Does she buy herself good gifts to make up for it? I think she should also give him socks and underwear until he starts giving her good gifts. They don't have to be expensive, but they do have to be appropriate. He could have even ask her what she wants. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lavender's green Posted December 24, 2012 Share Posted December 24, 2012 He sounds like a real charmer! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kathryn Posted December 24, 2012 Share Posted December 24, 2012 DH and I thank you for the laughs! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HomeschoolMamaOfTwo Posted December 25, 2012 Share Posted December 25, 2012 Wow... what a lucky woman! LOL Kidding... but not great logic there! She would probably enjoy a thoughtful gift so much more, or at least one that could be passed off that way. Geez. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Robin M Posted December 25, 2012 Share Posted December 25, 2012 Well. Look on the bright side. He just gave her a big opening....Now she can go out and buy an iphone and ipod for the docking station! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LaxMom Posted December 25, 2012 Share Posted December 25, 2012 Well. Look on the bright side. He just gave her a big opening....Now she can go out and buy an iphone and ipod for the docking station! My thought exactly. We really don't do extravagant or many gifts here, but we do get each other what is wanted. I can say, with absolute certainty, that what I would NOT want is something to return after Christmas. Ugh. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SunnyDays Posted December 25, 2012 Share Posted December 25, 2012 I think she should open the gift, act really excited, and say, "Oh honey, and I'm just sure you bought me something wonderful to use with it... which is it, iphone or ipod? Where is it??" It's the thought that counts... unfortunately, doesn't sound like there's much here!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
brownie Posted December 25, 2012 Share Posted December 25, 2012 Some people aren't gift people. DH and I could both care less. I bought him a few token items and replenished his work clothes supply. If gifts are important to her, it seems like she needs to say something to him, not you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Farrar Posted December 25, 2012 Share Posted December 25, 2012 Well, at least you know you married the right brother. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AngieW in Texas Posted December 25, 2012 Share Posted December 25, 2012 Dh and I aren't gift people, so we don't do gifts for each other. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LaxMom Posted December 25, 2012 Share Posted December 25, 2012 Some people aren't gift people. DH and I could both care less. I bought him a few token items and replenished his work clothes supply. If gifts are important to her, it seems like she needs to say something to him, not you! Dh and I aren't gift people, so we don't do gifts for each other. I totally get both of those. We "gift" each other things we need or would normally buy, but use the excuse of a gift giving holiday to justify the purchase. But I do not get the "I am obligated to give you something so I grabbed something you can't possibly use so you can return it" sentiment. That just seems rude. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kathryn Posted December 25, 2012 Share Posted December 25, 2012 I totally get both of those. We "gift" each other things we need or would normally buy, but use the excuse of a gift giving holiday to justify the purchase. But I do not get the "I am obligated to give you something so I grabbed something you can't possibly use so you can return it" sentiment. That just seems rude. I totally agree. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LostSurprise Posted December 25, 2012 Share Posted December 25, 2012 That's not rude as much as it is panic. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joyofsixreboot Posted December 25, 2012 Share Posted December 25, 2012 Ok, in the guy's defense some of us don't like gifts, don't want to buy gifts, don't know what to give as gifts. Really if the gift thing went away I'd be happy. He did get something. I talked DH into skipping the whole thing years ago though he'd probably like it if he got something. Gifts....shudder... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Giraffe Posted December 25, 2012 Share Posted December 25, 2012 DH is out NOW (yes, Christmas Day) buying my Christmas present. He loves gifts, loves getting them, loves giving them, but always puts off the shopping for them until the very last second. Since the stores are open, he's out now. He hates shopping. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Night Elf Posted December 25, 2012 Share Posted December 25, 2012 Someone needs to tell him to buy giftcards. He can choose a restaurant or starbucks or retail stores. This guy doesn't know what to get and may appreciate the simplicity of a gift card. Or, the wife needs to tell him not to bother and buy her own gift. She can wrap it and not tell him so he'll be surprised by what she gets. She really shouldn't vent to you, but her husband. He may honestly believe she's okay with his gift giving ability. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommyfaithe Posted December 25, 2012 Share Posted December 25, 2012 Someone needs to tell him to buy giftcards. He can choose a restaurant or starbucks or retail stores. This guy doesn't know what to get and may appreciate the simplicity of a gift card. Or, the wife needs to tell him not to bother and buy her own gift. She can wrap it and not tell him so he'll be surprised by what she gets. She really shouldn't vent to you, but her husband. He may honestly believeards she's okay with his gift giving ability. Yup....gift cards rock!!! Or a certificate for a nice dinner, massage, haircut....whatever. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
celticmom Posted December 26, 2012 Share Posted December 26, 2012 If he knows she has a kindle why doesn't he just buy an amazon gift card so she can put books and other things on it? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Unicorn. Posted December 26, 2012 Share Posted December 26, 2012 She needs to give him a detailed list. Links to exact items are helpful. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Audrey Posted December 26, 2012 Share Posted December 26, 2012 Dh and I aren't gift people, so we don't do gifts for each other. Same here. It really is the thought that matters. So he's bad at picking gifts? It's just stuff. It says nothing about his abilities to love her. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Robin M Posted December 26, 2012 Share Posted December 26, 2012 I've had to train my husband in the way of gift giving. Otherwise the default is jewelry which I hardly ever wear. I keep a detailed amazon wishlist and he buys me stuff off the wishlist. Never disappointed. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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