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We might have to define lazy.  I'm not "out of shape" lazy.  We just went on a 9 mile walk this past week without any problems whatsoever (but it felt like cheating as there was no elevation change).  Anything less than 4 - 5 miles we consider short.

 

I'm lazy in that I don't want a full time job (why I sub rather than being a full time teacher even though I get asked about it repeatedly at school) AND I rarely do anything I don't care to do.  This means my house is NOT spic and span clean.  It gets cleaned (some) when it bugs me (or someone else) OR if someone is coming to visit and I know about it ahead of time - and care about it.

 

Something I don't care to do has to really bug me to get me to do it (not just cleaning).  Cooking is starting to fall into that category now that we're empty nesting.  It's awfully easy just to eat out, bring food in, or eat basic things like celery, apples, popcorn, etc, instead now that there are just the two of us at home.   ;)

 

So, I like to work when I want to only doing jobs I like (or that bug me enough to get them done).  That's what I'm calling lazy.  Many other people do things because they are "supposed" to be done whether making the bed, mopping floors, cooking meals, annual medical appts, coloring between the lines, obeying various laws, etc. (I have to agree with laws to follow them.  If they don't make sense to me, I don't bother - not quite laziness I suppose, but close.) I offer no apologies for any of this.  Anyone thinking of visiting IRL might want to know this ahead of time.   :lol:

 

This is pretty much exactly what I mean. Why the hay did I think I wanted a job where I had to not only show up, but actually be productive and pleasant 5 days a week? I walk a few miles everyday. More on weekends.  I don't feel like cleaning. It's pointless, and nobody really cares or notices. So I've let got of the worry.  My oldest dd picked up the Swiffer the other day and did the whole house. Good for her.   She was all, "Wow, so much dog fluff!"  Oh hey, no kidding.  The cooking supper  thing. Yeah. I enjoy cooking, but nobody here ever has any ideas about what they want to eat, and it's old being the one to decide. We also live in a place with all kinds of takeout organic and healthy food. Then there is the paleo bar at the Whole Foods up the street. The veggies are amazing. It's really just like cooking at home. ;)  My debit card is getting a workout. Nobody seems to mind that. ;) PS I didn't get to make soup today, but I did stop off at the little natural food store near me to buy pastured bone broth. I had to pay a glass deposit, but I'm keeping the economy growing. Exactly.

 

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I laugh at farts right along with my kids. In our house, it's just part of life and we think it's a funny part of life.

 

I text at the dinner table, even though I make a big deal when they do it.

 

I'm pretty frugal and made sure my kids got the most out of their clothes (we didn't buy clothes just because it was a new season, we bought them when they needed them). BUT I just dropped 200 bucks on a bunch of new outfits for my granddaughter. 😎

 

I am a neat freak who lets all her animals (2 dogs, 1 cat) sleep in her bed. I've even had pet chickens in the house.

 

I do NOT like studying poetry, so we didn't much.

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I remember reading this the first time around. :)

 

  • I take things too personally. I'm getting better, though.
  • It stresses me out when my kids won't let me provide them with food. It represents taking care of them to me and I didn't have a lot of security as a child.
  • My dh works from home but is out of the house early on Tuesdays for a men's group and physical therapy. I lounge in bed browsing online until I hear the garage door open and then I hop out of bed and pretend to be busy. :lol:
  • I'm not very good at returning phone calls but I am practicing!
  • I assign my kids the jobs I don't like doing myself like picking up dog poop.
  • I secretly like that my 22 year old still lives at home. I don't think he could take care of himself and he's always willing to babysit his little brother.
  • I watch a couple of the Real Housewives series because they make me feel better about myself.

 

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My bad stuff:

 

-  Both my kids slept in the crib my DH slept in in 1963 because it was in tip-top condition and beautifully made.  But it sure doesn't meet modern standards for safety.

  

-  I hate art and music - I don't care about it, I don't know a darned thing about it, and I don't teach it in our homeschool (I outsource it if I find classes that are convenient for me).

 

-  I swear like a sailor, and sometimes even swear at my kids and feel bad later; sometimes it makes them cry.  Improving this has got to be my number one resolution for the coming year. 

 

-  I don't like being around other people's kids unless they are well-behaved and intelligent.  

 

-  I curse out other drivers on the highway for being slow drivers or doing moronic things.

 

-  I have a majorly fat ass and am unmotivated to change it.

 

-  I refuse to cook desserts with low-fat anything in them - cream and butter all the way, baby!

 

-  My kids don't clean their rooms; the rooms are pigstys.

 

-  I have a lead foot and speed whenever I think I can get away with it.

 

-  I've run out of storage space/junk space in the house, so now I use my car trunk and front passenger floor as storage/catchall.

 

-  I dropped my son multiple times when he was a baby because I fell asleep while feeding him because I was so tired.

 

-  I think the administrators at the college where I work don't have two brain cells to rub together, and I think administrators and educrats are the reason college is going downhill in this country.  I look at them as the source of most problems in higher ed and make no effort at all to carry out their wishes if it's not going to benefit my students.

 

 

Things people think are bad, but I don't think are:

 

- I don't think recreational use of illegal drugs is a big deal.

 

-  I re-gift when appropriate.

 

-  I think sleepovers are stupid and I've banned them.

 

- I think the idea of expired car seats is asinine, and one of my kids used an expired car seat (Gasp!).

 

- I have a graduate degree in the sciences but spend my energy and days primarily as a stay-at-home mom, by choice.

 

- I strongly prefer the company of men over women. Most women I know IRL are whiny, judgmental, overly sensitive.

 

-  I don't make beds; seems pointless.

 

-  My kids were in daycare from infancy-4 years and it was a great experience for them.

 

-  I didn't breastfeed because I just didn't feel like it and I didn't want to wind up with saggy boobs later.

 

-  My kids were allowed in our bed at any time, and still are welcome.

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My bad stuff:

 

- Both my kids slept in the crib my DH slept in in 1963 because it was in tip-top condition and beautifully made. But it sure doesn't meet modern standards for safety

 

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Things people think are bad, but I don't think are:

 

- I re-gift when appropriate.

 

 

- I don't make beds; seems pointless.

 

 

- My kids were allowed in our bed at any time, and still are welcome.

My kids slept in my 1963 crib. And they slept in an antique cradle that had even wider spaced bars then the crib. But most of the time we co-slept.

 

I am a regifter.

I do like to get into a freshly made bed but I rarely make the bed and I don't make my kids make their beds unless company is coming.

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I grew up in and out of foster care (mostly with my grandparents, but I also had two sets of other foster parents through the years. One set has passed away, they were farmers, and the other is on my FB page. They said I was easier to manage than their own kids). Many people hate foster kids. I found out from the Dave Thomas website that 40% of people believe foster kids are criminals. I am not. I am guessing the other 60% believe all foster kids came from poverty stricken substance abusing, jail bird families. That is not the case with me either. I was fired once when I let it slip I had been in foster care. I had just been promoted. But right after they found out, I got escorted to the door and wished good luck with my future, but they could not risk someone like me working there. Ever since, I have kept it a deep deep secret that I was once in foster care. I only recently started coming out as a former foster child here. So far, no one has been openly hostile toward me over it. But, I really wish someone would send me hugs over it because it has been very hard. Bad enough to grow up with my parents being my parents, but would be nice if someone noticed what a good mom and how nice I am anyway. And that a lot of things make me extra emotional because I am always worried I will fail, or do a bad job or do the wrong thing. And it is not like I can just pick up the phone and call my ever loving and accepting parents. My grandpa died, my first set of foster parents have died. I can still talk to my second set, and they are nice. They still live in Iowa though and I don't like to burden them.

 

That is it. That is my big nasty past that people judge me very harshly for. 

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These are hilarious.  I don't remember it from two years ago, so it's all new to me!

 

I'm an empty-nester now, but here's something:

 

My kids have no idea about my wild past.  I'm trying to decide if there's any point in telling them.

 

It never occurs to me to change bed sheets.

 

I swear under my breath.

 

I don't do deep cleaning anymore.  (Actually, I never did.  That was a job I gave to the kids but they're not home anymore.)

 

I've given my daughter permission to try weed for her chronic headaches, and now my 87-year-old mother wants to try it for her aches and pains.

 

Most people think of me as a pretty conservative Christian, but I'm actually quite a rebel!  (still a committed Christian though)

 

I tell a white lie now and then and have no problem doing so.

 

I procrastinate almost everything, but I get done what really needs to get done, just in time.

 

I have so many great ideas that I never quite get around to doing.  :)

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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You people are horrible, horrible parents!   :smilielol5:  :smilielol5:  :smilielol5:

 

Okay, here are a few of mine:

 

-I let Han Solo have his iPad almost all day, so I can school Indy and be left in peace.  To be fair though, he's damn good at Angry Birds, and plots his moves out, so I call it physics.

 

-I don't mind leaving my kids with a sitter to go out with James Bond, or letting them stay with my mom while we go away for a few days

 

-I never put clothes on Han Solo unless we leave the house or someone is coming over.  He wears his pjs all day.  I figure, why make more laundry?

 

-There are days when I don't teach at all, but leave a list for Indy to do, then go surf the web (he CAN come to me with problems)

 

-We have the TV on ALL.THE.TIME.  I love TV.  Plus, other than the movie The Ring, no one every dies watching TV in a horror movie, so I figure it's really just keeping us all safe.

 

-Sometimes I stay up WAY too late, and want to sleep in, so I have Indy watch Han Solo while I sleep.  Yesterday I slept until 11:30am!  

 

-I hate folding clothes so much, that frequently, I just pull them out of the dryer and lay them flat on top of the dryer or in the laundry basket, and we get out clothes from there.

 

-I'm a picky, picky, picky eater (I have texture issues), but I don't let my kids be picky.  

 

-I am a crazy bitch when I'm really hungry.

 

-Despite the fact that I and a SAHM, I have a cleaning lady come in once week to clean the bathrooms (3.5!  Who has time to clean that many bathroom?), kitchen, dust, sweep and mop.  I vacuum though, because I find it oddly satisfying.

 

-I secretly hate women who are always perfectly coifed, because I fight my hair all the time.

 

-While I do make sure they eat veggies, fruits and proteins every day, I let my kids pig out on carbs all day if they want.

 

-I make the boys eat relatively well, but I eat like crap until dinner time.  I usually eat a boring breakfast (because my stomach can't handle much), then wait until around 3pm and eat 2-3 bowls of cereal and drink a soda.

 

-I judge other people.  I may not say anything, except perhaps to James Bond, but I think it.

 

-While I hate to clean, clutter makes me crazy, and I can't stand walking into someone else's house when there's stuff freaking everywhere.

 

-As a general rule, I don't like kids.  I like MY kids (most of the time), but not so much other kids.

 

-I spend WAY too much time on my computer.

 

-I'm a hypocrite when it comes to food.  I don't let my kids eat a lot of junk, but after they go to bed, I go crazy with my secret stash of junk.

 

 

Whew!  I feel better.  

 

 

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*I shouldn't have worn white at my wedding

*made out on my 2nd date with dh right in the middle of the living room floor during the superbowl.  Yes, other people were there (and I was 15)

*Pregnant at 17, but married.  (lost the baby though, and didn't have my first kid until I was 20)

*Dropped my oldest when she was a baby :(

*Eat chocolate chips by the handful, straight out of the giant Costco bag...pretty much on a daily basis.

*yell at my oldest child...for being just like me.

*pretend I don't see my dog licking the dirty dishes while I'm loading the dishwasher.

*don't shower daily

*get mad at my husband for breathing.  No really, its annoying.  

*Am a bad Baptist that lets her kids watch anime and horror movies.  

*Really bad Baptist that loves rock music and dub-step.

*yes, I said dub-step.

 

 

We could be good friends!

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I hate to cook and clean.  I am a terrible stay at home mom and I know it.  

 

My kids sometimes eat pop tarts and frozen pizza, and by sometimes, I mean fairly regularly.

 

I watch TV regularly.

 

I am on the internet A LOT because I am bored to tears being a stay at home mom.

 

I often go on trips with my girlfriends and leave my family home without me.  (At least yearly, sometimes twice a year.)

 

 

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Oh, I forgot!  I only buy one pair of sheets per bed (because more would mean finding a place to store them).  Sometimes when I wash the sheets on our bed, I forget until it's time for bed, and just don't bother putting them on, because it takes too long (we have a king).  Our mattress has a cashmere blend cover (WHY?), and it's the softest thing in the world, so I'm happy to sleep on it.  Sometimes I won't put the sheets on for days, just because the mattress cover is so soft.  

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Oh, I forgot! I only buy one pair of sheets per bed (because more would mean finding a place to store them). Sometimes when I wash the sheets on our bed, I forget until it's time for bed, and just don't bother putting them on, because it takes too long (we have a king). Our mattress has a cashmere blend cover (WHY?), and it's the softest thing in the world, so I'm happy to sleep on it. Sometimes I won't put the sheets on for days, just because the mattress cover is so soft.

So glad I am not the only one that does this!!!

 

Started with my power chucking co sleeping baby and still happens occasionally.

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I grew up in and out of foster care (mostly with my grandparents, but I also had two sets of other foster parents through the years. One set has passed away, they were farmers, and the other is on my FB page. They said I was easier to manage than their own kids). Many people hate foster kids. I found out from the Dave Thomas website that 40% of people believe foster kids are criminals. I am not. I am guessing the other 60% believe all foster kids came from poverty stricken substance abusing, jail bird families. That is not the case with me either. I was fired once when I let it slip I had been in foster care. I had just been promoted. But right after they found out, I got escorted to the door and wished good luck with my future, but they could not risk someone like me working there. Ever since, I have kept it a deep deep secret that I was once in foster care. I only recently started coming out as a former foster child here. So far, no one has been openly hostile toward me over it. But, I really wish someone would send me hugs over it because it has been very hard. Bad enough to grow up with my parents being my parents, but would be nice if someone noticed what a good mom and how nice I am anyway. And that a lot of things make me extra emotional because I am always worried I will fail, or do a bad job or do the wrong thing. And it is not like I can just pick up the phone and call my ever loving and accepting parents. My grandpa died, my first set of foster parents have died. I can still talk to my second set, and they are nice. They still live in Iowa though and I don't like to burden them.

 

That is it. That is my big nasty past that people judge me very harshly for.

 

(((((Elisabet1)))

 

Thank you for sharing. I don't think that qualifies as a bad side....and I am sorry you have suffered over it.

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So I found my post from two years ago thinking I could quote it and mark all the ways I've changed from my horrible ways but I ended up saying "yup, that's still true, that too...." Hmmm. I've gotten a little bit better on a couple. We wake up at 9 now instead of 11! Our house isn't *always* a mess, we're finally getting on top of that but it's still a struggle. And my kids have been to the dentist regularly over the last two years. But I can add:

 

* I cuss A LOT.

* I eat way too much junk food after the kids go to bed.

* I hardly ever clean the kitchen. I handle the rest of the house and laundry but I leave kitchen duties for DH.

* I hate christmas-time. Not Christmas, mind, just the time around it. The crowds, the traffic, the insanity, the push to spend more, more, more, the songs that are great for the first dozen listens and then drive me up a wall, trying to do simple grocery shopping through the craziness.... yea I could probably go on. If I could just hibernate through December and order All The Things online, I would happily come out the 25th to have fun with family.

 

 

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Wait, what? Kids aren't supposed to wear coats in car seats?

 

I think I have a long list of "no nos" about which I am blissfully unaware.

 

Me, too, Re: "no-no's!

 

Not only are there/were there some that I am/was blissfully unaware of, I remember a number of no-no's I practiced (when my kids were little ones) where I knew I was being a naughty mom, yet I did them anyway!

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wow, zombie thread!

 

I think I'll add mine anyway.

 

 

I have spanked my kids.

 

I drink a pot of coffee every day just to function.

 

I have pepsi daily.

 

I have popcorn almost every evening and watch tv after the kids go to bed.

 

My floors are lucky if they get washed once every 2-3 weeks. Often a whole month will go by without me washing them.

 

I avoid crowds as much as humanly possible.

 

I have a wild temper, but have learned to turn it inwards most the time.

 

I have a wickedly nasty vocabulary that just seems to jump out of my mouth when I am controlling my anger and yet having to interact still. And I can do it with a smile although, usually afterwards  I feel horrible about it. It seems to be a bad habit of mine.

 

I spent most my life thinking I was mentally handicapped and everyone was just being too nice to say anything. I still struggle with accepting my intelligence and tend to feel like a fraud most time.

 

I have nightmares regularly and avoid staying at places where I might be heard if I wake up loudly.

 

I am addicted to dogs. At this point all of my kids have a dog and I personally have two.

 

I have PTSD and tend to react out of the blue to smells or sounds. I also tend to crumble if guys touch me unexpectedly. Makes people think I'm a freak (as if I needed help to convince them of that) and as a result many people avoid me.

 

I send my kids to church regularly, but refuse to set foot in the door anymore.

 

I hate living where I live.

 

 

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1. I'm lazy, and I don't feel guilty about it.

2. We coslept with 2 of our kids.

3. I let my oldest dd sleep in her car seat and infant swing when she wasn't sleeping on me while I slept on the couch.

4. I self medicate with caffeine and chocolate.

5. I read smutty romance novels.

6. I hate to clean.

7. I judge people who have really clean houses, but not those with messy houses.

8. My kids ate graham crackers and frosting for breakfast. I put sugar sprinkles on mine :)

9. We watch tv while we eat dinner.

10. My kids have to make their own breakfast and lunch.

11. I often do things because I'm told not to do them.

12. I taught my kids cuss words. Not so they could use them, but so they would know what they were.

 

I'm sure there are more, but I'll stop there :)

 

Kelly

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