Denisemomof4 Posted December 6, 2012 Share Posted December 6, 2012 I don't know what is wrong with me this year. I usually have most of my shopping done by Thanksgiving a nd decorations out by now. i've done NOTHING. N-O-T-H-I-N-G!!!!! and I don't want to. A friend of mine (MariannNOVA) told me this morning to cut back on decorating for this year. That sounded great at first but I don't want to decorate at all. And I can NOT undertake a big shopping spree this year. I just CAN'T. I do most of my shopping for Christmas onli e anyway. I have put thought into the Christmas menu and have been for some time, which is also unusual for me. Dh and I plan out the menu closer to the holiday. Ho-hum. i so don't want to get into the Christmas spirit this year. I'm soooooo tired and wish for once I could just not have all that work on me. Yes, I will simplify. no, this isn't deprssion. But I am really worn out. Encouragement? advice? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Impish Posted December 6, 2012 Share Posted December 6, 2012 How about agreement? I'd like to have it be Jan too. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
k2bdeutmeyer Posted December 6, 2012 Share Posted December 6, 2012 I LOVE Christmas....and all that comes with it, usually. I'm mentally into it this year, but physically, I just can't seem to back it up. I can't bring myself to do any of the "good ideas" my head seems to have. Sigh. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denisemomof4 Posted December 6, 2012 Author Share Posted December 6, 2012 How about agreement? I'd like to have it be Jan too. :grouphug: :grouphug: Lets start to count down the days. I really hate this! I am the one to make Christmas for everyone but I just want a break this year. :( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denisemomof4 Posted December 6, 2012 Author Share Posted December 6, 2012 I LOVE Christmas....and all that comes with it, usually. I'm mentally into it this year, but physically, I just can't seem to back it up. I can't bring myself to do any of the "good ideas" my head seems to have. Sigh. You have a reason. I am just tired, and tired of being everything to everyone. :( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stayseeliz Posted December 6, 2012 Share Posted December 6, 2012 I am looking forward to seeing my family but other than that I just feel stressed. I'm not in the spirit at all this year. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denisemomof4 Posted December 6, 2012 Author Share Posted December 6, 2012 Gosh, I really sound like an awful person right niw! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mom2scouts Posted December 6, 2012 Share Posted December 6, 2012 I'm right there with you. I haven't pulled out the Christmas decorations or started the shopping this year. I don't know why, but I just can't get into the Christmas spirit. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
k2bdeutmeyer Posted December 6, 2012 Share Posted December 6, 2012 You have a reason. I am just tired, and tired of being everything to everyone. :( I'm not sure how much longer I can get away with playing that card.....and the sad part is that I WANT to do those things (bake, decorate, do crafts with the kids, etc). I wake up every morning with good intentions, but can't seem to get anything done. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted December 6, 2012 Share Posted December 6, 2012 Denise - my dd is 10. She decorated our house for Christmas. My kids will be making Christmas cookies if that is what they want to do this Christmas season. My kids will do most of the gift wrapping for me too - but not for their own present! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dzingirl Posted December 6, 2012 Share Posted December 6, 2012 Gosh, I really sound like an awful person right niw! You don't sound like an awful person! Just worn out. I actually start getting sort of cranky every year as soon as Halloween is over and I don't feel better until January. I hate Christmas and I hate that I hate it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Impish Posted December 6, 2012 Share Posted December 6, 2012 :grouphug: Lets start to count down the days. I really hate this! I am the one to make Christmas for everyone but I just want a break this year. :( I totally get this. I get tired of being the one that puts it all together. Everyone loves the big meal, etc...but none of them are the ones doing it. Holidays = work to me. I'd love a holiday when I got to relax for a change. You have a reason. I am just tired, and tired of being everything to everyone. :( You always have a lot on your plate. :grouphug: Gosh, I really sound like an awful person right niw! Nope, You sound like someone who's exhausted and needs a break. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
k2bdeutmeyer Posted December 6, 2012 Share Posted December 6, 2012 Nope, You sound like someone who's exhausted and needs a break. :iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denisemomof4 Posted December 6, 2012 Author Share Posted December 6, 2012 I'm not sure how much longer I can get away with playing that card.....and the sad part is that I WANT to do those things (bake, decorate, do crafts with the kids, etc). I wake up every morning with good intentions, but can't seem to get anything done. Every time I hear about Kate's hospitalization I think of you. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Unicorn. Posted December 6, 2012 Share Posted December 6, 2012 :grouphug: Lets start to count down the days. I really hate this! I am the one to make Christmas for everyone but I just want a break this year. :( I've had a few of those years. I'm not as bad this year as the last 2 or 3, but I get it. You have a reason. I am just tired, and tired of being everything to everyone. :( You have a reason, and there it is...in bold. Have your dd help you as much as she can- wrapping presents, or decorating, or whatever. Put up a tree, and leave the rest. If you must have the big meal, order it. Or have hamburgers or something instead. Seriously, just take it easy. You deserve a rest this year! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twigs Posted December 6, 2012 Share Posted December 6, 2012 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Desert Rat Posted December 6, 2012 Share Posted December 6, 2012 I'm just going through the motions this year. It's not that I'm motivated, I just think by doing it all right this minute, I'll get it over with. Does that even make sense? I know what you mean, Denise. My friend said if it were up to men to do the planning for holidays, we wouldn't have any. Now, I don't mean to offend and I certainly think that's an over generalization. But, she has a point. I do all the shopping for my family and his family. I even did the shopping for his gift to my family (we draw names). I usually don't mind. This year I miss my dad. I miss him and see him in every little corner. In everything I do. I have to pick a roast out for Christmas. He was a grocer for 30 years. He picked out the best. He tried to teach me, but I didn't pick it up. Now I have to buy a roast and know that it won't be as good as Dad got. It'll be fine. I know it will. I just want it to be January, too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stayseeliz Posted December 6, 2012 Share Posted December 6, 2012 I think women just work more and harder during the holidays. When we travel to be with my family I don't mind it since at least I'm with my mom and sister. But when we're here and it's me doing all the work it's just not fun all the time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denisemomof4 Posted December 6, 2012 Author Share Posted December 6, 2012 I'm just going through the motions this year. It's not that I'm motivated, I just think by doing it all right this minute, I'll get it over with. Does that even make sense? I know what you mean, Denise. My friend said if it were up to men to do the planning for holidays, we wouldn't have any. Now, I don't mean to offend and I certainly think that's an over generalization. But, she has a point. I do all the shopping for my family and his family. I even did the shopping for his gift to my family (we draw names). I usually don't mind. This year I miss my dad. I miss him and see him in every little corner. In everything I do. I have to pick a roast out for Christmas. He was a grocer for 30 years. He picked out the best. He tried to teach me, but I didn't pick it up. Now I have to buy a roast and know that it won't be as good as Dad got. It'll be fine. I know it will. I just want it to be January, too. :grouphug: i am so sorry about your dad. My dad was always such a huge presence in our holidays. :( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fraidycat Posted December 6, 2012 Share Posted December 6, 2012 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: To everyone who is not "feeling it" this year. BTDT! This year, I'm about halfway. I'm not totally in the Christmas spirit, but I have done some shopping...as in last night, I thought "Oh Crap, it's cooooooming!" so I got on Amazon and clicked some things in to my cart and ordered them at 1 a.m. I'm usually done by the first of December except maybe a few stocking stuffers. We did put the tree and a few decorations up the day after Thanksgiving (which we went out to a restaurant for!). The rest of the decorations....went into the Goodwill donation box because I'm ALL about simplifying and decluttering this year. Christmas meal, again, I'm simplifying. We're grilling. Steak, potatoes, salad. I called my family who will be visiting a couple days ago to find out everybody's favorite cut of steak so I can go shopping. We'll bake Santa cookies on Christmas eve. I have an apple pie from a "famous" apple pie bakery in the freezer and that will be dessert. My Mom got to the point that she hates the holidays. Because, like mentioned above, it was all work for her and play for everyone else. I'm learning from her mistakes so I don't have all of these big production traditions to try to live up to year after year. K.I.S.S. is my new life mantra. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bettyandbob Posted December 6, 2012 Share Posted December 6, 2012 Last year I couldn't think about Christmas either. I did online shop and get presents. I planned our Christmas Eve dinner a couple days ahead and it was fine. I did not decorate. Dh decided to decorate a couple days before Christmas. I usually do it at thanksgiving, but I did not want to. Dd started asking dh about it. Dh somehow knew it would be good to say something to me. He just got the tree and some boxes and did a rudimentary job with dd. On Christmas Day I was extremely ill. I visited with dh and our dc in the morning and went back to bed for a couple of days. Dh took the dc to visit nearby family. We got through it and it was ok. You don't have to do anything. My dc would have been really disappointed without presents. I know dh couldn't think ahead to that. So, I got that done. Everything else I really just let go. Figure out what the truly bare bones is and do only that. Your dh and dc should be able to step up, if stepping up needs to happen. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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