Jean in Newcastle Posted November 25, 2012 Share Posted November 25, 2012 Anyone have a moper? This child will just sit there moping and picking at her clothes for an hour if she is not entertained with a game or an electronic device or the television. She has plenty of interests and has art supplies and books and all sorts of things to choose from. I'm on the fence as to whether I should just let her mope for an hour or more until bedtime or if I should order her to do something constructive. (I don't know why this irritates me so much. I'm going to get involved in a project of my own so I won't have to notice her!) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AK_Mom4 Posted November 25, 2012 Share Posted November 25, 2012 Why not just let her mope? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
specialmama Posted November 25, 2012 Share Posted November 25, 2012 My dd is not a "moper" per se, but she gets in mopey moods occasionally. When she does, I politely tell her to go mope in her bedroom. One person should not have the right to affect the entire household's mood like that, so when she's feeling better she can come out and she's welcomed warmly. Now, when mama's moody lol, that's something else entirely! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
specialmama Posted November 25, 2012 Share Posted November 25, 2012 double post Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
specialmama Posted November 25, 2012 Share Posted November 25, 2012 triple post lol, and learning the ropes in the new forum! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
extendedforecast Posted November 25, 2012 Share Posted November 25, 2012 I know how frustrating that can be. I think it's okay to let her mope some of the time. When my dd is acting like that, sometimes I ask her to join me in whatever I'm doing at the time, telling her that I'd love to have her company while I work. Then we chat about whatever until she's in a better mood and ready to run off and do something on her own. Other times when I dont have anything to do, I'll choose an activity for us to enjoy. That could be working on a craft or playing catch outside. She loves to be read to; I just offer and she rarely turns me down. But again, there's nothing wrong with moping around every now and then. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happyhomemaker Posted November 25, 2012 Share Posted November 25, 2012 My kids are welcome to act like that as long as they want...in their rooms. I can't stand the mopiness for no reason either. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Impish Posted November 25, 2012 Share Posted November 25, 2012 We all have our 'moping' times, I find. Esp hormonal teen girls. If she's not being disruptive, then I'd let it go. Sometimes trying to talk to Diva in those times works, sometimes she just needs to get through it. When she was little, I'd take her to the park, play on the slides. Now that she's a teen, we play on the mood swings. :tongue_smilie: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted November 25, 2012 Author Share Posted November 25, 2012 Well, she's moved from a mope to a snit when I told her quietly that I didn't want her making a hole in her pants (she was working really hard at doing just that). Now she's in her bedroom having a snitty mope. That's fine. I can't spend any more time with her tonight. I'm actually halfway through typing up some business meeting notes that have to get done tonight. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Impish Posted November 25, 2012 Share Posted November 25, 2012 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chelle in MO Posted November 25, 2012 Share Posted November 25, 2012 Well, she's moved from a mope to a snit when I told her quietly that I didn't want her making a hole in her pants (she was working really hard at doing just that). Now she's in her bedroom having a snitty mope. That's fine. I can't spend any more time with her tonight. I'm actually halfway through typing up some business meeting notes that have to get done tonight. Oh, my. My new favorite phrase--snitty mope! I use "snit" all the time, but rarely hear anyone else use it. By the way, I'm glad your visit w/family was good and that the trip back was so much shorter! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chelle in MO Posted November 25, 2012 Share Posted November 25, 2012 Crud. The pain of changing. :glare: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted November 25, 2012 Author Share Posted November 25, 2012 Oh, my. My new favorite phrase--snitty mope! I use "snit" all the time, but rarely hear anyone else use it. By the way, I'm glad your visit w/family was good and that the trip back was so much shorter! Chelle, you may use "snitty mope" any time but hopefully not too often! Thank you. I'm glad to be back home in my own bed! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OrganicAnn Posted November 25, 2012 Share Posted November 25, 2012 Some time when she is not moping I would have a talk with her about "choosing your attitude", probably more than one short talks. Then when she is moping I would drop the phrase 'choose your attitude', but overall leave her alone. I also would tell her not to pick a hole. I think when kids are moping, they are actually thinking through things (probably 'poor me' things). So I would just let her mope. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sisyphus Posted November 25, 2012 Share Posted November 25, 2012 Snitty mope! I love it! I will admit to having my fair share of those. My personal opinion is that everyone is entitled to some moping, so long as it's not constant. I say let her wallow in her mope, and tomorrow is another day. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted November 25, 2012 Author Share Posted November 25, 2012 OK - now she's out of her room and out of her snitty mope. She's now hugging me and giggling and generally being cutely annoying. Those mercurial tweens! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Impish Posted November 25, 2012 Share Posted November 25, 2012 OK - now she's out of her room and out of her snitty mope. She's now hugging me and giggling and generally being cutely annoying. Those mercurial tweens! Yup. Ride those mood swings! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GWOB Posted November 25, 2012 Share Posted November 25, 2012 OK - now she's out of her room and out of her snitty mope. She's now hugging me and giggling and generally being cutely annoying. Those mercurial tweens! Oh the joys of hormonal girls! Did she stomp? My dd12 loves to stomp. It's a nice little touch to the huffy moping. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
5LittleMonkeys Posted November 25, 2012 Share Posted November 25, 2012 Depends on the child. If dd14 is moping then I know something is up and she really needs to talk. I'll try to find a quiet, private (which is hard to get in this house) and talk to her about what is bothering her. Her moping is just quiet and sad..."I'm feeling lost and not sure how to handle this." If its dd13 moping then I find somewhere else to be or suggest she mope elsewhere. For her it is a manipulation technique that I'm still working on breaking her of. Once she sees that it will get her nowhere we have a talk about the pitfalls of using your emotions to elicit desired behaviors in others. She doesn't do it often anymore...I'd say once every couple of months now instead of several times a week a year ago. Now it seems to be brought on mostly when she hasn't gotten something to go the way she intended and she forgets the tools I've taught her for dealing with that. Her moping is in your face and almost hateful..."Pay attention to my moping or I'll make you miserable." If dd9 is moping I just tickle her and blow raspberries on her tummy and it's all over. I dread when that won't work anymore. :crying: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Durriyyah Posted November 25, 2012 Share Posted November 25, 2012 Glad to hear she kicked back out of it! Moping bugs me... it feels like silent whining, and whining is not allowed in our house. If one person in the room is acting mopey, it drags me down with them, and that bugs me a lot! If it is for a decent reason, I'll try to distract DD1 from what's bothering her, but if she persists, sometimes I tell her to just pull it together. We all have to do it sometimes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Giraffe Posted November 25, 2012 Share Posted November 25, 2012 Snotty mope Silent whining Huffy mope Love these! I'm going to remember them, especially the snitty mope, which I can see the beginnings of in my 5 yo! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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