ktgrok Posted November 4, 2012 Share Posted November 4, 2012 What do I do now? I have no hard feelings towards her, and my ex lives with her and his father, so my son is with them every other week. She is close to my son. When I first divorced my ex she whouldn't speak to me for at least a year, even if I was IN her house dropping off my son. But she has mellowed, and is sweet to me when I see her, and asks about my other kids, loves seeing them, etc. But, she has a tendency towards hurt feelings and some drama with her family (she and her son in law are never in the same place at the same time by mutual agreement), etc. Do I do this??? How weird! Although, I'm already friends with her daughter, my ex SIL, which has been fine. still..weird! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris in VA Posted November 4, 2012 Share Posted November 4, 2012 I'd cautiously friend her, if you are the kind of FB poster who doesn't post really personal stuff. If things start to go downhill a bit, you can always hide her posts if you don't want to read them. But IDK--maybe not. :D How's that for helpful... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ktgrok Posted November 4, 2012 Author Share Posted November 4, 2012 I'd cautiously friend her, if you are the kind of FB poster who doesn't post really personal stuff. If things start to go downhill a bit, you can always hide her posts if you don't want to read them. But IDK--maybe not. :D How's that for helpful... lol, about what I was thinking. I post a bit about how much I love my life...and how great my dh is..which might hurt her I guess. But she friended me, so oh well. Besides...I post so much most of my own family has me blocked, lol. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paisley Hedgehog Posted November 4, 2012 Share Posted November 4, 2012 nm Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
justLisa Posted November 4, 2012 Share Posted November 4, 2012 I would ignore it. Just pretend it's not there. I have done this before. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MAIMOM Posted November 5, 2012 Share Posted November 5, 2012 If you friend her use your privacy options to allow her to not see much. You can exempt her from getting your updates....she will be your friend but with no benefits : ) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MrsBasil Posted November 5, 2012 Share Posted November 5, 2012 I would accept, but make a custom control so she can only see the innocuous kid stuff and pics of your son/posts about him and the really basic stuff. Basically I'd give her a window into her grandson's life, but not yours... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Word Nerd Posted November 5, 2012 Share Posted November 5, 2012 I would accept, but make a custom control so she can only see the innocuous kid stuff and pics of your son/posts about him and the really basic stuff. Basically I'd give her a window into her grandson's life, but not yours... :iagree: Most likely, she just wants to see photos of the kids anyway. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Researcher Posted November 5, 2012 Share Posted November 5, 2012 Most likely, she just wants to see photos of the kids anyway. :iagree: I think this is probably all she's interested in. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elinor Everywhere Posted November 5, 2012 Share Posted November 5, 2012 Would you go hang out with her? Have a glass of wine or the occasional lunch? If not, I personally wouldn't do it. I post a lot on fb myself, and am only friends with people I am really friends with. If I don't hang with you, I don't friend you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
catz Posted November 5, 2012 Share Posted November 5, 2012 I would ignore the request. Seriously. Why would you want her to have a window into your life? :iagree: I would have no issue ignoring the request. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Annie Posted November 5, 2012 Share Posted November 5, 2012 I would accept, but make a custom control so she can only see the innocuous kid stuff and pics of your son/posts about him and the really basic stuff. Basically I'd give her a window into her grandson's life, but not yours... :iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted November 5, 2012 Share Posted November 5, 2012 (edited) I would ignore the request. Seriously. Why would you want her to have a window into your life? :iagree: If you don't want to be buddies with her in real life, why would you want her as a FB friend? Seems awfully awkward to me. Edited November 5, 2012 by Catwoman Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Georgiana Daniels Posted November 5, 2012 Share Posted November 5, 2012 If you two have a decent relationship now, I'd accept the request. It'll cause some weird feelings if you don't, and that would be harder to deal with. Once you accept her, you can adjust the settings for what she can and cannot see. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jpoy85 Posted November 5, 2012 Share Posted November 5, 2012 I couldnt be friends with my MILs on FB or otherwise. Too much drama! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
basschick Posted November 5, 2012 Share Posted November 5, 2012 I would either ignore the request or put her on my "restricted" friends list, so she can't really see anything on my profile anyways. I have a lot of church people on my restricted list because I am too candid and real, and they can't handle it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LucyStoner Posted November 5, 2012 Share Posted November 5, 2012 I'd think it strange except for the fact that she is your child's grandmother. Set it so she can just see kid related posts and pics. I figure that is why she added you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
3peasinWa Posted November 5, 2012 Share Posted November 5, 2012 i'd ignore it & hope she never asks me about it.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Georgiana Daniels Posted November 5, 2012 Share Posted November 5, 2012 I had one person ignore my friend request and I never did ask about it. But the in-person interaction was really awkward after that, and what was meant as a goodwill gesture turned into some bad feelings. :confused: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thescrappyhomeschooler Posted November 5, 2012 Share Posted November 5, 2012 I would accept it, and then either hide her or unfriend her if things get weird. I had a friend request from the woman who dated my ex-fiancé right after I broke up with him. They dated for maybe a year and a half. I knew her and was somewhat friendly with her before she started dating ex-fiancé. The friend request came about 15 years after she broke up with him and we'd both been married to other people for some time. I was hesitant to accept, but I did. It turns out that she and I have a lot in common and have become much closer. She is even considering homeschooling her daughter, so has asked me for advice. The point of my whole long story is that sometimes people can surprise you and you can turn out to have a great relationship with someone you least suspect. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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