jhschool Posted October 26, 2012 Share Posted October 26, 2012 (edited) Question at the bottom of this post. This is what is happening: DS's beloved piano teacher that he has had for four years has liver cancer and the doctor says her liver has failed and she can't be in the new drug trial. She is now with hospice care and can't see anyone. She has one or two weeks left at most. She is very loved by all her students, as she is the kindest, sweetest human that ever lived, with never an unkind word or even a negative one. She has been encouraging, supportive, and overall one of the best people we have ever met. Please pray for her husband and her two daughters (they are in grad school). Please pray that her departure may be pain-free and that she may go to heaven happy. ----Here is my question. I don't have much experience with people who are soon to leave us. Should we drop by and give her photos/videos/etc? Or is that going to make her feel worse? One of my friends said that the dying need to focus on leaving so it's unkind to make them see what they are leaving behind (she is in a Threshold Singers group) and it makes them have a rough transition. Would dropping by with photos/videos make it bad? Should we just bring her something like flowers? We are so sad and we don't really know what to do (the students' families have been organizing meals and such). These the final days are so difficult. Advice? Edited October 26, 2012 by jhschool Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
k2bdeutmeyer Posted October 26, 2012 Share Posted October 26, 2012 So sad.....will do! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SonshineLearner Posted October 26, 2012 Share Posted October 26, 2012 :( So sad :( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jhschool Posted October 26, 2012 Author Share Posted October 26, 2012 I just updated the post with the question of what to do for her in her final days. I am very torn between bringing her memories (photos, DVDs) that she won't want to leave behind (would this be harder for her) and not bringing anything (maybe just flowers). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thescrappyhomeschooler Posted October 26, 2012 Share Posted October 26, 2012 I would bring a card telling her how much she has meant to all of you. Prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Unicorn. Posted October 27, 2012 Share Posted October 27, 2012 . She is now with hospicecare and can't see anyone. She has one or two weeks left at most. We are so sad and we don't really know what to do (the students' families have been organizing meals and such). These the final days are so difficult. Advice? Drop off a card, thanking her for all she has taught your dc, and letting her know how much she means to your family. I wouldn't drop by w/ the intent of actually seeing her. Leave her to her family now. Let them have what time they have left with her. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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