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Yes. I believe friendship among family is something to be coveted, so I would do what I can to encourage it. I'd probably find something to do nearby though, so I wouldn't have to drive home... Or I'd watch football with the guys.

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I would do it, for a few reasons:

 

1 - where we lived in TX, to get anywhere you had to drive about that far. Either because we lived in a metro area that was pretty sprawling, so someone in the same general area might be 30 minutes away once you factor in traffic and such, OR later, because we lived in a rural area and so a friend in the area was 30 mins away due to back roads, slow speed limits, and the sprawling nature of driving around farm land to get somewhere.

 

2 - family relationships are important. Now that we live far away from family, and in a pretty isolated (socially) area all together, I value those friendships and family relationships way more than before. If I hadn't been willing in the past to drive that, I would do so in a heartbeat now. When we are in the US, we drive 1.5 hours one way from our "home base" to see our kids' best friends. I think nothing of it, because friendship & family matters. Plain and simple.

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to drop a kid off at a cousins house to visit with another friend while the dads watch football? So over an hour on the road? I would not be staying. I'd turn around and come back home.

 

Absolutely. Time spent with cousins will hold its value for a lifetime.

 

Depending on the anticipated length of the visit, and the availability or lack thereof of a ride home for the kid, I might do some errands in the area rather than going home. Find the local branch of my bank, post office, Target, thrift shops, etc.

 

Or, dh and I would split it so that one does drop-off and the other does pick-up, so neither of us feel it sucks up the whole day.

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Absolutely. Time spent with cousins will hold its value for a lifetime.

 

Depending on the anticipated length of the visit, and the availability or lack thereof of a ride home for the kid, I might do some errands in the area rather than going home. Find the local branch of my bank, post office, Target, thrift shops, etc.

 

Or, dh and I would split it so that one does drop-off and the other does pick-up, so neither of us feel it sucks up the whole day.

 

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In a heartbeat, and I'd consider it a short trip ;)

 

I drive 4 hours, round trip, 2-3 times a week. Our homeschool group is 2 hours away, so that is a four hour round trip. I'll be sooooo glad to move to someplace that isn't rural h***, so I can quit driving all day just so the kids can experience things.

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Ok, I'll be different. It depends how long of an outing would it be. If I could split the driving w/DH and it was at least half a day of cousin bonding? Maybe. Could I roll into errand running or other outings? Maybe. If it were a couple hours of play time? Probably not. I might look to have a sleepover with the cousin or something like that. My parents live 35-45 minutes (to an hour or more in traffic) away and if they want the kids for something we'll often drive them one way, and they'll drive the other and that can make things more doable.

 

FWIW, we do drive up to 30 minutes for activities, but if it's that distance I rarely go home unless it's more than 2-3 hours. Most of our activities are 15-20 minutes (and maybe slightly more in traffic). We live in the city specifically because we don't have to go as far or drive as much as most people.

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well, it all depends. if someone is going to be keeping an eye on the boys while they are there, then maybe. if they will just be watching football, then no.

 

if ds really wanted to go, and i really didn't, i might suggest that he choose something i usually do for 30 minutes, and do that, as that is half the time i will lose driving one way. in this house, that is a good litmus test for whether they really want to do something.

 

and all cousins and friends are not the same. if this is a cousin and friend who are nice and are good influences on ds, then i'd be more likely to.

 

fwiw,

ann

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Yes, absolutely. We recently made two trips to see DH's best friend. We live in California, he lives in North Carolina and we hadn't seen him in almost 4 years. He was in our area, but still 3 hours away (6 hours roundtrip), could not leave the base, and only had about 1.5 hours of free time to visit each time because he was on training exercises (military). We went up and back in the same day just to have lunch with him, twice.

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well, it all depends. if someone is going to be keeping an eye on the boys while they are there, then maybe. if they will just be watching football, then no.

 

if ds really wanted to go, and i really didn't, i might suggest that he choose something i usually do for 30 minutes, and do that, as that is half the time i will lose driving one way. in this house, that is a good litmus test for whether they really want to do something.

 

and all cousins and friends are not the same. if this is a cousin and friend who are nice and are good influences on ds, then i'd be more likely to.

 

fwiw,

ann

 

I should amend my post. Assuming that the boys will be well supervised and they all get along, yes, I'd drive him. I was only speaking to the drive time in my earlier post.

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Only if it were an occasional thing, and if someone else was returning the child the same day or if the child were spending the night. I would not drop the child off, drive home, go back to pick them up, and then drive home again all in one day. To me, that is too much.

 

DS13 has a friend who lives about 30 min. away and typically one of us will drop off and the other will return the kid so that each of us is only making one trip.

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