NotSoObvious Posted October 6, 2012 Share Posted October 6, 2012 After the fact, your 10 year old daughter told you her young, female soccer coach had videotaped all of the girls doing flips and cartwheels for "her college stuff." I'm trying to decide if I should say something to the coach about it not being appropriate, to get permission next time, etc. I also want her to know she doesn't have permission to use my dd's footage for anything. I feel like it's totally innocent, but it's still a big deal on principle. I talked with my dd about never allowing anyone to videotape her without my permission. What would you say or ask without sounding too snarky or blowing it out of proportion? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted October 6, 2012 Share Posted October 6, 2012 I would ask her about it, and tell her that she doesn't have your permission to use the footage she shot of your dd, and that you want it deleted immediately. Just say you had a personal security issue once, and it made you paranoid, so it doesn't sound like you think she has any sort of evil intentions. We had a similar situation, where an acquaintance put photos of our ds on her website. She clearly thought we were out of our mind for not wanting his pictures there, but she complied with our wishes and was very nice about it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ThatCyndiGirl Posted October 6, 2012 Share Posted October 6, 2012 Sounds like coach is just an immature girl who didn't think it through. I wouldn't be upset about it, no. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted October 6, 2012 Share Posted October 6, 2012 Wouldn't bother me. I had to do reports etc. on kids I worked with for my child development class in college. There was nothing nefarious involved and no one broadcast the information that I had collected. That was 25 years ago though before people were as concerned about permission slips and privacy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denisemomof4 Posted October 6, 2012 Share Posted October 6, 2012 Sounds like coach is just an immature girl who didn't think it through. I wouldn't be upset about it, no. :iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Impish Posted October 6, 2012 Share Posted October 6, 2012 Yes, since I NEVER consent to my kids images being taken/used. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NotSoObvious Posted October 6, 2012 Author Share Posted October 6, 2012 Yes, since I NEVER consent to my kids images being taken/used. This is me, too, which is why it is bothering me. I totally get that it was innocent though. I just don't want it to happen again, you know? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted October 6, 2012 Share Posted October 6, 2012 This is me, too, which is why it is bothering me. I totally get that it was innocent though. I just don't want it to happen again, you know? The only way you can be sure it doesn't happen again is to talk to her about it. You don't need to be confrontational; you can just tell her that your dd mentioned that the coach had videotaped her, and you wanted to let her know that you don't allow anyone to take your dd's photos or any kind of videos without your permission. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LittleIzumi Posted October 6, 2012 Share Posted October 6, 2012 I wouldn't freak out but I'd speak to her and not allow the footage to be used without signing a written permission detailing exactly what it's for. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
regentrude Posted October 6, 2012 Share Posted October 6, 2012 It would not bother me. Why does it bother you? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TranquilMind Posted October 6, 2012 Share Posted October 6, 2012 After the fact, your 10 year old daughter told you her young, female soccer coach had videotaped all of the girls doing flips and cartwheels for "her college stuff." I'm trying to decide if I should say something to the coach about it not being appropriate, to get permission next time, etc. I also want her to know she doesn't have permission to use my dd's footage for anything. I feel like it's totally innocent, but it's still a big deal on principle. I talked with my dd about never allowing anyone to videotape her without my permission. What would you say or ask without sounding too snarky or blowing it out of proportion? She absolutely needs a release form. But you may have signed it, so some language that covers this, when you signed her up for soccer. Dance was like that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wintermom Posted October 6, 2012 Share Posted October 6, 2012 I would talk with the coach to find out what the "college stuff" is, and how she's planning on using the video. If it's actually for a college course, I would expect there to be a more formal release form. It doesn't have to be a confrontation, just an information gathering discussion. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hillfarm Posted October 7, 2012 Share Posted October 7, 2012 You can always play dumb and ask her if there was a release form you were supposed to sign for her, since she took that video footage of your dd. If she says no or seems confused, you can explain that with all the security issues related to children these days, you just assumed that she would need some kind of release form signed, and then mention casually that perhaps it would be a good idea for her to draft one, outlining the purpose of the footage and what would happen to it after the project was over. "You just never know, these days...some parents are so quick to sue if their child's image gets used without their permission. I would hate for you to get in trouble.";) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted October 7, 2012 Share Posted October 7, 2012 You can always play dumb and ask her if there was a release form you were supposed to sign for her, since she took that video footage of your dd. If she says no or seems confused, you can explain that with all the security issues related to children these days, you just assumed that she would need some kind of release form signed, and then mention casually that perhaps it would be a good idea for her to draft one, outlining the purpose of the footage and what would happen to it after the project was over. "You just never know, these days...some parents are so quick to sue if their child's image gets used without their permission. I would hate for you to get in trouble.";) Very clever! :thumbup: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bethben Posted October 7, 2012 Share Posted October 7, 2012 When my son was in elementary school, they videotaped the whole class. In order to release any of it to the parents of those students, they had to have permission from every parent. I would require permission personally. Beth Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mirth Posted October 7, 2012 Share Posted October 7, 2012 I'm guessing you never signed a photo release? I don't like photos of my kids floating around on the internet either. Video is a bit weirder ... what "college stuff"? Could she have said video collage? Not that that makes it much better. You should ask her if has other footage of your child and ask her to delete it all if that's what you want. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommy22alyns Posted October 7, 2012 Share Posted October 7, 2012 That wouldn't bother me. Rebecca is rarely NOT doing flips. Am I missing something? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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