bairnmama Posted July 18, 2008 Share Posted July 18, 2008 I would like to know if/how it is possible to be able to sit and play games with your children when you're the only caregiver? How do you get all the schooling, cleaning, cooking, errands, yard maintenance, car maintenance, etc done and still have time for the games and play times without totally draining yourself? Let me give some background.... My dh is military and has recently moved into a unit that is totally unpredictable. We ususally don't know from one day to the next, sometimes from one hour to the next, whether he will be home that evening, or 3 days from now. Last week, from Wed to Mon I saw him about 3 hrs! I can't take a break from housework/yardwork because I never know when he'll be coming through and need something clean, easily findable, or a quick meal. He also cannot stand clutter AT ALL! Now, we were just informed that he has 3 back-to-back schools before a deployment that will basically mean we might not see him until next July. We've done the deployment thing many times before, but not with the added need of school in the mix. It seems even now, that by the time we get school done for the day, I have to do so many other things that we never get around to playing games together. I've been feeling especially guilty about this with my 3 yr old. I know my sig line shows the 'school' stuff he is doing, but those are generally during dd's school time so he doesn't feel left out. He can "do school" with us and with similar things. I keep hearing my self say "Not right now" or "Sorry, I have to finnish ___ or ____." so many times during the day when they want to do something with me. It doesn't help that dh was homeschooled and had one of those mothers that was able to teach 3 boys at home and keep a spotless house. Of course, he admits that his mom never played with them and so doesn't see this as an issue. It's just that he forgets that his dad was home most every night and weekend and could take them fishing, play ball in the evening while his mom cleaned up from supper, and such. I always said I refused to be that kind of mom, but I find myself turning into one just the same. Oh, and it also doesn't help that the closest family is 900 miles away, literally. I am open to any and all suggestions... so please, help me find a way to make time to play! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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