Julie in CA Posted September 30, 2012 Share Posted September 30, 2012 (edited) My ds works as a caregiver in an assisted living facility. It's a nice place, run as a ministry, and the people working there really do care (including my ds). There is one resident there that is in very sad shape. She cries to go home, but yet, this is now the only home she has. Because she's grown very attached to my ds, she cries for him and says the only two words she can..."hhhome" or "ppplease". :crying: I think that one of the problems is that she has no *stuff*. All she has in her room is her hospital bed (with institutional linens) and one coloring page such as a restaurant might have to keep kids busy. Her doctor gave her the coloring page on a visit, and that's the only item she owns other than her clothes. That wouldn't seem like any sort of home to me, either. :001_huh: The other residents have pictures of family, special bedding from home, bright pictures hanging on their walls, etc. This woman has nothing, and her family has only been to see her once. For the most part she sits, silently weeping, holding her hand out to my ds whenever she catches sight of him. It's breaking my heart just hearing my ds talk about it. The admins have let my ds know that no matter how much she begs, he needs to gently encourage her to let other caregivers help her. It's tough. My ds is a sweet young man, and is exactly who you'd like to have caring for an elderly relative, but he understands his job, and is no longer doing routine hands-on care for this particular resident, though he still stops for a moment as he passes, gives her a smile, and asks her how she is. At the same time, he's feeling really torn up about her situation, and it's hard for him to ignore her cries. I'm going to anonymously send a care package to this resident. If it has her name on it, they will give it to her, and they never need to know that I (or by extension, my ds) had anything to do with it. I'd like to buy her some pretty bedding, maybe a bedside lamp, and a couple of...maybe posters (?) to hang on her walls. If I can find some of the pretty ones that have different varieties of wildflowers, or birds, or colorful botanical prints, etc. I know it won't fix her situation, but if, even in some small part, it makes her feel better than a dismally bare room with only a hospital bed, it will be worth it. Will regular twin-size bedding fit a hospital bed? Do sheets need to have deep pockets, etc? What else should I send to cheer up her room/surroundings? :bigear: Edited September 30, 2012 by Julie in CA Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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