Soror Posted September 29, 2012 Share Posted September 29, 2012 (edited) Perhaps you might remember me posting about anxiety with using my OB back-up. I've used him the last 2 times and he has never gave me any hassle but we've never explicitly discussed the fact that I plan to have homebirths. I live in a rural area in a completely "non-crunchy" state. A lot of people are kind of hostile to the idea of hb's and I try not to bring it up unless asked. Anyway, I've had huge anxiety every visit because I've wondered if he would still be ok if we discussed it out right, kind of like don't ask- don't tell. However, the last visit I had gave me even more anxiety because I have no idea how much I'll be charged. So, finally after the last visit I talked to dh and told him we had to bring it out in the open because I couldn't take the anxiety anymore. So, dh brought up the billing issue. Good news there was he told me he thought the charges should be very minimal if I'm having a homebirth. His wife, who is also his nurse, was in the room and she mentioned about how doctors stress her out and she doesn't like being a patient so they had a homebirth. I was floored by that, as I know a lot of med professionals say that every women should be at the hospital in case of emergency so there is access to surgery equipment and all that jazz. He didn't say anything at all disparaging and was very supportive, which given our area is just astounding. He talked as if it was just a normal thing and considering I very, very rarely find anyone who has had a hb it just blew my mind. So, it is good for me that now if I get any harassment I can let them know that my OB is not concerned and they shouldn't be either. He is regarded as the best in our area as well, so that cannot hurt either. Next visit he told me that he would have a talk with the billing lady so they can give me an amount, which will be a load off as well. It is hard to budget when you have no idea if it will be $500 or $2500. Edited September 29, 2012 by soror Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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