walkermamaof4 Posted September 26, 2012 Share Posted September 26, 2012 Is it worth getting my ds diagnosed and on meds maybe? Let me describe him: He was adopted at age 13 months from Korea. He was in an orphanage there for 5 months and then a foster home. When he arrived we noticed almost immediately that, while he is super smiley and happy, he never wants to obey. never is not an exxageration. Even then if we said to stand up, he would lie down. If we said not to go in a room, he'd at least stick his toe over the threshold. Fast forward 6 years. He still argues 100% of the time despite 6 years of very consistent consequences for arguing and/or disobeying. We've tried varying consequences, read a ton of books, ask for lots of input from others. Nothing has helped. We did Brain Balance this summer to no avail. They swore he'd suddenly change 3-6 weeks after we finished as they claimed he was a late bloomer in responding. Ha. No change. He eats no gluten or dairy, takes pure vitamins, eats nothing that his IGG test says he has any intolerance to. For 4 weeks after pulling him off all of these items he was a maniac. That calmed after about 6 weeks total and now he is back to his normal self. The only change we saw was that he sometimes does nice things for people now, like holding doors. Before he would be the first to take advantage of others doing things for him. Now he actually tries. This is huge actually. Oh, and another huge thing - he sometimes shares now! And, if he has no off-limits foods it seems that he no longer wets the bed. But his impulsivity otherwise does not seem improved and he still argues incessantly. If he eats any grains I've noticed he really struggles with focusing. He stares a lot and gets very little done. If he gets red dyes, he literally spins in place and does crazy stuff. He hums and makes lots of noises all of the time. He kicks his desk endlessly. He says the first thing and does the first thing that comes to his mind. Very impulsive in that way. He runs ahead of us in parking lots. He wants to eat non-stop. He steals food/candy if he can find it. Now we lock up candy that the other kids get at birthdays/Christmas... and have eliminated all processed foods anyway. One day he can get 100 in math and the next day get everything wrong and take hours to do it. He likes to listen to audio books and will do so for hours while playing. He is very messy, can't manage cleaning up by himself, and leaves things all over the house. Nothing makes it to the right place. He yells out answers when it is other people's turn. He tells everyone what to do all of the time. He is constantly making up rules and declaring them. And he likes to tattle on others despite there being consequences daily for tattling. We realize this may be because he gets in trouble a whole lot more than the others. He is very selfish usually and very unkind. Unlike many stories I read of other kids sort of like him, he doesn't have a tremendous anger problem. He did when we first removed all of those foods-dairy, gluten... but it resolved. During that time he punched a hole in a wall. It was bad. I am glad that is over!!! He has fits when he is in trouble. But I've seen kids with much worse anger issues. Ok, so... has anyone experienced a child at all like this who has then experienced huge change from anything? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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