mom2scouts Posted September 25, 2012 Share Posted September 25, 2012 First some background: I have a next door neighbor with one child, a boy in K. I have a dd in K and the two children like to play together. I posted once before that my dd was getting annoyed because the boy wants to play with her all the time. He rings our doorbell at 8:30 am on Sunday mornings sometimes and frequently interrupts our dinner with requests to play. Now that PS is in session, dd seems happy to play with him on evenings and weekends when we're home. Recently the neighbor man confided to dh and I that he and his wife were having major marital issues and were on their way to divorce, despite his efforts to save the marriage. He said he was happy his son has our dd to play with because she is a good influence on the boy. Our dd is very mature for her age, has excellent speech, and is very coordinated. His son is extremely immature and small for his age, has poor speech, and is uncoordinated but is an otherwise intelligent child. Recently, the man asked what church we attend and we told him. We were happy to see them at church a few weeks later. The little boy is in dd's Sunday School class. This past weekend the wife moved out and the man has custody of the child. The boy came home from K and threw a tantrum because my dd couldn't play with him because she was on her way to dance. My dd loves dance. She's on the studio team and works very, very hard in her dance classes. The man told his son that she'd be back soon to play and I informed him that my dd had 3 dance classes in a row and probably wouldn't have any evening playtime. So...I'm sitting in the studio waiting room for the third class and the neighbor shows up to sign his son up for one of my dd's classes!:001_huh: This is a fun, but serious, dance studio! This boy doesn't have the attention span or coordination to be anything but a distraction in the class, but what do I do now? He would also be the only boy in a class full of girls who are very serious about dance. His son qualifies for the class by age, but I see this as being a huge distraction for my dd. I tried to steer the father to an all boys class that is a little more relaxed, but he seemed determined to have the boy in one of dd's class. I can't do anything to stop them from following us around and joining all the same activities, but I'm not happy about it. Don't tell me to talk to the parents about it. The mother has totally checked out of the family and the father is very needy and distracted right now by the disintegration of his family. I can be sensitive the the family's issues, but I'm not willing to do it at the expense of my young dd's passions! I'm afraid to even mention anything else she does! Should I just wait and see what happens? Is this weird? I'm not sure what to think. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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