Tammy Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 I thought this was so....on the mark, LOL! Which one are you? A friend....or a southern friend? FRIENDS VS. SOUTHERN FRIENDS FRIENDS: Never ask for food. SOUTHERN FRIENDS: Always bring the food. FRIENDS: Will say 'hello'. SOUTHERN FRIENDS: Will give you a big hug and a kiss. FRIENDS: Call your parents Mr. and Mrs. SOUTHERN FRIENDS: Call your parents Mom and Dad FRIENDS: Have never seen you cry. SOUTHERN FRIENDS: Cry with you. FRIENDS: Will eat at your dinner table and leave. SOUTHERN FRIENDS: Will spend hours there, talking, laughing, and just being together. FRIENDS: Know a few things about you. SOUTHERN FRIENDS: Could write a book with direct quotes from you. FRIENDS: Will leave you behind if that's what the crowd is doing. SOUTHERN FRIENDS: Will kick the whole crowds' back -ends that left you. FRIENDS: Would knock on your door. SOUTHERN FRIENDS: Walk right in and say, 'I'm home!' FRIENDS: will visit you in jail SOUTHERN FRIENDS: will spend the night in jail with you FRIENDS: will visit you in the hospital when you're sick SOUTHERN FRIENDS: will cut your grass and clean your house then come spend the night with you in the hospital FRIENDS: have you on speed dial SOUTHERN FRIENDS: have your number memorized FRIENDS: Are for a while. SOUTHERN FRIENDS: Are for life. FRIENDS: Might ignore this. SOUTHERN FRIENDS: Will forward this to all their Southern Friends Which one are you? Quote
stephanie Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 I thought this was so....on the mark, LOL! Which one are you? A friend....or a southern friend? FRIENDS VS. SOUTHERN FRIENDS FRIENDS: Never ask for food. SOUTHERN FRIENDS: Always bring the food. FRIENDS: Will say 'hello'. SOUTHERN FRIENDS: Will give you a big hug and a kiss. FRIENDS: Call your parents Mr. and Mrs. SOUTHERN FRIENDS: Call your parents Mom and Dad FRIENDS: Have never seen you cry. SOUTHERN FRIENDS: Cry with you. FRIENDS: Will eat at your dinner table and leave. SOUTHERN FRIENDS: Will spend hours there, talking, laughing, and just being together. FRIENDS: Know a few things about you. SOUTHERN FRIENDS: Could write a book with direct quotes from you. FRIENDS: Will leave you behind if that's what the crowd is doing. SOUTHERN FRIENDS: Will kick the whole crowds' back -ends that left you. FRIENDS: Would knock on your door. SOUTHERN FRIENDS: Walk right in and say, 'I'm home!' FRIENDS: will visit you in jail SOUTHERN FRIENDS: will spend the night in jail with you FRIENDS: will visit you in the hospital when you're sick SOUTHERN FRIENDS: will cut your grass and clean your house then come spend the night with you in the hospital FRIENDS: have you on speed dial SOUTHERN FRIENDS: have your number memorized FRIENDS: Are for a while. SOUTHERN FRIENDS: Are for life. FRIENDS: Might ignore this. SOUTHERN FRIENDS: Will forward this to all their Southern Friends Which one are you? Definitely a southern friend! All of my friends are as well, but what do ya expect? We're from as South as you can get in the US! Quote
Tracey in TX Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 Friends: Will openly give constructive criticism. Southern Friends: Will nod, give a hug and say "Bless Your Heart"! Too funny!! ETA: I'm mostly a Friend, but sometimes a Southern Friend. Quote
Remudamom Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 Hmmm, born and bred in Louisiana and raised in SC and Alabama. Nuff said. Quote
Tammy Posted July 17, 2008 Author Posted July 17, 2008 I was born and raised in SC...where were you? I was in Charleston! And hey....we even had our own accent, LOL! Quote
Jeannie in NJ Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 I am a Texan, born and raised, but have lived in NJ since meeting dh. Anyway, one way that I am a southern friend is that my mom taught me that you never, or almost never if you can help it, go visiting without bringing food, mostly baked goods lol. So now when my teen dd goes to her friends houses, she take cookies, muffins, cupcakes, etc . She wants to be a pastry chef and is always baking, much more than we could ever eat. So this gives her an outlet for giving away what she bakes, along with carrying on my southern tradition. So far, no-one here in NJ has turned down our baked goods lol. Quote
Just Me Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 Southern Friends: Will nod, give a hug and say "Bless Your Heart"! I am about as southern as you can get! BTW - did you know you can say anything about a person, as long as you follow up with "Bless her heart" For Example: That girl is the worst cook in the world, Bless her heart! The wind just blows through her empty head, Bless her heart. That girl can't carry a tune in a bucket, Bless her heart! She wears the ugliest clothes I have ever seen, Bless her heart. I promise you, in the South, this is perfectly acceptable! Quote
Trivium Academy Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 FRIENDS: Never ask for food. AND SOUTHERN FRIENDS: Always bring the food. FRIENDS: Will say 'hello'. AND SOUTHERN FRIENDS: Will give you a big hug and a kiss. FRIENDS: Call your parents Mr. and Mrs. or by their first names SOUTHERN FRIENDS: Cry with you. SOUTHERN FRIENDS: Will spend hours there, talking, laughing, and just being together. SOUTHERN FRIENDS: Could write a book with direct quotes from you. SOUTHERN FRIENDS: Will kick the whole crowds' back -ends that left you. FRIENDS: Would knock on your door. And then walk-in announcing I'm there, only if you're expecting me FRIENDS: will visit you in jail (if I wasn't involved with getting you there) SOUTHERN FRIENDS: will spend the night in jail with you (if I was involved with getting you there) SOUTHERN FRIENDS: will cut your grass and clean your house then come spend the night with you in the hospital SOUTHERN FRIENDS: have your number memorized SOUTHERN FRIENDS: Are for life. Mostly a Southern Friend. :) Quote
momofkhm Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 With my friend Kathy, definitely Southern! With my friend Denise, friend. With my friend Laura, a little of both. The talking thing is southern with all my friends! Quote
Just Me Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 FRIENDS: Never ask for food. AND FRIENDS: Call your parents Mr. and Mrs. or by their first names Real Southern - I mean like deep south southern - will call your parents Mr. ad Mrs. AND their first names! Mr. Herman and Mrs. Edith come to mind! Quote
King Alfred Academy Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 Real Southern - I mean like deep south southern - will call your parents Mr. ad Mrs. AND their first names! Mr. Herman and Mrs. Edith come to mind! :iagree: This has been my experience living the past 9 years in the South. Having been born and raised in the North, I have the urge to "defend" some of the above items, but I know it was just posted in fun. :001_smile: I found it very interesting though. Quote
Trivium Academy Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 I teach my kids that. ;) Mrs. Mary, Mr. Harry Quote
King Alfred Academy Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 I teach my kids that. ;) Mrs. Mary, Mr. Harry My boys, having been born and raised in the South, will continue addressing adults this way. We may get funny looks once we move to CA, but I feel it is definitely a sign of respect. It's a good thing. Quote
Julpost Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 I'm a wanna-be southern friend but honestly, just a friend. I just don't have the time or energy to do the things I wish I could. I'm more and more the introvert I never thought I'd be. Just another excuse though......this was good food for thought. My neighbor invited me over and I had a ton of excuses why I couldn't go. I think I will....and maybe bring some bagels I just baked.:) Quote
Tracey in TX Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 My boys, having been born and raised in the South, will continue addressing adults this way. We may get funny looks once we move to CA, but I feel it is definitely a sign of respect. It's a good thing. In Texas "Miss Mary" and "Mr. Joe" are used until the children are school age. It's replaced by Mr. and Mrs. Smith. Funny story: I use "bud" as a nickname for my boys often. Our next door neighbor's last name is "Budd". For the longest time DD called Mr. Budd, "hey, buddy/bud"!! :) Quote
Guest Virginia Dawn Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 Me too, mostly a friend but a Southern Friend when it really counts. Quote
Soph the vet Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 Even though I grew up in New England and have lived in Minnesota almost my entire adult life I am definitely Southern. Goes over real well with my Scandinavian in-laws;)! Friend: Says "hello" Southern Friend: Gives a hug and big how are you? Scandinavian Friend: Says "hello" after you say it first and stiffens if hugged and lets out a little "uff da"!:lol: Quote
GSMP Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 I am a Southern Friend even though I was born a Northerner.....I was transplanted to VA at age 12. 32 years in the south makes me an official Southerner.....:lol: I've seen that before....It always cracks me up. It's funny living close to the military who first arrive in VA. I have adult friends who will tell my children to call them by their given name. That is not permitted. They are to be addressed as Mr & Mrs Last name or Mrs Ginger etc. Have you ever run across the people who are offended when you say "yes mam, or yes sir"? That is interesting to me, especially their reasons for not liking those terms. Quote
jonesloonybin Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 The children call other adults..Miss or Mr. Ex: Mrs Jane Smith would be Miss Jane. Quote
Jeannie in NJ Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 when I helped with VBS last week, I said that the church kids calling me Miss Jeannie made me feel like I was back in Texas. Quote
PrairieAir Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 My dad was from New Jersey and his family had lived there for at least several generations. My mom was raised in Texas (born on a naval base in CA) by southern parents (Mississippi and Louisiana going several generations back on both sides). My grandmother was a very restrained (and also emotionally stunted) woman, so her version of southern was a bit "off". I've spent most of my life in southern or midwestern states. The result is that I am somewhere in between the two types--I'd do anything for a friend, but I have that outward restraint and something that warns me not to overstep my bounds and interfere too much. Kansas seems to be the right place for me--right in the middle:D Quote
Old Dominion Heather Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 Oh, Southern. Absolutely. Witness my ongoing attempts to force Elaine to come and visit! Quote
lynn Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 I don't want the word "southern" attached. I have not had very good experience with these SouthernBell acquaintences. That's all 'I'll say about that. Quote
Karenciavo Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 Friends: Will openly give constructive criticism. Southern Friends: Will nod, give a hug and say "Bless Your Heart"! You got that right. I'm a NJ friend, I'll help you how ever I can and won't be a phony about it. And I won't annoy all my other NJ friends by forwarding this to them. :p Quote
Tammyla Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 LoL...I'm a Southern Friend, born and raised except for that jail thang...:grouphug: Quote
Susan in KY Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 [quote name=Just Me;386571 BTW - did you know you can say anything about a person' date=' as long as you follow up with "Bless her heart" For Example: That girl is the worst cook in the world, Bless her heart! The wind just blows through her empty head, Bless her heart. That girl can't carry a tune in a bucket, Bless her heart! She wears the ugliest clothes I have ever seen, Bless her heart. I promise you, in the South, this is perfectly acceptable! This is totally true, every last word. I was so shocked by this as a Northerner moving to Kentucky! :001_smile: Quote
Dayle in Guatemala Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 Born in California, raised, for the most part in Northern Minnesota and I'm a southern friend.:001_huh: I guess I'm just warm hearted. Bless my heart.:) Quote
Retired Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 My kids address adults with Mrs. or Mrs. We even say yes Ma'am and no Ma'am to the fast food drive up window. When I moved in my neighborhood they brought me food. I grew up in Alabama. I know to the rest of the US we may think we are slow and dumb (Think of all TV program making fun of southern accent). Oh and I have had many a northern/western person tell me that the Yes Ma'am/sir thing can not be tolerated because it was a reminder of slavery. Well, I tell them to find a Southern African American and see what will happen if there kids forget to say Ma'am or sir. I think they use the excuse to raise disrespectful sounding kids! Just kidding! Before the last statement makes someone mad. I have friends right here in Alabama who are transplants from Michigan and New Jersey. There kids are not disrespectful except to my southern ear. I still don't like kids just saying yes or no to an adult. These kids are in my Sunday school class. I have to bite my tongue to keep from correcting them. Southern Kids are corrected for not saying Ma'am or sir. Quote
K-FL Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 We're from as South as you can get in the US! Sorry, but you're not. Key West, FL is the Southernmost Point in the continental US. You guys are WAY NORTH to us. :001_smile: Quote
Sharon in SC Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 This fellow Charlestonian is definitely a Southern Friend! :-D Quote
Sharon in SC Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 And hey....we even had our own accent, LOL! Yep, it's called Geech. ;-P My fil's accent was the epitome of Charlestonian accents! Quote
Spy Car Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 FRIENDS VS. SOUTHERN FRIENDS VS. CALIFORNIA FRIENDS FRIENDS: Never ask for food. SOUTHERN FRIENDS: Always bring the food. CALIFORNIA FRIENDS: Will ask, “is this organic?” FRIENDS: Will say 'hello'. SOUTHERN FRIENDS: Will give you a big hug and a kiss. CALIFORNIA FRIENDS: Will give you a “terrorist fist bump” FRIENDS: Call your parents Mr. and Mrs. SOUTHERN FRIENDS: Call your parents Mom and Dad CALIFORNIA FRIENDS: Call your parents Fred and Mitzy FRIENDS: Have never seen you cry. SOUTHERN FRIENDS: Cry with you. CALIFORNIA FRIENDS: Are always “stoked”. FRIENDS: Will eat at your dinner table and leave. SOUTHERN FRIENDS: Will spend hours there, talking, laughing, and just being together. CALIFORNIA FRIENDS: Will chat with you between taking cell-phone calls. FRIENDS: Know a few things about you. SOUTHERN FRIENDS: Could write a book with direct quotes from you. CALIFORNIA FRIENDS: could help you find a ghost-writer and a literary agent FRIENDS: Will leave you behind if that's what the crowd is doing. SOUTHERN FRIENDS: Will kick the whole crowds' back -ends that left you. CALIFORNIA FRIENDS: Will text you their GPS coordinates FRIENDS: Would knock on your door. SOUTHERN FRIENDS: Walk right in and say, 'I'm home!' CALIFORNIA FRIENDS: Will buzz you through the security systems FRIENDS: will visit you in jail SOUTHERN FRIENDS: will spend the night in jail with you CALIFORNIA FRIENDS: will get you a hot-shot lawyer so no one spends the night in jail FRIENDS: will visit you in the hospital when you're sick SOUTHERN FRIENDS: will cut your grass and clean your house then come spend the night with you in the hospital CALIFORNIA FRIENDS: Aren’t really “comfortable” with hospitals and illness FRIENDS: have you on speed dial SOUTHERN FRIENDS: have your number memorized CALIFORNIA FRIENDS: Dial via “voice-recognition”. FRIENDS: Are for a while. SOUTHERN FRIENDS: Are for life. CALIFORNIA FRIENDS: As long as it “all good”. Bill (from california) Quote
Tarheel Heather Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 Real Southern - I mean like deep south southern - will call your parents Mr. ad Mrs. AND their first names! Mr. Herman and Mrs. Edith come to mind! I'm Ms. Heather to the neighborhood kids. Quote
newbie Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 FRIENDS VS. SOUTHERN FRIENDS VS. CALIFORNIA FRIENDS FRIENDS: Never ask for food. SOUTHERN FRIENDS: Always bring the food. CALIFORNIA FRIENDS: Will ask, “is this organic?†FRIENDS: Will say 'hello'. SOUTHERN FRIENDS: Will give you a big hug and a kiss. CALIFORNIA FRIENDS: Will give you a “terrorist fist bump†FRIENDS: Call your parents Mr. and Mrs. SOUTHERN FRIENDS: Call your parents Mom and Dad CALIFORNIA FRIENDS: Call your parents Fred and Mitzy FRIENDS: Have never seen you cry. SOUTHERN FRIENDS: Cry with you. CALIFORNIA FRIENDS: Are always “stokedâ€. FRIENDS: Will eat at your dinner table and leave. SOUTHERN FRIENDS: Will spend hours there, talking, laughing, and just being together. CALIFORNIA FRIENDS: Will chat with you between taking cell-phone calls. FRIENDS: Know a few things about you. SOUTHERN FRIENDS: Could write a book with direct quotes from you. CALIFORNIA FRIENDS: could help you find a ghost-writer and a literary agent FRIENDS: Will leave you behind if that's what the crowd is doing. SOUTHERN FRIENDS: Will kick the whole crowds' back -ends that left you. CALIFORNIA FRIENDS: Will text you their GPS coordinates FRIENDS: Would knock on your door. SOUTHERN FRIENDS: Walk right in and say, 'I'm home!' CALIFORNIA FRIENDS: Will buzz you through the security systems FRIENDS: will visit you in jail SOUTHERN FRIENDS: will spend the night in jail with you CALIFORNIA FRIENDS: will get you a hot-shot lawyer so no one spends the night in jail FRIENDS: will visit you in the hospital when you're sick SOUTHERN FRIENDS: will cut your grass and clean your house then come spend the night with you in the hospital CALIFORNIA FRIENDS: Aren’t really “comfortable†with hospitals and illness FRIENDS: have you on speed dial SOUTHERN FRIENDS: have your number memorized CALIFORNIA FRIENDS: Dial via “voice-recognitionâ€. FRIENDS: Are for a while. SOUTHERN FRIENDS: Are for life. CALIFORNIA FRIENDS: As long as it “all goodâ€. Bill (from california) Bill, You hit it right on the button. Jet(from california, too) Quote
Jenny in Atl Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 I'm off in no man's land... My folks are from CA but moved to NYC, where I was born and raised till 13. Then moved to Gawga, and I have been here since 1978. Married an Atlanta native (yes there are just a few), and his momma sounded and looked a lot like Paula Dean (both from South GA). I can still hear her laugh. "That baby needs some sugar!" :001_huh: So.... I have no idea what the heck I am. :lol: Maybe a friend with a side of biscuits and gravy, and make it red eye! Quote
3lilreds in NC Posted July 17, 2008 Posted July 17, 2008 I would like to note that just being born in the South doesn't mean you corner the market on being a good (as described here) friend! :D Born & bred in Michigan but I am the kind of friend who will be in your life as much as you want me - it so depends on the person. Some people need more "personal space" than others. Quote
GSMP Posted July 18, 2008 Posted July 18, 2008 Oh and I have had many a northern/western person tell me that the Yes Ma'am/sir thing can not be tolerated because it was a reminder of slavery. Well, I tell them to find a Southern African American and see what will happen if there kids forget to say Ma'am or sir. I think they use the excuse to raise disrespectful sounding kids! Just kidding! Before the last statement makes someone mad. I have friends right here in Alabama who are transplants from Michigan and New Jersey. There kids are not disrespectful except to my southern ear. I still don't like kids just saying yes or no to an adult. These kids are in my Sunday school class. I have to bite my tongue to keep from correcting them. Southern Kids are corrected for not saying Ma'am or sir. Yes...I have heard that excuse also for not saying ma'am or sir. That doesn't work around here.......You hang in this community and white, black, latino....you'd better say yes ma'am yes sir.....Strangers won't hesitate to comment on how rude you are if you don't.....:lol: FRIENDS VS. SOUTHERN FRIENDS VS. CALIFORNIA FRIENDS FRIENDS: Never ask for food. SOUTHERN FRIENDS: Always bring the food. CALIFORNIA FRIENDS: Will ask, “is this organic?†FRIENDS: Will say 'hello'. SOUTHERN FRIENDS: Will give you a big hug and a kiss. CALIFORNIA FRIENDS: Will give you a “terrorist fist bump†FRIENDS: Call your parents Mr. and Mrs. SOUTHERN FRIENDS: Call your parents Mom and Dad CALIFORNIA FRIENDS: Call your parents Fred and Mitzy FRIENDS: Have never seen you cry. SOUTHERN FRIENDS: Cry with you. CALIFORNIA FRIENDS: Are always “stokedâ€. FRIENDS: Will eat at your dinner table and leave. SOUTHERN FRIENDS: Will spend hours there, talking, laughing, and just being together. CALIFORNIA FRIENDS: Will chat with you between taking cell-phone calls. FRIENDS: Know a few things about you. SOUTHERN FRIENDS: Could write a book with direct quotes from you. CALIFORNIA FRIENDS: could help you find a ghost-writer and a literary agent FRIENDS: Will leave you behind if that's what the crowd is doing. SOUTHERN FRIENDS: Will kick the whole crowds' back -ends that left you. CALIFORNIA FRIENDS: Will text you their GPS coordinates FRIENDS: Would knock on your door. SOUTHERN FRIENDS: Walk right in and say, 'I'm home!' CALIFORNIA FRIENDS: Will buzz you through the security systems FRIENDS: will visit you in jail SOUTHERN FRIENDS: will spend the night in jail with you CALIFORNIA FRIENDS: will get you a hot-shot lawyer so no one spends the night in jail FRIENDS: will visit you in the hospital when you're sick SOUTHERN FRIENDS: will cut your grass and clean your house then come spend the night with you in the hospital CALIFORNIA FRIENDS: Aren’t really “comfortable†with hospitals and illness FRIENDS: have you on speed dial SOUTHERN FRIENDS: have your number memorized CALIFORNIA FRIENDS: Dial via “voice-recognitionâ€. FRIENDS: Are for a while. SOUTHERN FRIENDS: Are for life. CALIFORNIA FRIENDS: As long as it “all goodâ€. Bill (from california) I can so see this......:lol: I don't want the word "southern" attached. I have not had very good experience with these SouthernBell acquaintences. That's all 'I'll say about that. I'm sorry about that.....It doesn't sound like you have a good time at all with the SouthernBelles near you. :grouphug: Quote
ereks mom Posted July 18, 2008 Posted July 18, 2008 Real Southern - I mean like deep south southern - will call your parents Mr. ad Mrs. AND their first names! Mr. Herman and Mrs. Edith come to mind! How true! That's how I was taught to show respect to my parents' friends, and my dc were taught that too. Quote
ereks mom Posted July 18, 2008 Posted July 18, 2008 I don't want the word "southern" attached. I have not had very good experience with these SouthernBell acquaintences. That's all 'I'll say about that. Most people rave about Southern Hospitality. I'm sorry to hear that you've had a bad experience. Quote
Lizzie in Ma Posted July 18, 2008 Posted July 18, 2008 Have you ever run across the people who are offended when you say "yes mam, or yes sir"? That is interesting to me, especially their reasons for not liking those terms. We get that a LOT in my neck of the woods. I will never forget a tirade some lunatic went on about it when I had my first job. We were trained to be polite and say "sir" and "ma'am". It went a little like this... (in a low shriek rising to a loud shriek) "Ma'am????? DO I LOOK LIKE A M'A'AM young lady? Do I look OLD to you? I'll give you ma'am......etc. I was 15 working in a bakery. It has happened to me and in my earshot more times that I can count. Gotta love the Northeast. :) Oh, don't forget when a polite dh opens or holds the door for a woman and she gets in his face asking " Did I ask for your help? Do I LOOK incapable of working a door for myself?" Sadly, also not uncommon around here. I am blessed to be and have friends that behave like Southern friends even if we are not. Quote
Leah Posted July 18, 2008 Posted July 18, 2008 So true! You nailed it. Leah (another Californian) Quote
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