Plucky Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 She has a good heart at her core, but holy moly her self-centeredness lately has been ridiculous. I'm one that bends over backwards for my kids and I have had to just reign in my generosity since she's been such a pill. My oldest teen son was not perfect, but he was always open and loving toward me. Not so with dd right now. :glare: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Excelsior! Academy Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 Yep. Right there with you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MamaT Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 :seeya: Right there with you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AK_Mom4 Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 Been There - Done That. Survived to get her launched off to college. Can I have the T-shirt now? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LibraryLover Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 Oldest and youngest children seem to have the lock on snot. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Plucky Posted September 22, 2012 Author Share Posted September 22, 2012 Yep. Right there with you. Bless you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Plucky Posted September 22, 2012 Author Share Posted September 22, 2012 :seeya: Right there with you. :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Plucky Posted September 22, 2012 Author Share Posted September 22, 2012 Been There - Done That. Survived to get her launched off to college. Can I have the T-shirt now? We need to come up with a witty tshirt slogan for surviving it. :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Plucky Posted September 22, 2012 Author Share Posted September 22, 2012 Oldest and youngest children seem to have the lock on snot. :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rain Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 Me, too. Even my mom, who is usually in love with dd, has been telling her lately how bratty she's being. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TranquilMind Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 :seeya: Right there with you. Here too! Can you all make room for me too? We are going to have a very large gathering, I suspect... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
freeindeed Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 :grouphug: I've got a preteen daughter like that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DianeW88 Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 How old is she? Because they fall into pit at 14 and don't really climb out until they're about 16. After that it's much better. Hang on, you're in for a ride. :auto: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blakereese Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 :grouphug: I am dreading those years, I know it is going to be hard. My DD is only 6 and already has that sassy girl thing going on, I can't even imagine how she'll be at 12. And I know the things I did and said. I was a very good girl in general, but just mean to my family. I definitely feel bad about it now. So my payback is coming! Love the T shirt!! :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amyco Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 How old is she? Because they fall into pit at 14 and don't really climb out until they're about 16. After that it's much better. Hang on, you're in for a ride. :auto: Nooooooo!!!! Say it ain't so! (Actually I think my own mother said this about me--that I was lucky to see 15). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
crazyfordlr Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 Yeah, I have the mother's curse...."I hope you grow up and have one just like you!!!!" Now I know why my own mother drank and smoked so much and had silver hair! ME! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sheryl Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 YES! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
caroljenn Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 My daughter is so much nicer then I was at that age. Sometimes she will do something bratty and I will just cringe because I know I was just horrible when I was a teenager. Ugh! The things I did and said and thought make me sick now, especially since my parents have passed away. I wish I could have changed so many things!! But I grew up, and your daughter and mine will too. I just don't let my daughter get away with ANY back talk, no rolling eyes, no closing doors when I'm talking to her- not ever. I think she's giving up on it, the times that she is bratty, because she's in for a 10 minute lecture on everything I've ever done for her and how she's being so bratty. Haha!! Good luck! p.s. My very wise sister used to say, "God makes teenagers bratty so that you will WANT to cut the apron strings when it's time. Otherwise, we would just hold on to them forever." True that! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GWOB Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 I have a 12yo dd. I just don't know if I will survive. I know people survive hormonal daughters, but I think they must be on some seriously good drugs. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TranquilMind Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 How old is she? Because they fall into pit at 14 and don't really climb out until they're about 16. After that it's much better. Hang on, you're in for a ride. :auto: Oh, this is SOOOOOO true. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Unicorn. Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 I have two. My dds just turned 14. One of them actually isn't too bad. Her twin however, has been a teenager since birth. We used to tell people she was 1 going on 16. OMGosh, I feel sorry for dd1 having to have her for a sister! Oh, and I have always been told they don't climb out of it til their 20's. I hope I survive that long. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Plucky Posted September 22, 2012 Author Share Posted September 22, 2012 How old is she? Because they fall into pit at 14 and don't really climb out until they're about 16. After that it's much better. Hang on, you're in for a ride. :auto: Oh, yeah. If I walk on egg shells and am not my annoying self then she is much more tolerable. :tongue_smilie: I'm just much more annoying than I every dreamed. LOL Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Plucky Posted September 22, 2012 Author Share Posted September 22, 2012 My daughter is so much nicer then I was at that age. Sometimes she will do something bratty and I will just cringe because I know I was just horrible when I was a teenager. Ugh! The things I did and said and thought make me sick now, especially since my parents have passed away. I wish I could have changed so many things!! But I grew up, and your daughter and mine will too. I just don't let my daughter get away with ANY back talk, no rolling eyes, no closing doors when I'm talking to her- not ever. I think she's giving up on it, the times that she is bratty, because she's in for a 10 minute lecture on everything I've ever done for her and how she's being so bratty. Haha!! Good luck! p.s. My very wise sister used to say, "God makes teenagers bratty so that you will WANT to cut the apron strings when it's time. Otherwise, we would just hold on to them forever." True that! Very true! I was much worse, but I also didn't have the involvement that my dd has. I also agree that it helps cut apron strings. My ds was wonderful, not perfect, and he put us through fits the last few months. Finally, he got cold feet about university and needed a nudge. He is so stinking happy now at college. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Plucky Posted September 22, 2012 Author Share Posted September 22, 2012 Here are shirts for all! http://www.cafepress.com/mf/15142961/i-survived-teenage-daughters-ash-grey-tshirt_tshirt Love it! I'd never wear it of course or I'd never hear the end of it. The only revenge is when your dd has a dd of her own. Really. :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Plucky Posted September 22, 2012 Author Share Posted September 22, 2012 Me, too. Even my mom, who is usually in love with dd, has been telling her lately how bratty she's being. I send scanned math work that ds helps tutor dd. I name it Bratty______. He laughs and I burn off some steam. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Plucky Posted September 22, 2012 Author Share Posted September 22, 2012 Here too! Can you all make room for me too? We are going to have a very large gathering, I suspect... Scooting over for TM. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Mungo Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 Two of them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Plucky Posted September 22, 2012 Author Share Posted September 22, 2012 :grouphug: I am dreading those years, I know it is going to be hard. My DD is only 6 and already has that sassy girl thing going on, I can't even imagine how she'll be at 12. And I know the things I did and said. I was a very good girl in general, but just mean to my family. I definitely feel bad about it now. So my payback is coming! Love the T shirt!! :lol: It may not be so bad, although I've heard high maintenance young girls are high maintenance teens. Just so you know this dd was very low maintenance. She's not super high maint. now but she is easily annoyed. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Plucky Posted September 22, 2012 Author Share Posted September 22, 2012 I have a 12yo dd. I just don't know if I will survive. I know people survive hormonal daughters, but I think they must be on some seriously good drugs. I have a 12dd & 15dd. They take turns torturing me at least .LOL Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Plucky Posted September 22, 2012 Author Share Posted September 22, 2012 Two of them. Me, too. But right now only the one makes me grind my teeth daily. Always a crisis here. Ugh. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Plucky Posted September 22, 2012 Author Share Posted September 22, 2012 I have a 12yo dd. I just don't know if I will survive. I know people survive hormonal daughters, but I think they must be on some seriously good drugs. The good news is that daughters stick around more from what I've seen and read. If we can survive them we may become their friends. I really hope so. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
speedmom4 Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 I'm glad to know we aren't the only ones!! :tongue_smilie: Elise in NC Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LaxMom Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 I figure I get my t-shirt when I check in (to Betty Ford or some other quiet place) after launching the second one. See you all in Group! :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kewb Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 My 12 year old is starting down this path. It is not pretty and I am not sure both of us will make it to the other side. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mom31257 Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 How old is she? Because they fall into pit at 14 and don't really climb out until they're about 16. After that it's much better. Hang on, you're in for a ride. :auto: Really??? Yeah!!!! I hope it holds true for dd. She is a great girl, but she's so opposite of me in many ways. I don't get much drama of other girls, clothes, or such. Hers comes out over school more than anything else. It is better than last year, though, so maybe the "16 thing" being on the horizon is going to work! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
butterflymommy Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 I have a brooding piranha 15 year son and DD is almost 14 and can be oh so haughty. When she gets snotty I tell her plainly that she's being horrid and dole out some punishment like cleaning bathrooms. Making them do menial work makes a huge difference in their attitude. I highly recommend it! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KungFuPanda Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 How old is she? Because they fall into pit at 14 and don't really climb out until they're about 16. After that it's much better. Hang on, you're in for a ride. :auto: Hanging in until January when we see 16. I'm not sure we'll make it that far. My sister just moved near me. Her oldest is a few months older than mine. So, I now have local family support, BUT I also have ANOTHER angsty, artsy teen in my life. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris in VA Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 I've had to watch my sarcasm and any complaining re dh, because dd picks it up and I notice it in the way she treats both of us. She makes me feel dumpy, deaf and dim on a regular basis. I'm taking my Thick Skin/Calm Demeanor pills every.stinkin.day. from now on. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amber in SJ Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 When my dd (now 18) was 13-16 I didn't think both of us were going to make it through. She would say hurtful, horrible things to me on a daily basis. She now calls me daily from college to tell me how much she loves me and how glad she is that I am her mom. Our biggest problem was we are too much alike. My currently 15yo dd is a different story. A completely different personality and I have much thicker skin this time around. The 15 yo and dh are personality twins, so I know how to handle her. She drives him bonkers. My almost 10 yo dd is like the 18yo on personality steroids. I am terrified of her teenage years. I may need meds. I think I am going to be too tired to parent by the time ds gets to that age. Hugs from the trenches, Amber in SJ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Momma2Many66 Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 My oldest dd was an angel as a young teen and throughout most of her teen years. Very sweet, very gentle and very helpful with chores and keeping up with her schooling. Then she turned 19 and started college ( still lived at home) and boy did the "attitude" come big time ! She and I knocked heads constantly and had lots of "turf battles" as she declared her independence from us. She was scarcastic, snotty and liked to point out what I was doing wrong all the time. She was like this until she moved out at 21 and got married, slowly she changed and moved into a semi-normal person and became more humble again. Now she is 24 and a mother to a little whirlwind baby girl (15 months) who is going through the terrible twos a little early. Her own daughter keeps her hopping and always on her toes. My daughter is now a real sweetheart again, she is my best friend again, she is on the phone with me for several hours a day and lives just 3 or 4 blocks away from us. We get along great now and are all super close, but those years of 19 to 21 were horrid ! Hang in there, they do return to being human eventually ! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amber in SJ Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 I have a marriage & family therapist friend who used to tell me that teenagers are an optical illusion. They look like big people and so we expect big people behavior out of them when in fact their brains are suddenly more like toddler brains. This helped me. I reminded myself daily that I had survived the terrible twos and I could survive this too. I also called my mom and apologized, many, many times. My mom would always say; "Oh honey, I don't remember that. It wasn't that bad." When I know it was. This would give me hope that, much like the pain of childbirth, I would forget the bad parts of raising teenagers. Amber in SJ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KidsHappen Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 I am down to the final two. I guess they figured that they had to up their game because they are definitely more work than the first three. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hillfarm Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 I've got a 13yo here, 14 next month. I told her the other day, "We can work hard and make the best of the next few years, or we can set up our battle lines right now and be absolutely miserable. My job is to do everything I can to mold you into a person who has a good chance at being a happy, well-educated, productive, well-adjusted adult. I plan to do my job or die trying. If you are smart, you will make the most of this time and learn all you can. If you are not smart, you can work really hard to alienate someone who has your best interests at heart, who knows much more about the world than you do, and who holds your purse strings. I suggest you be smart about this." (I was on a rampage!) I do sometimes get the attitude stuff, but more often what drives me insane is the lack of personal responsiblity. Hair ties strewn all over every room in the house. Shoes here, a sock there. A magazine left on the floor. Procrastinating regarding finishing a project and then crying the blues and implying that I didn't do my part to help her finish. I am sure that this, too, shall pass. But it is mighty irritating while it is still lingering around. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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