busymama7 Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 Only my oldest now 15 has ever been in school of any kind and he only went to K. I am at a point in my marriage that this may be the only solution.(to stop homeschooling). I don't want to discuss the particulars of that but what a I am wondering is if I should do it now. Some details. I would have kids in 2, 5, 7, 9 and 10. The 3 younger ones I'm not worried about at all. I know the schools have to take them and they would adjust at some point no matter when I do it. The two high schoolers? Well that's not going to go well no matter what anyways. I have a friend who enrolled her then junior and essentially he went to school for two years and just did t get a diploma. I'm on with that(or as ok as I can be) as they will go to college. But would it be better to wait to a semester break? They can't catch up 3 or so weeks of school work! I am due in 6 weeks with baby 8. I thinking that if they are going to end up in PS anyways why not do it now rather than say next year because then I wouldn't have to homeschool with a newborn. We are very involved and happy in a thriving co op. I think I can cover my obligations there but it will be kinda messy. This will be a huge shock and upset to my kids whom have never had any desire to go to school. Better now or with warning? Like next school year. Ugh. This stinks. I was so happy with how our year was going. Happy with our curriculum and schedule etc. I am not even that worried about folding in a new baby as everything was smooth and good. Everything except my marriage :(. I just don't think we can continue having this between us and I can't handle not being supported and valued for what I'm doing anymore. I think it is inevitable. The question is when? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IsabelC Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 Sounds like you have a lot going on at the moment :grouphug: I wish I had an answer for you. My initial feeling is that having some time for your kids to prepare before they hit school would be best, if that can be managed. You said they're going to be shocked and maybe not happy about going to school, so maybe it wouldn't be so hard if they had a definite plan to get ready for it. But on the other hand, you need to think about you, your hubby and the new little one. Can you cope until a more convenient time for your kids to start school? Keeping your family together is a big priority, and if sending them to school straight away is the only way to do this, there's no point in you feeling bad about throwing them in the deep end. They might not love it, but they will cope. So sorry you are being confronted with this difficult choice, especially now with the baby coming. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AK_Mom4 Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 :grouphug: For the high schoolers, I would definitely recommend waiting until the semester break if you can. I think catchup is nearly impossible mid-semester. I think changes with a baby due in 6 weeks can be especially hard on everyone. Sticking it out til the new semester starts might not be the perfect solution, but would probably make the transition easier. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TravelingChris Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 Is there any reason the high schoolers have to go to school? I mean, there are plenty of ways that high schoolers can do work independently. Because while I can see how all the kids could be unhappy, the ones who it really matters is the high schoolers, particularly if you are in an area where there previous work will not count. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BookMama Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 My 2 cents: My kiddos (6th, 3rd, 2nd) have done virtually nothing yet this school year in PS except play Get to Know You games. In high school it's different, I'm sure, but the first few weeks have been throw-away for us. Plus, when I put the oldest kiddo in school after HS it took a full semester for him to "sink" to the academic level of his classmates. With the older kids, I might solicit their input. They may surprise you. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amy g. Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 Can your highs schoolers go to community college instead of PS? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
busymama7 Posted September 22, 2012 Author Share Posted September 22, 2012 Thanks for the support. Yes I am considering sending just the middle kids. My highschoolers could do something else. But what about co op?!?!? My middle kids would be pretty much devestated if I kept going with the older two and it wouldn't make my life any easier. So I guess we would just quit anyways. :( I know this is a bad time to do this but I just keep thinking that if I can't avoid it anyways I want to do it before the baby for selfish reasons. I could enjoy the baby without having to worry about school. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
the4Rs Posted September 22, 2012 Share Posted September 22, 2012 If you could wait to semester break, I would. It gives you and the kids time to adjust to the changes. And time to make sure you are putting the high schoolers in the best place for them, PS or maybe something else... and time for your husband to know you are making changes for your marriage and hopefully begin heal what's going on there. If you give them time to adjust it might be less stress on you and them. To much stress would not be good for your right now.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
busymama7 Posted September 22, 2012 Author Share Posted September 22, 2012 Can your highs schoolers go to community college instead of PS? That would be awesome but for the state to pay for it they have to be enrolled in a high school program and they need to be 16(some exceptions for 15 year olds) We can't afford to pay for it out of pocket right now with no warning/preparation. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
busymama7 Posted September 22, 2012 Author Share Posted September 22, 2012 I can't believe that I'd actually suggest this, but what about K12 or whatever they call it in your state? If not, I'd put the 9th in NOW so he can graduate. Yes, he'll be a bit behind but better than if he went in at semester. The 10th, we'll here he won't graduate, not with his class. It would be possible to catch up with K12 work most likely, but going year round. I can see how this might be a better solution but it would t eliminate the problem of having them home all day. They are already fairly independent except for the subjects we do as a family. They are great about doing what they need to do each day etc. so using an indepedant program won't really solve the problem as my dh sees it. Although it might be good enough if the middle kids were gone. I would hate for the middle ones to feel rejected or sad that they have to go while the older 2 stay home :(. But yes maybe hurrying and getti f the 9th grader in would be good. Sigh. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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