Remudamom Posted July 17, 2008 Share Posted July 17, 2008 One of my dds is a very talented artist. She is also extremely lazy, and will do only what needs to be done to get by. This is a pattern with everything she does. Piano, horses, chores and art. We have told her that we feel she needs to learn some art basics, the grammar of her talent. I have been asking her to do a sketch of something simple everyday this week. She slaps something on paper and barely restrains herself from tossing it at me. (She may be lazy but she ain't stupid.) I'm sure y'all can imagine what my reaction to her attitude is. Problem is, she's just as bull headed as I am. So tonight, when I handed her a new sketching pad, and saw the attitude coming on, I calmly told her that her dad and I felt she needed to develop certain areas with her drawing, and that if she wanted to pout about her art assignments she could live in her room until she was 20. She feels we squash all her sponteneity (sp??) by having her draw. She got this idea from a SpongeBob episode, btw. We have very dramatic "I can't draw unless I feeeeel like it." We went through the same crap with piano for a while.... "I neeeed to play by ear, I can't read notes." She plays beautifully, and not nearly as well by ear as she thinks she does. Anyhow, how does one know when to ease back and when to push? It's summer, sketching is easy, she's pouting. If she were in PS she'd be taking art and loving it. I know part of this is just a me/her thing. I'm trying to change the dynamics of how I relate to her, just letting her know I love her but there are things we have to do sometimes. I had dad let her know he's on the same page as I am, he can do no wrong in her eyes. Scuse me, I'm going somewhere she can't see me and scream into a pillow. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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