Jean in Newcastle Posted September 21, 2012 Share Posted September 21, 2012 For 18 days after dd told Neighborhood Diva that she no longer wanted to be friends (part of the story here), Neighborhood Diva showed up again at our house like nothing had ever happened. Dd, did not question her showing up. She feels like she couldn't really tell ND to leave once she came over. I heard ND's voice outside and went out. I was pleasant but stayed in the yard with them playing with the dog and then called dd inside. ND is always perfectly behaved if I am right there. Dd now is waffling on the whole thing. She has not had any abuse for 18 days and while she certainly remembers that it was there, the hurt is not fresh for her. I told dd that while I had not banned the relationship to begin with, and the actual "break up" of the friendship was her idea, I did not think that it was healthy to go back to where it had been. I told her that she may only see ND while I am right there because she is too special to me for me to allow anyone to treat her badly. I also said that I know that sometimes she was mean to ND, and that ND didn't deserve to be treated that way either and I needed to be there to prevent that as well. Dd is unhappy with me again. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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