J-rap Posted September 13, 2012 Share Posted September 13, 2012 This is a little long -- sorry! Our son-in-law from Costa Rica finally received an extended visa to visit, so he and our daughter (newlyweds of 8 months) are here with us right now. My daughter is taking a semester off of school (in Costa Rica) and my SIL a leave of absence from his job so that they can be here with us, helping my husband, etc. Our daughter is able to work while here, but our SIL isn't (the visa is just a tourist visa). He wants to keep busy though, so is doing a couple of volunteer internship type jobs, working on a small organic farm and helping with a non-profit environmental group in town. Yesterday he was at the non-profit office, helping to get ready for a big art show our town is having in a couple weeks. He was out back behind the building, sprucing it up a bit. A man walked up to him, and first gruffly asked him what he was doing. (We are a very homogeneous town of Scandinavian descendents, so SIL stood out.) Our SIL knows he is the new person in town and people will be curious about him, and he is politely talking with everyone and answering all of their questions. (Everyone up until now has been very welcoming and friendly, and pretty much knows who he is anyway given this is a fairly small town!) The man then made some snide remark about how he (our SIL) was doing a white person's job, and was he doing community work for a crime he committed? Our SIL was still trying to be patient and kind, and he answered his questions matter-of-factly while continuing to work. Then out of the blue, the man asks him if he needs any drugs! He said he could get him any kind he liked, just name it. Our SIL explained that he didn't use drugs of any type, and then went back to work. The man wouldn't let it lie, and brought it up yet again. He told our SIL his name in case he had second thoughts and wanted to get ahold of him later. If the name he gave our SIL is true, and also given the physical description our SIL gave us, he is a fairly active member of our community, the retired manager of a downtown business. If we can verify that it is the same person, WWYD? I'm burning mad right now, both that this man was rude and taking advantage of a young man because of his race and who clearly is not from here, and because of his attempt to line up a drug sale. I've also explained to our SIL that just because he is the new person trying to make a good impression, he doesn't have to be friendly to everyone and can either be more assertive or walk away from people who are rude or nuts. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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