I.Dup. Posted September 12, 2012 Share Posted September 12, 2012 some of you mentioned in that thread that your husbands still find you attractive no matter what. I would like to hear more affirmations of this. I am having insecurities as I get older. There are just so many young, hot girls everywhere. :tongue_smilie:I know confidence makes someone the most sexy blah, blah but I used to be able to keep up with the best of them and I just can't anymore. I want to know my dh will still find me attractive in 10, 20, 30 years. It will still happen right? Even when I'm an old woman with old woman skin and all of that? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elegantlion Posted September 12, 2012 Share Posted September 12, 2012 Here's the thing, men age too. My dh is 52, I'm 45. We've been together a long time. We don't look like we did 20 years ago. I still think he's hot, he still likes my hair. I asked him about going grey (because I had hesitations). He's grey and he just laughed, he said it was totally fine to embrace the age. I still color because I can't handle it, but that's my issue. I went through a frumpy stage, but I don't dress like I'm dead. Right now I'm wearing camo capris and an Old Navy t-shirt. Maybe I look like I could go camping, so casual not frumpy. You won't look 20 when your 50, but neither will he. There is nothing that says you have to look 70 either. Take time to take care of your skin now, when you are young. It does make a difference. Eat well, sleep enough, and stay hydrated, and smile. Find a style of clothing that works. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
momto2Cs Posted September 12, 2012 Share Posted September 12, 2012 My husband tells me I am more beautiful to him now than the day we married, when I was a young thing of only 22. I'll be 40 this year. Take care of yourself. I find that when I am eating, sleeping, and exercising right, I feel far better about myself. Wearing decent clothes, not old frumpy ones, really helps me feel good too, though I definitely dress on the simple side! And yes, they are getting older too! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
I.Dup. Posted September 12, 2012 Author Share Posted September 12, 2012 yes, I do know they are getting older too, but they seem to look in the mirror and see the hot young guy they once were, LOL. So they don't seem to notice themselves aging but I KNOW they have to notice us aging, right? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elegantlion Posted September 12, 2012 Share Posted September 12, 2012 yes, I do know they are getting older too, but they seem to look in the mirror and see the hot young guy they once were, LOL. So they don't seem to notice themselves aging but I KNOW they have to notice us aging, right? No, my dh has never said one derogatory thing about my appearance. I've gained some weight, I don't get dressed up that much, and my dh is never known for holding back his thoughts. Twenty years of marriage and not a word. Dh started noticing his age about 50 when he really started slowing down. His eyesight started going bad at 40 though. I watch a lot of movies that star these hot 20-somethings. I sometimes feel bad when I look in the mirror afterward, but I've not been "styled". I'm on the low budget version of anti-aging. Most of it is the confidence in which you carry yourself. Posture too, sit correctly in that chair so your back won't ache. We are creatures designed to age. If he's noticing you aging and not him, then he needs an eye exam. The things that have aged me most are worry, stress, fear, and doubt. They affect my health, my posture, my confidence, and my clothing choices. The getting chronologically older part is not so bad. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Happy Posted September 12, 2012 Share Posted September 12, 2012 There's more to attraction and love than outward beauty. Hopefully there is mutual respect, admiration, and good humor, too. Shared memories and an appreciation for the other person's uniqueness... I just finished months of chemo and radiation. My husband still thinks I'm the best looking gal around...a big part of that attitude is he is not out 'shopping' if you know what I mean. He looks when he gets home. Even while sick, I dressed nicely.I"m not skinny anymore, but I clean up pretty nice. :D I am starting to work out again. I keep myself attractive and in shape, but I don't stress about his faithfulness because he is very devoted to me. My devotion to him includes being sexy for him--even when I don't think I look that hot. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
justLisa Posted September 12, 2012 Share Posted September 12, 2012 I could shave my head and gain one hundred pounds and I swear he'd still tell me I'm perfect. I have not shaved my head but I did weigh one hundred pounds more than I do now and that was after being very thin when we met. Darned babies and all. I have never really worried about it. I have had dozens of hairstyles and he tells me he loves them every time. He tells me all the time he is glad I don't wear makeup because he lilkes my face. Yes, I am bragging about my DH. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nestof3 Posted September 12, 2012 Share Posted September 12, 2012 Honestly, I think it depends on the man and his expectations. You know your husband. My experience may be different than yours b/c my husband may be different. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
justamouse Posted September 12, 2012 Share Posted September 12, 2012 Before I met my Dh, he, a boybuilder, was dating a woman who was very large. I could-and have-gained weight, lost weight, had long hair, cut it ALL off in one fell swoop, let it grow back, dyed it, let it go grey... S'all good, hun. His hair is receding, he snores, he's got some seriously bushy eyebrows...I love him to bits. I don't see flaws when I look at him. And I don't think he sees mine, either (and they are myriad). I love him beyond that, and, after seeing me through all he has, I think he feels the same about me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
UnsinkableKristen Posted September 12, 2012 Share Posted September 12, 2012 Yes, there are so many YOUNG girls out there. But you know, there are so many MEN out there. I don't worry my husband is going to up and decide to leave me for a younger woman anymore than I worry he will up and leave me for a dude. Dh married ME, he didn't marry "Young Pretty Girl #1". He married me for life and life means you get old :). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
I.Dup. Posted September 12, 2012 Author Share Posted September 12, 2012 Thank you all for sharing. :) My dh is very sweet and complimentary. This is more my issue with myself aging. Thanks again. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
I.Dup. Posted September 12, 2012 Author Share Posted September 12, 2012 I could shave my head and gain one hundred pounds and I swear he'd still tell me I'm perfect. I have not shaved my head but I did weigh one hundred pounds more than I do now and that was after being very thin when we met. Darned babies and all. I have never really worried about it. I have had dozens of hairstyles and he tells me he loves them every time. He tells me all the time he is glad I don't wear makeup because he lilkes my face. Yes, I am bragging about my DH. :D I saw your pictures on fb-- amazing! And that is very sweet about your dh. :001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dbmamaz Posted September 13, 2012 Share Posted September 13, 2012 the funny thing is, dh always told me i'm not his type visually, but he finds me very sexy. when i've gained weight, he's happy my rear is bigger, and when i'm thinner he likes that too. He says he wouldnt want to deal with anyone else. but we've only been together 10 years and we are 47 . . . he was never married and had only lived with 1 woman for 1 or 2 years before that, i was divorced and had also lived with a different guy for several years. He definitely worries about me straying more than I worry about him. Not that i would . . . in all those years and all those guys (dont ask), i'd never been so happy in a relationship Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DianeW88 Posted September 13, 2012 Share Posted September 13, 2012 My dh has never said one negative thing about my appearance, and we've been married for almost 25 years. I think he's much more attractive than when we first got married, and that's what he says about me, too. We do try to work on staying healthy together by exercising and eating right. Not because of vanity, but because we want to be able to run around with grand kids someday. I do think healthy food and moving your body keep you younger looking as well as fit...at least I hope so. :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marbel Posted September 13, 2012 Share Posted September 13, 2012 I believe that love makes people more beautiful. When I met my husband I thought he was OK-looking, but now I think he is one of the handsomest guys out there. (I also remember working with a guy who I thought was drop-dead handsome. Then I got to know him - what a jerk - suddenly, not so handsome!) :lol: There's also something for shared history. Shared jokes and memories... anniversaries of certain events (not the typical first date, wedding, etc., but mmmmm other things....). We joke about our early awkwardness with each other and how certain things have really gotten better over time. That is worth a lot to a man. And a woman too! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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