Mom0012 Posted September 11, 2012 Share Posted September 11, 2012 I have a child who has an expressive language disorder. For the most part, he does very well. He is social and always has had friends. He is not "cool", but he is very likeable. He has to work hard academically, but usually scores in the 90s on his tests. He has some special interests like history, legos and coin collecting. He does struggle terribly with expressing himself and with writing. He uses IEW for writing and I started having a friend tutor him last year a couple of hours a week because I just didn't feel I could help him. He hit puberty early and is probably through many of the physical changes he is going to make, but I don't really feel he is in the logic stage even though he is 13. I guess this is my biggest concern at the moment. He is a very concrete thinker and he can share all kinds of interesting facts about what he has learned. He can even write a half decent paper on something he has researched after this last year of tutoring. BUT, he seems incapable of coming up with original ideas, and he has a heck of a time answering "why" questions. For example, we are using SL science this year and he was asked, "Does he think differently now than when he was 4 and is that a good thing?" He answered "yes". He said it was a good thing because 4 year olds can live in a fantasy world and don't have to worry about things. It took 15 minutes of discussion for him to come out and make the connection I thought he should have made -- That it is a good thing because it means he has learned over the years and maturity and growth are needed to function in the world as you get older. Interestingly, he enjoys strategy games and beats me at chess every time and he holds his ground with other boys his age with these types of games. So it seems to be more of a problem with making connections where language is concerned. He also is tuned in to other people's feelings. We knew a child that was really struggling and behaved horribly. One day, after we spent time with the child, my son said, "Mom, I realized today that "Tom" is really reaching out to me and that I've been pushing him away. I'm going to try a lot harder with him." He was 9 at the time and ever since then, he's been like a big brother to this kid. It is almost impossible to get an opinion out of him. There was something I read to both my kids the other day and I said I found it a little disturbing. My dd agreed (she is only 10) and told me why she found it was disturbing. The reason she gave was the same reason I would have given. My son had a difficult time even saying whether or not he found it disturbing. In the end, he said he didn't but he couldn't tell me why. Anyway, if you got through all of that, thank you! I know it's long, but I wanted to share the positives along with the concerns. I guess what I'm looking for here is some hope that he is going to hit the logic stage. That he will be able to do some critical thinking. Anyone have a child like this and develop these traits later on? Lisa Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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