Kirch Posted September 8, 2012 Share Posted September 8, 2012 It will probably not surprise anyone if I say that mom has been difficult to work with in the past. TOTALLY shocked here. :tongue_smilie: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cindergretta Posted September 8, 2012 Share Posted September 8, 2012 TOTALLY shocked here. :tongue_smilie: Ditto! :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denisemomof4 Posted September 8, 2012 Share Posted September 8, 2012 It's rude to talk during a presentation. It's rude to expect that you will be "entertained" by everything you go to do. It's rude to argue with your mother in public, especially when she is 40 wks pregnant. It is rude to leave, but it is less rude than staying and continuing to disrupte the entire presentation, so you did the right thing, imo. This is part of the "world does not revolve around you" training for our children. I don't make rules for other parents, but I expect to be able to listen to a presenter, not others, when I attend something. It's called manners, seriously not that difficult. I remember in elementary school we had someone come in and the students were awful. I was embarrassed, the teachers kept sushing the students. The presentation was interesting and I was trying to pay attention. Finally the presenter stopped and said he wouldn't continue until people started paying attention. He was beyond annoyed. :iagree::iagree::iagree: I am surprised that the other mom was so disrespectful. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
idnib Posted September 8, 2012 Share Posted September 8, 2012 (edited) You're my hero for being out on your due date with a teenager and a toddler, trying to do something nice for your son. You're also my hero for not drop-kicking the other mom, which I think is allowed once you've reached your due date and someone challenges you like that. :tongue_smilie: Edited September 8, 2012 by idnib Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IsabelC Posted September 8, 2012 Share Posted September 8, 2012 (edited) You were right. But if you were a hormonal witch, I'd still say you were right, because it's a foolish idea to tell a hormonal witch she's wrong.:tongue_smilie: Seriously, I hate it when another person undermines my attempts to guide my child. (Eg, me, to my kid: "Leave the food alone until everyone is ready to eat." Other mother, trying to be kind: "Oh it's OK, you can eat." No, it's not OK, because I had decided to teach my child something and now you're telling her to ignore me.) Edited September 8, 2012 by Hotdrink Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RanchGirl Posted September 8, 2012 Share Posted September 8, 2012 Another vote for you doing the right thing by leaving if the boy wasn't interested enough to be polite to the presenter. A letter of apology to the presenter is a good idea as well. I would be livid if my teen pulled a stunt like that after I hauled my 40 week PG, have lots better things to do self out to a museum for his benefit. He better be making dad's birthday dinner and running you a bubble bath to make up for it! The other mother -- wow, there just are no words for that kind of behavior. Well, no hive friendly words. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rebecca VA Posted September 8, 2012 Share Posted September 8, 2012 Yes, he was rude. Yes, you did right. I would have a talk with him about why he chose to act that way at a presentation he wanted so badly to see. Wasn't he interested in the artwork? Maybe the speaker had something to say about Percy Jackson that your son totally MISSED because of his behavior. I would probably also give him a consequence, like going back to the museum, doing some research, and writing a report about the artist and his work. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kathryn Posted September 8, 2012 Share Posted September 8, 2012 Another vote for your being right and the other mom being horribly wrong. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jenny in Florida Posted September 8, 2012 Share Posted September 8, 2012 The boys (and the mom who gave them permission to talk) were being rude. You did the right thing by leaving. And I thank you from the bottom of my heart on behalf of all of us who do not wish to reinforce stereotypes about homeschoolers and bad behavior. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jenny in Florida Posted September 8, 2012 Share Posted September 8, 2012 Now, I think your dear son has some letters of apology to write - to the presenter for being rude during the presentation and then having to leave and to his mother for being completely inconsiderate of her when she did what *very extremely few* of us would ever even consider doing at 40 weeks pregnant!!!!! Another vote for you doing the right thing by leaving if the boy wasn't interested enough to be polite to the presenter. A letter of apology to the presenter is a good idea as well. I had my son do formal letters of apology once when he had an altercation with another student during a dance class. He wrote to the instructor, the dance school director and the other boy. He hated writing them, but I do feel like it made an impact. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harriet Vane Posted September 8, 2012 Share Posted September 8, 2012 Not surprised to hear the other mom can be difficult. Is there a way to set a boundary with her? Something like, "You cannot tell my kids what to do." I would imagine it would have to be both really direct, and really short, and repetitive?? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wintermom Posted September 8, 2012 Share Posted September 8, 2012 I applaud you for taking action, and with swollen feet and a toddler, leaving was probably the best option for you. Another option could have been to separate your son from the other boys, and have him stand or sit beside you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sheryl Posted September 8, 2012 Share Posted September 8, 2012 Katie, You're right on! I agree with you all the way. I'm sorry and don't mean to be rude, but BORED?!?!? Sorry, they need to get over themselves! :grouphug: This is a learning lesson though - for me. I will now give a "boring" presentation of our next "boring" event to attend to make it known that they may be "bored", but that is unacceptable. Like you said, it did not last all day. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SKL Posted September 8, 2012 Share Posted September 8, 2012 Personally, I would have been more angry at the other mom for contradicting what I'd instructed my son. (But that could be my own hormonal side coming out!) Like you said, better to leave than to disrupt the lecture. And I'd be giving my teen some work to do or some such as a consequence for putting me through that. He was not forced to be there. You did this for him and he embarrassed and disobeyed you. He needs to understand that his immediate pleasure has to take a back seat sometimes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
higginszoo Posted September 8, 2012 Share Posted September 8, 2012 My children are expected to display the behavior you expected of your ds. If not, like you, I would have removed them. Ther eprobably would not have been field trips for a while, though I would point out opportunities and also their past behavior as a reason we weren't going. I would have been livid over the other mother contradicting my parenting. One of the coleaders of my dd's Girl Scout troop and I both left the troop over the other leader allowing that sort of disrespectful behavior on field trips. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Susan C. Posted September 8, 2012 Share Posted September 8, 2012 I personally wouldn't be mad at your son.....peer pressure may be in play here... And, his mom is very pregnant, and he may be worried. The whole family bears stress when things are about to change. But it is definitely your call. Come on baby get here, its time (hope your little one picks up on my "get here now" vibes!!). Cause I LOVE seeing hive baby pics!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ereks mom Posted September 8, 2012 Share Posted September 8, 2012 Nope, not wrong. It is also not rude to leave during the presentation if your child was interrupting said presentation. It doesn't matter if the child is 2 or 16 - if they are misbehaving and causing the people who are actually trying to listen to be distracted, then they need to be removed. :iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ktgrok Posted September 8, 2012 Author Share Posted September 8, 2012 I personally wouldn't be mad at your son.....peer pressure may be in play here... And, his mom is very pregnant, and he may be worried. The whole family bears stress when things are about to change. But it is definitely your call. Come on baby get here, its time (hope your little one picks up on my "get here now" vibes!!). Cause I LOVE seeing hive baby pics!! it was definitely peer pressure. He wanted to hang with the cool guys. He got the message, but by the time we made it home from running errands we had made up. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mom4him Posted September 9, 2012 Share Posted September 9, 2012 Personally, I feel the one that was being rude was the other mom. She can give her child/children permission to do whatever she chooses but she should NOT interfere with your choice there. YOU DID GOOD! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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