Granny_Weatherwax Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 The baby is in the ER with a severe allergic reaction to the antibiotic prescribed yesterday. (We are waiting to see the doc so I have a few mins to complain) Baby Daddy is supposed to have her again this evening so DD called him to let him know we were on the way to the ER and what the baby's symptoms are. His reaction? "Oh, well I guess I'll just stay at work for a bit longer. Call my mom for me." Not one question about the baby. Not one.:001_huh: DD, the sweet thing that she is, called his mom to tell her. Her reaction? "Let me know when you get home so I can come get her for the evening." Not one question about the baby.:001_huh: I am beyond frustrated. Gotta run. Baby is on her way in. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eternalknot Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 Poor, sweet baby! On so many levels :( Keep us updated on her health - how scary it must feel. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MariannNOVA Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Is it possible to have language in the court documents regarding fevers, trips to the ER, sick visits to the ped or ER and have those events impact/adjust the visitation - that would seem to be in dgd's best interests. :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
brehon Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 The baby is in the ER with a severe allergic reaction to the antibiotic prescribed yesterday. (We are waiting to see the doc so I have a few mins to complain) Baby Daddy is supposed to have her again this evening so DD called him to let him know we were on the way to the ER and what the baby's symptoms are. His reaction? "Oh, well I guess I'll just stay at work for a bit longer. Call my mom for me." Not one question about the baby. Not one.:001_huh: DD, the sweet thing that she is, called his mom to tell her. Her reaction? "Let me know when you get home so I can come get her for the evening." Not one question about the baby.:001_huh: I am beyond frustrated. Gotta run. Baby is on her way in. Do tell me that these replies from BD & BD's mom have been written down in the notebook your dd is now keeping documenting every interaction WRT to dgd. :grouphug: i know this just puts more stress on everyone. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MariannNOVA Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 Do tell me that these replies from BD & BD's mom have been written down in the notebook your dd is now keeping documenting every interaction WRT to dgd. :grouphug: i know this just puts more stress on everyone. :iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lara in Colo Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 (edited) Also, if you can, start doing more texting and keeping printed copies of the texts. There is no he said: she said in texts and emails. Edited September 6, 2012 by Lara in Colo Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
athomemom Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug: I hope your DGD can stay with her mommy tonight. :grouphug::grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
In the Rain Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 Also, if you can, start doing more texting and keeping printed copies of the texts. There is no he said: she said in texts and emails. But you also have to think about what your goal is: you cannot MAKE him love his child. all you really can do is try to midagate (sp?) the damage the child feels or receives. Do want him out of the child's life? probably not. Do you want the father to REALIZE he wants less time with the child? perhaps. Why does this relationship seem so full of anger? This will be going on for many years--- try to figure out what you want and what the father wants and reach that understanding. :iagree: lots of wise words here. :grouphug: I hope DGD gets better quickly. Allergic reactions are so scary!. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ErinE Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Granny_Weatherwax Posted September 7, 2012 Author Share Posted September 7, 2012 Update on DGD: The ER doc didn't think it was a reaction to the antibiotic. The rash faded while we were in the waiting room and then flared up even worse than before while we were in the treatment room. The doc told us it might be a viral something-or-other or a reaction to an environmental stimulus. His advice: discontinue the antibiotic, let DGD rest and try to heal naturally for a couple of days and see what the rash does, if necessary return to the ER. Problems encountered: DD couldn't tell them what baby daddy fed the baby or what they wash her clothes in; baby daddy did not answer his phone while we were there so the doc couldn't speak with him Today the rash has flared three or four times. I am at my wit's end trying to figure out a correlation with the environment. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lovinmomma Posted September 7, 2012 Share Posted September 7, 2012 Also, if you can, start doing more texting and keeping printed copies of the texts. There is no he said: she said in texts and emails. :iagree: It's best to keep everything written via text or email if it can possibly be done. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MariannNOVA Posted September 7, 2012 Share Posted September 7, 2012 Update on DGD:The ER doc didn't think it was a reaction to the antibiotic. The rash faded while we were in the waiting room and then flared up even worse than before while we were in the treatment room. The doc told us it might be a viral something-or-other or a reaction to an environmental stimulus. His advice: discontinue the antibiotic, let DGD rest and try to heal naturally for a couple of days and see what the rash does, if necessary return to the ER. Problems encountered: DD couldn't tell them what baby daddy fed the baby or what they wash her clothes in; baby daddy did not answer his phone while we were there so the doc couldn't speak with him Today the rash has flared three or four times. I am at my wit's end trying to figure out a correlation with the environment. Keep a journal -- write down everything dgd eats and drinks. I know that when i had this happen with dd33 (when she was 18 mos old) it was milk. have your dd hand baby daddy a notebook and tell him that they have to write down everything the baby eats and drinks, the laundry detergent they use, etc. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted September 7, 2012 Share Posted September 7, 2012 The baby is in the ER with a severe allergic reaction to the antibiotic prescribed yesterday. (We are waiting to see the doc so I have a few mins to complain) Baby Daddy is supposed to have her again this evening so DD called him to let him know we were on the way to the ER and what the baby's symptoms are. His reaction? "Oh, well I guess I'll just stay at work for a bit longer. Call my mom for me." Not one question about the baby. Not one.:001_huh: DD, the sweet thing that she is, called his mom to tell her. Her reaction? "Let me know when you get home so I can come get her for the evening." Not one question about the baby.:001_huh: I am beyond frustrated. Gotta run. Baby is on her way in. I hope you and your dd are keeping written documentation of every single one of these comments and incidents involving the baby's father and his mom. I agree that texts and emails should be used as often as possible. Your dd needs to be able to demonstrate that the father and grandmother do not have the baby's best interests at heart. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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