ktgrok Posted September 5, 2012 Share Posted September 5, 2012 The good: My second niece was born today, via repeat c-section, and both she and my sister are doing well. The bad: We got up before dawn to get to the hospital by 7am, only to have JUST missed seeing the baby. We were not allowed to see my sister until she was in a real room, which instead of taking 30 minutes ended up taking about 2 1/2 hours...2 1/2 hours of chasing my 2 year old and her 2 year old around the hospital waiting room. Then, we get to go see her, and we don't get to see the baby. It is in the nursery for an hour or so "to be bathed". um???? how long does it take to bathe a baby? We THINK we saw her through the nursery window, but she was too far away to read the name. If it was her...she was just squirming and reaching and trying to find someone, while laying alone in the plastic bassinet thing. I couldn't help but wonder why on earth someone isn't holding that newborn baby!!!! It wants to be held! It was cozy and warm and now was pulled out into the world and no one is even holding it????? And no one in my family thought this was odd, or strange? My son, on the way home thought it was pretty awful, but other than that everyone thought it was normal? My sister was fine, and totally able to hold the baby, or her husband, or my family, etc. But it was alone down the hall? And then my exhausted daughter fell asleep on the way home for 25 minutes and now is wide awake and won't nap. I'm exhausted from not sleeping last night (too excited to meet my niece!), getting up early, and just being 9 months pregnant, and really was hoping for that nap. To not get it, and not get to see my new niece...I'm bummed. And yes, I'm making this about me, and not them, and that is bad, but i'm hormonal and tired. I've lost a bit more mucus plug today, and REALLY want some rest before I go into labor. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reflections Posted September 5, 2012 Share Posted September 5, 2012 I totally get the: It is a newborn baby somebody just HOLD him/her!! I would be having a hard time too. :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: I'm sorry you are so tired. I hope you get some rest soon. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
justLisa Posted September 5, 2012 Share Posted September 5, 2012 I understand. I always thought that to be strange because mine never left me. I didn't even have them bathed in the hospital. I wanted to do it myself. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
justLisa Posted September 5, 2012 Share Posted September 5, 2012 I don't understand. LOL Not that I didn't want to hold my kids right away, but after giving birth I felt like someone had killed me then brought me back to life. :tongue_smilie: So I was thankful for any help offered. I think it totally depends on your birth experience and what the norm kind of seems around you, KWIM? Even with my c-sec with DS I had him right next to me in the rolly cart thing. What are those called.... At the hospital here though, they don't ever take the baby out of the room for anything. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ktgrok Posted September 5, 2012 Author Share Posted September 5, 2012 I don't understand. LOL Not that I didn't want to hold my kids right away, but after giving birth I felt like someone had killed me then brought me back to life. :tongue_smilie: So I was thankful for any help offered. Oh, I get that...it just seems that one of the myriad other adults in the room could have been holding the baby, or he could have been in a bassinet in the room, rather than down the hall with no one paying attention to her. WE stood there for several minutes several times, and never saw anyone even near her. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denisemomof4 Posted September 5, 2012 Share Posted September 5, 2012 I think it is AWESOME that your kids have cousins close by who are the same age. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Garga Posted September 5, 2012 Share Posted September 5, 2012 We're so weird in our society nowadays. What that Momma needed was some help. No problem. But unforunately, nowadays, if you need help (which lots of new mothers do), you're in a hospital and the baby is taken down the hall. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
justLisa Posted September 5, 2012 Share Posted September 5, 2012 Tough deliveries sometimes make mothers literally unable to hardly move. In the hospital I delivered, they do everything needed in the room. After my c-sec I was grateful for that, because while I did not want to be separated, I had to put the baby down sometimes. They have the cart right next to you the entire time in the room. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Canadianmumof5 Posted September 5, 2012 Share Posted September 5, 2012 Hopefully your little one stays put long enough for you to get some rest. At our local hospitals, the policy is that the babies must room-in with mom; unless of course there are medical circumstances that prevent it. Once you deliver - that baby never leaves your side. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ktgrok Posted September 5, 2012 Author Share Posted September 5, 2012 I'll probably sound like the worst parent ever, but I asked them to take A to the nursery for the night. I was alone and was having surgery in the morning. I wanted to have one last good night of sleep. K had colic so he screamed all the time until he was about 10. So that was what I remember. After A was born I was in such bad shape I could barely walk out upright from the hospital. It was awful! Oh I get that. But this was 10am, and the baby was only a few hours old. My 2 year old niece hadn't even gotten to meet her new sister yet, etc. I get needing some rest at night, i do...but in this case my sister wasn't getting rest anyway, it was just odd to me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ktgrok Posted September 5, 2012 Author Share Posted September 5, 2012 I think it is AWESOME that your kids have cousins close by who are the same age. It IS totally awesome! My daughter and oldest niece are 9 months apart, and this new neice and my soon to be born son will be at most 2 weeks apart. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ktgrok Posted September 5, 2012 Author Share Posted September 5, 2012 Oh I agree, although practically speaking I don't know what more we can ask. I think the hospital I was in was very helpful. They did not automatically take the baby down the hall. You had to ask them to. I just don't have family and my husband had to go home to take care of our other child. So if I wanted a bit of a rest I didn't really have a choice. Oh sure! When I had my son they were able to take him to the nursery during the night so we could sleep, and brought him to us if he woke up. But this baby is only a few hours old, and Dad has barely had a chance to hold her, she hasn't met her sister yet, or any of the family, etc. There was a room full of people (my sister and her husband of course, my 2 year old niece in her "big sister" shirt, my parents, BIL's mother, and my daughter. (my husband had to leave after almost 3 hours of waiting). Everyone had waited around for hours and hours to meet the wee one, and everyone ended up leaving because the kids couldn't wait another hour, it was about lunch time, etc. (and my sister wanted all those people there...we didn't barge in uninvited, she wasn't about to nap or anything.) It was just hospital policy. (this hospital has a reputation of being a "baby factory" and is notorious for separating mom and baby. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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