Sahamamama Posted August 28, 2012 Share Posted August 28, 2012 My husband has been hounded by his parents his whole life about his weight, even though they always made him "clean his plate" and "have another helping." They are Middle Eastern, so it's impolite not to offer, and impolite to refuse. But after they overfed him (as a child), they'd tell him he was fat. :glare: He's 42 years old now, and they still tell him on every phone call, "You're fat, you need to work out, you need to lose weight, we love you." I'm tired of this. It doesn't help that his mother is a nutritionist and his father was a gymnast. But his dad had a free-wheeling kind of job (years ago), and he would leave work early every day to work out/play racquetball/play tennis/jog for 3-5 HOURS! My husband works and travels constantly, he would be happy to be able to fit in 30 minutes a day. If he's in the OR/hospital from 6:00 am to 7:00 pm or later, he's exhausted when he's done. And he still has to go out to some restaurant for supper, then back to his hotel. He's gone from home about 3 weeks out of 4 now. And then there are MY parents. We live in the same town, which was too close today. :glare: My dad is forever telling me what my husband is doing wrong -- the trash didn't get put out right; he really should mow his own lawn on the one week a month he's home; he really should paint the garage door; he really should X, Y, or Z; he really should, he really should, he really should. And I say, "He's not retired, like you are, and he has more to do than put together jigsaw puzzles on the back porch." Which is all my dad has done this summer, but that's another story. So today my dad said, "When [your husband] was over here the other day [hooking up their cable/new TV/moving the stand/fixing their electronics], I was talking to him about his weight." And I calmly but firmly said, "If you are not his physician or his wife, you have no business saying anything to any man about his weight. And he's 42 years old, which is a full-fledged adult. He's not a child that you need to talk to like that. It really is between ___, and me, and God." My dad got huffy and said, "But it is my business, because if he dies, then I have you and the kids to deal with." :001_huh: Um, no. We have insurance, I have degrees, I am a grown-up, too. :001_huh: Just no. Then my mom comes into the room and says, "We just have to be so careful what we say." Which is like saying, "You are so defensive." How can anyone contradict that, without being defensive. How can anyone contradict the "we have to be careful what we say" line, without objecting to what was said? :tongue_smilie: Okay, I'm done now. Sorry, just needed to vent, and my FAT, LAZY, IMMATURE husband is 3,000 miles and 3 time zones away from home. :banghead::banghead::banghead: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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