StaceyinLA Posted August 22, 2012 Share Posted August 22, 2012 Do you think it is of the utmost importance that the nuclear family be together as much as possible at the exclusion of (healthy) extended family? Situation: Dd is pg with baby number 2. They're due to leave HI around her due date. Her older sister (my oldest) is getting married in October. Dd is coming home to spend the last months of her pg there, attend wedding functions and wedding, and have the baby there. She feels this will give her peace about her prenatal care at this point, and her delivery situation (no moves at the last minute or when the baby is only a week or two old). It also allows dgs to have some attachment with family members so he will be somewhat content when she has to stay in the hospital overnight after baby is born (he is very attached to her). Of course, it means she and dh will be apart until early December when he will take a month leave for the birth/Christmas, etc. (a little over 3 months) Now, when they move to their new location after this leave, he is guaranteed no deployment for at least 2 years, so they won't have any other impending separation. They'll be within driving distance of both sides of the family (we are all from the same town), and shouldn't have more than a couple weeks' separation here and there if she comes for visits (sometimes they both will, of course). I just wonder what others do in these situations. I think I'd be more torn if there wasn't some stability for them afterwards, and if her birthing situation wouldn't be so uncertain if she stays. She needs some external support. They are both a bit sad about being apart, but have come to the decision together, and feel it is right for them at this time, but I just wonder what others do. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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