Halcyon Posted August 20, 2012 Share Posted August 20, 2012 (edited) My younger son has an absolute meltdown when he hears any curse word, even darn or freakin. He gets upset when he hears other kids use the words, or if he hears it on a show, but he gets EXTREMELY upset when I use bad language, which is NOT often. Today was our first day of official school and it was a rough start--older was working on bucky balls before school and wouldn't stop, then burst into tears when his construction fell apart. By then it was 9:30. DH was in the school room getting the table level raised, and when I went to help him, coffee spilled all over the books and floor and new cushions. I lost my temper and used a bad word. Younger began crying, and it's been almost 45 minutes of sadness. Not screaming at me, just guilt-inducing, tears-rolling-down-the-face, silent crying. I don't think this is normal, to be honest. DH dislikes cursing, and has subtly sent the signal to younger that his feelings about cursing are not wrong, but I think this extreme sadness and judging by my younger is over the top. I have apologized, and told him that I do my best, but that sometimes I lose my temper and bad words come out. He knows I am trying my best. But he is very sensitive, and has this idea of the "perfect mother" (he has told me this) who is all smiles and lightness and sugar cookies and encourgement, with never a frown or flash of anger. I have told him that even X (a mom he really likes and thinks is this perfect angel of kindness) loses her temper with her daughter. He just kept crying. I feel such guilt over this, but over the last week, I am beginning to think he needs to understand better that nobody is perfect. He does tend to judge other people and kids who make mistakes, or who get angry at him (even when they say sorry afterwards). I have talked endlessly with him about the importance of forgiveness, about recognizing that everyone, including me, has flaws and makes mistakes. So far it hasn't helped, and today was the worst :( Please don't judge me here; my son is making me feel badly enough. Also, I will probably delete this. What would you do in this situation with a highly sensitive, gifted 7 year old? ETA: He just told me that when I get mad, he feels "weird" and like my anger is directed at him even when it's not. There ARE going to be times I lose my temper (and at him, too)--I will never be a completely placid, laid-back mom. Edited August 20, 2012 by Halcyon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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