Anne in CA Posted August 14, 2012 Share Posted August 14, 2012 It seems like we have Youth Pastor Concerns regularly, but I am having Youth Leader Worries, lol. Looking for some thoughts. My older dd is my step dd. She is 12 years older than my youngest dd, who is going to junior high camp this morning. I just found out that she will not be in the cabin that I thought she would be in, with the leader I thought she would have. The leader she will have is difficult This leader is responsible for my older child deciding not to join the army even though my older dd wanted to very much. This youth leader didn't think the army was a good fit for dd and convinced her youth pastor to pressure dd to join a discipleship program instead. They pressured her without talking to me or my dh first. I chewed out the Youth Pastor over that and he was repentant but it was too late. The discipleship program was a joke, dd did not do well and I wish dd had just joined the army like she wanted to. Older dd is still not doing well at 24 and I feel like the discipleship program started her off on the wrong foot in life. There were other problems with this Youth Leader over the course of my step dd's years in high school. She is one of those people who works so hard to serve the youth, but believes that most parents do not know their own children or what is best for them. Hence most of our problems with her, because dh and I do know our children. We spend a lot of time with them and care very much about what is best for them. For the record she doesn't like me either, although she seems fine with dh. She won't friend me on facebook even though she had more than 1500 friends and our sons are friends. I just want to be nice and get along, but as nice as she is to my face her passive- aggressive games make it plain that she doesn't like me. She recently held a baby shower for someone that she must have known I would want to attend, and I didn't invite me. That is one small instance out of many, but still, yuck. I could ignore all this, and I have been, but the thought of her being influential in my younger dd's life is not okay. My only comfort is that my younger dd is less vulnerable about wanting a good opinion from leaders than my older one. Oh, I just want to make sure that my family is not unduly influenced by this person again. :glare: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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