So, we spent the day at the pool for DH company picnic...

[cin]

The bathing suitss (or LACK THEREOF!) DH was quite shocked too. And shocked at his own reaction too. He use to not even notice, but now that he has little girls, he is VERY concerned. There were YOUNG girls, I'd say, 8-10 yrs old in VERY sexy bathing suits. And then there were the moms who are trying like heck to stay young. And the the teens...WOW As I sat next to a group of moms, I heard them saying things like....'all the girls...' 'what can I do' and so one... Maybe you should just try to explain to her, starting young, what modesty is? Cause from what I saw, they don't have a clue.

[Leighton Academy]

I don't have daughters but I totally see where you're coming from. One of our neices has come to stay with us for awhile. She had this teensy weensy bikini that her mom bought. Fortunately for me, it was too big for her. I went out asap and bought her another swimsuit!!

 

I forgot to add that she's only seven!

[cin]

The funny thing is, my own dd is so skinny that I have a problem getting her a modest swimsuit.....because her legs are so skinny that the leg holes are too big. I need a Long torso, skinny legged suit. Oh, to have that problem myself!

[Mom2boys]

My friends with daughters buy modest suits from LL Bean and Lands End. Now that my son is approaching the teen years, I am paying more attention to what the girls are wearing. At swim lessons this week there were too many tiny suits - on girls, teens, and the instructors. :glare:

[Andie]

My friends with daughters buy modest suits from LL Bean and Lands End. Now that my son is approaching the teen years, I am paying more attention to what the girls are wearing. At swim lessons this week there were too many tiny suits - on girls, teens, and the instructors. :glare:

 

 

YES. I can't tell you how uncomfortable it was to have to ask the instructor to put a shirt on -- but I couldn't bear to see then 5yo ds's face literally touching her booKs because they were falling out of her barely-there two piece.

 

I have girls - about to turn 14 and 12, and it's a challenge to find anything appropriate. I'm very grateful that they both are very conscious of being modest, however. I'm not faced with the unfortunate "Kids, what can ya do?!" situation.:rolleyes:

[TraceyS/FL]

I'm not faced with the unfortunate "Kids, what can ya do?!" situation.:rolleyes:

 

Don't you just want to respond, "I dunno, be a PARENT??????"

[TravelingChris]

For one thing, we mostly swim in our own pool and when we do go to the beach, we usually go to the closest one down the block and that is mostly used by locals- many kids here wear rash gaurds because they are either easily burned or they actually surf.

 

On the other hand, going to the orthodontist office with my youngest is a trip. Apparantly the school doesn't enforce the dress rules and the extremely short shorts, very tight and suggestive t-shirts, etc are over the top. What is interesting is that it easy to see why this happens. The moms of these girls are often competing with them in outrageous outfits. What is cool is that probably about half of them wear normal clothes so all is not lost.

[Nestof3]

On the other hand, going to the orthodontist office with my youngest is a trip.

 

Yes, we've had that, but also the ortho employees seem to have a required appearance as well -- I guess the boss likes to surround himself with these sorts of women -- can we say tanning booths, skimpy clothing, shrill voices (think Meg Ryan in You've Got Mail -- "Hi, I'm Kimberly), etc.

[cin]

Don't you just want to respond, "I dunno, be a PARENT??????"

 

I feel that way with one of my best friends....she says 'Well, she's 18, so what can I say?" I'm thinking.....House Rules. The dreaded, Live under our house, follow our rules or even If you do, find a new place to live... But then, I only have a 7 yr old, so what do I know :rolleyes:

[Sasharowan]

My dd8 has started wearing boy style swim trunks with a rash guard. SHe says it is more comfortable and easier to swim in than a traditional one piece plus easier to use the potty with. Next summer I have been asked to search for pink ones.

[cin]

My dd8 has started wearing boy style swim trunks with a rash guard. SHe says it is more comfortable and easier to swim in than a traditional one piece plus easier to use the potty with. Next summer I have been asked to search for pink ones.

 

 

My dd has the boy trunks. I thought they were sooo cute. I found some that were long enough! (Some of those bikinis had the boy cut bottoms and lots of fanny hanging out!) And then She sat indian style (or cross legged, I guess I should say) and I realized that the legs were, again, too wide for her little toothpick legs.

[TraceyS/FL]

My neighbors solution is apparently to use the local police department to parent....

 

11yo breaks a window - call the police to tell him to behave.

 

Really, it floors me what she calls them for..... maybe she wants to have the kids taken from her?!

 

As for the skinny legs, mine was like that, and we hit a phase where things fit finally, so hopefully in a few years it will be better. I like the Speedo Suits that Costco & Sam's have for $9.99. THey seems to fit around the legs, but are baggy elsewhere, but keep them covered. She never could wear much from department stores.

[Liz CA]

The funny thing is, my own dd is so skinny that I have a problem getting her a modest swimsuit.....because her legs are so skinny that the leg holes are too big. I need a Long torso, skinny legged suit. Oh, to have that problem myself!

 

Cin, I don't have girls either but a homeschool catalog from *Love to Learn* offers very modest bathing suits on the back page. Perhaps your skinny girl would feel more covered in one of those.

I believe their website is http://www.LovetoLearn.net

 

The suits look like dresses but don't look like they would hinder movement.

[Tracey in TX]

As a mom of three DDs, I'll add that it is almost impossible to find a cute, age appropriate suit that doesn't look fashionable AND fits well. (LL Bean doesn't carry cute pre-teen suits. They look like 5y/o suits.)

It's tough. Our compromise is DD (who is developing) wears a tankini with a tank top, and DDs #2&3 wear anything they want, until they start looking like young ladies.