Denisemomof4 Posted August 5, 2012 Share Posted August 5, 2012 The hobby thread is what has me thinking about this. I am going into my 13th year of homeschooling, 14th if you include preschool work - including teaching two of my kids to read at a very young age. Their choice. I have been in playgroups, sat through playdates, homeschool groups, co-ops, sports and activities for even longer. Too many time there have been very difficult moms to have to deal with. Just this past year I decided I was tired of it. I really like the moms at the homeschool group/co-op but I just really, really, really wanted to be done with it all for various reasons. I stopped volunteering. And just yesterday I signed up dd12 for two field trips. One in September, one in October. That is IT!!!!! NO MORE homeschool group, NO MORE co-op!!!!! And I *LOVE* that she is old enoughh to drop off at her friend's houses. Likewise, most of her friends are now dropped off here. NO PRESSURE on me. If dd9 does well this fall, we will do some VERY light homeschool group involvement in the winter to see how she handles it. Her closest friend is an absolute sweetheart and I am dear friends with her mom. Even dd12 and their oldest dd are friends. So getting her together with her friend will be a JOY!!!!! Two years ago I informed both dd's that I no longer would be sitting through playdates with moms who were extremely difficult to be around. That was my first taste of freedom. Now this!!!!! I am SOOOOO excited!!!! I am even checking into some art classes FOR MYSELF!!!!! All of dd12's activities are at night. She will be doing a broadcasting class/group two evenings per month, an engineering class, a teen youth group and the youth group through our homeschool group. Even her volunteer work hours were changed to evenings. :hurray: we still feel the sting from having to drop synchro swim, but I LOVE the freedom that has brought. No more rushing to get our work done as we rush out the door to rush to co-op or bounce from activity to activity. It has been my deepest desire to focus ONLY on social opportunities after school hours. It is FINALLY going to happen!!! If her friend's afternoons aren't too packed with stuff, there will be time to just SOCIALIZE. But her closest friends are all in her evening activities. A year ago I was devastated when my oldest son moved out. Honestly, I love him and I miss him. I love, however, that my kids are older, my work load is lighter, and there is time for me to chase after some of my own desires. Dh works from home two days per week so I have even more freedom. He has also completely taken over school responsibilities dor dd9 since she used to fight me every step of the way. It has been a lifesaver/sanity saver for me, and it has definitely helped our relationship. She does mosr of her work online. Young moms don't have time for themselves much. They don't have time for their own activities. Still, cherish the season you are in!!! It is a hard season, but it is a joyful season. It is a SHORT season!!! I guess I am getting more anti social these days. People wear me out more these days. Group activities with difficult personalities exhaust me. i am SO GLAD to be putting most group activities behind me. Maybe this isn't normal but it is where I am at. And I am SO GLAD. I am also REALLY looking forward to doing more with my girls alone. We have done so much with a group that it has left little time to branch off and do things on our own. We now will have TIME to do so!!! Don't even know why I'm posting this....... But I am bursting with joy. (yes, Imp, in spite of today's stressors.):tongue_smilie: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denisemomof4 Posted August 5, 2012 Author Share Posted August 5, 2012 I just asked dh if having our days all opened up if that meant that the house needed to be clean, laundry done, meals cooked. His eyes got wide. I said, "Naaaaaaah!" and walked away.;):lol::lol::lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jujsky Posted August 5, 2012 Share Posted August 5, 2012 I'm happy for you, Denise :001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommyfaithe Posted August 5, 2012 Share Posted August 5, 2012 I know just how you feel. Now, if I could just get rid of my pesky job, life would be amazing! I even joined the gym....:D I think I am going to like this new stage of life. My boys prefer not to be involved in group things, my dd has drama once a week in the evening....and I am focusing on ME and having fun with THEM. My bigger kids are independent....they can do their own thing. Yippee!! Have a great year!:D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Soror Posted August 5, 2012 Share Posted August 5, 2012 Mine are still young but I'm working on cutting out drama here as well, last year was just full of it from every angle. My hermit self doesn't do very well with such things. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denisemomof4 Posted August 5, 2012 Author Share Posted August 5, 2012 I know just how you feel. Now, if I could just get rid of my pesky job, life would be amazing! I even joined the gym....:D I think I am going to like this new stage of life. My boys prefer not to be involved in group things, my dd has drama once a week in the evening....and I am focusing on ME and having fun with THEM. My bigger kids are independent....they can do their own thing. Yippee!! Have a great year!:D Isn't it refreshing? I don't know about you but I was SO nervous about empty nest syndrome. With two down, only one to school yet two at home...... I am really looking forward to having a little time for myself! And I love, love, love the lighter work load around the house! If only the barn animals would potty train themselves to go outside ONLY....... :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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