Supertechmom Posted August 3, 2012 Share Posted August 3, 2012 UGHGHG It's been a year. My oldest, 9th grade, is still trying to finish up. I was extremely busy this year with my own necessary return to college and left him to do a lot on his own. (he was more than ready for it but apparently had a huge lack of time readiness/management bite him in the butt) And then *I* forgot to make sure the work was on my desk as asked. So I do accept full responsibility for running into the first of AUGUST finishing up school. The biggest problem is when asked, it's always the last paper, finishing it up, almost done, just a minute. Then when I am standing there waiting for the paper to be put in my hand THEN we discover it is not done, not ready,and it's actually 3,4 ,5 papers still left. We are handling those issues and have a plan in place for this coming school year to make sure this doesn't happen again. But I don't know what to do about his grade for English. But English is his weakness, he did the first year of a great books study and had blast reading/discussing the books but hates the writing part. Probably why he can't get it done. He has learned his lesson. He knows he is sorely lacking in study skills/time management and has agreed to study with me to learn how and allow me to help him (something he was adamantly against last year) Paper quality wise they run A's, B's. Done on time through the year, he would have come out with a low A, high B . But I don't want to reward the slackness. I want to give him C. It is what he deserves for being late and not doing it when he was supposed to. HOWEVER my dilemma is 1) he wants to go to very selective schools for engineering and I am afraid a c will hurt his GPA too much to be selective. Which I really feel like OH well TOUGH COOKIES but since I did play a part in that I didn't keep him on track better, I feel that may be too harsh. 2) IF he was in school around here, he would not have read such rigorous books making the papers much easier and combined with the fact that (And this is from a lit teacher here in the local school) he would have been given at least 3 rewrites per paper to bring his grades up and would have been given extra credit to offset any deductions for turning in late papers. IT is pretty darn impossible to get a grade lower than an A around here. And he would have written maybe at max 6 papers in the advance class. In contrast, my kid did 12 original papers 2-4 pages each, 1 research paper and 12 historical narrative papers, no rewrites, no revisions (NO i didn't grade and allow him to rewrite until he made an A paper, I taught him to write an A paper in middle school and I expect him to do so) So that's my anguish. I feel he should get a C. I feel that in comparison that would be unfair because he will be in competition against kids who had multiple opportunities to get good grades and he only had one shot. I feel that is real life and TOUGH COOKIES. I feel guilty that I didn't stay on track better and keep him from getting so far behind. But TOUGH COOKIES, he had a schedule he knew when what was due, TOUGH! Did I mention he's extremely bright and this is probably the very first year, he's ever had material that pushed him and stretched him and showed his brilliant mind that he needed to actually pick up a book and study? We used the Great books, college books for everything else, so it was a big learning year. BUT TOUGH COOKIES! ;):glare: So WWYD? I made mistakes, he was hardheaded, we both learned and grew but it is going to chap my hide to put down A and bother me to no end to put down a C. and B seems like a cheap shot. Is pass/fail acceptable for English lit??:lol: Shew, Thanks for reading that far. I feel better for letting it out though I still dont' know what grade to put down. UGHHGUGG Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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