Blueridge Posted July 26, 2012 Share Posted July 26, 2012 (edited) My dd18 needed a break yesterday...she just returned from Costa Rica on Monday, and had a bad chest cold and had almost lost her voice. She dutifully took all the medicine I gave her, tons of vitamins, because she had another overnight trip scheduled for today and desperately needed to feel better. It is a big deal, involving a group of students who were awarded fellowships, hearing speakers involved with the professional world and their futures. I thought a haircut would bless her. I was wrong. :glare: We went to a new shop next door to the clothes place we were shopping for her outfit...I paid in advance and left her there so I wouldn't look like an overprotective mom lol. The lady said she knew just how to cut that thick curly hair...and then proceeded to cut it 1 inch from her scalp all over. She came out in tears. I don't blame her. I took her early this morning to get some hair scarves, etc., but she said that she had lost the last bit of self esteem she had...what can I say. I feel brokenhearted for her. She is so dynamic and talented, but now she is so self conscious she will probably not speak the whole meeting. :tongue_smilie: I know it will grow out, but not today. Thanks for reading my vent. Edited July 28, 2012 by Blueridge Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrsrevmeg Posted July 26, 2012 Share Posted July 26, 2012 Wow, so sorry. I pray that in a few days she will discover that she likes it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
athomemom Posted July 26, 2012 Share Posted July 26, 2012 My dd18 needed a break yesterday...she just returned from Costa Rica on Monday, and had a bad chest cold and had almost lost her voice. She dutifully took all the medicine I gave her, tons of vitamins, because she had another overnight trip scheduled for today and desperately needed to feel better. It is a big deal, involving a group of students who were awarded fellowships, hearing speakers involved with the professional world and their futures. I thought a haircut would bless her. I was wrong. :glare: We went to a new shop next door to the clothes place we were shopping for her outfit...I paid in advance and left her there so I wouldn't look like an overprotective mom lol. The lady said she knew just how to cut that thick curly hair...and then proceeded to cut it 1 inch from her scalp all over. She looks like a poodle. No, her head looks more like a brown cauliflower. She came out in tears. I don't blame her. I took her early this morning to get some hair scarves, etc., but she said that she had lost the last bit of self esteem she had...what can I say. I feel brokenhearted for her. She is so dynamic and talented, but now she is so self conscious she will probably not speak the whole meeting. :tongue_smilie: I know it will grow out, but not today. Thanks for reading my vent. :grouphug: for you both. I have curly hair and it is difficult at best to find someone who knows what they are doing. I hope she has a wonderful day in spite of all that's gone on. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
melissad2 Posted July 26, 2012 Share Posted July 26, 2012 :grouphug: Some people should not be allowed to touch scissors....ever. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lizzie in Ma Posted July 26, 2012 Share Posted July 26, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug: I'm so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mabeline Posted July 26, 2012 Share Posted July 26, 2012 :grouphug: I am so sorry. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missmoe Posted July 26, 2012 Share Posted July 26, 2012 I'm so sorry! I have been in her shoes---leaving a hair stylist in tears. I know it won't help for now, but perhaps there is a DEVA stylist in your area. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elegantlion Posted July 26, 2012 Share Posted July 26, 2012 OMG, I would be livid. This is why I quit going to a stylist, I have that thick curly hair. When it's short it looks like a QTip. I would complain. To fix it, I would try to go with a wet look. Use some smoothing creme and gel and bunch the curls up, pull a few out and twist them around your finger to give it some shape. If she can do with a few curls around her forehead and the nape of the neck, it might make it look longer. My MIL has short curly hair and it's cute, but her hair is not super thick. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Big hugs to your dd Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Desert Rat Posted July 26, 2012 Share Posted July 26, 2012 Holy cow! That's terrible! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denisemomof4 Posted July 26, 2012 Share Posted July 26, 2012 OMG that is AWFUL!!! What the heck was the hair stylist thinking??!!! that is an AWFUL thing to do t a teen! I do hope you can find some lovely scarves that will help your dd feel a little bit better. MAKE SURE YOU BUY THEM WITH THE HAIRCUT REFUND. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denisemomof4 Posted July 26, 2012 Share Posted July 26, 2012 OMG, I would be livid. This is why I quit going to a stylist, I have that thick curly hair. When it's short it looks like a QTip. I would complain. To fix it, I would try to go with a wet look. Use some smoothing creme and gel and bunch the curls up, pull a few out and twist them around your finger to give it some shape. If she can do with a few curls around her forehead and the nape of the neck, it might make it look longer. My MIL has short curly hair and it's cute, but her hair is not super thick. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Big hugs to your dd Good idea! Try this. To change things up a bit, maybe a scarf with a straightened bang on the forehead? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ktgrok Posted July 26, 2012 Share Posted July 26, 2012 can you tke her to a salon to get a make up session? Maybe that would help boost her self confidence? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rebel Yell Posted July 26, 2012 Share Posted July 26, 2012 As a licensed cosmetologist, I apologize. We're not all terrible! I have actually turned away clients who wanted a haircut I KNEW I was terrible at (90s- the Rachel from Friends) even though I knew my manager would yell at me... even while the customer was thanking me. Anyway, how long was her hair to begin with? Did you get a refund? *NOT* "blaming the voctim" here, but had your DD ever gotten a haircut by herself before? Did she know how to explain her haircut, and to stop the hairdresser when it was going wrong? These are just things to consider in the future and for the rest of us. I know that about 90% of the time when I had an unhappy client it was due to mis-communication or a misunderstanding. Agreeing- try a wet look with gel. FABULOUS earrings! Think BIG or BOLD... A WOW necklace with a plain top. Slick the sides back a little to give some shape. It might not be the haircut she wanted, but there is probably a way to make it look better. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Delirium Posted July 26, 2012 Share Posted July 26, 2012 (edited) Yikes! Poor girl. As someone who avoided hair stylists for years because of one bad one, I feel her pain. Curly hair is pretty forgiving but people also forget that because its curly its 4 inches longer when wet, which is how most hair stylists want to cut it. Edited July 26, 2012 by Delirium spelling error Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moxie Posted July 26, 2012 Share Posted July 26, 2012 I just got a really short haircut. Even though it is a great cut and I love it, big earrings and make-up are a must!! Without those two things, it looks boyish. With them it is awesome! Time to make lemonaid out of those lemons! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Mungo Posted July 26, 2012 Share Posted July 26, 2012 Ugh. I had a hairdresser do something terrible like that to me once. Now I am totally paranoid. I ask for salon recommendations from well groomed ladies, call the manager of that salon, explain my hair-cut-phobia and curly hair, it is so stressful! I once did all of that, went to the salon and when I got there and the manager said, "oh dear, I didn't think it was going to be at curly," I left. :auto: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
justLisa Posted July 26, 2012 Share Posted July 26, 2012 Ugh I'm so sorry. I'm so glad my sis cuts all of our hair. I cannot handle anyone touching my head or hair. I would have to be totally looped to walk in to a salon. I even went to one of those high end places once as a teen and walked out with some kind of mullet type thing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wildcat Posted July 26, 2012 Share Posted July 26, 2012 (edited) . Edited January 6, 2023 by Wildcat Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alisoncooks Posted July 26, 2012 Share Posted July 26, 2012 Poor girl. I've had plenty of bad haircuts and recall that feeling.... What about funky & bold barrettes to clip in the front. Big & hip headbands? Doesn't help much, but maybe she can "fake it til she makes it" (i.e. feel confident until it grows out). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QuirkyKapers Posted July 26, 2012 Share Posted July 26, 2012 Aww- that stinks! :grouphug::grouphug: I would let the salon know you aren't happy with the cut. at. all. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lovinmomma Posted July 26, 2012 Share Posted July 26, 2012 :grouphug: I'm so sorry! Try a headband or a scarf wrapped like a headband. Something like that should look a little more stylish. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Night Elf Posted July 26, 2012 Share Posted July 26, 2012 Aww.. I'm so sorry! We probably all have stories like that. I missed my high school graduation because the stylist cut my hair super short like that. When I put my graduation cap on, I literally looked bald. I spent the whole evening in my room crying like a baby. My mom was so upset she called the shop and lit into them. Then I was horribly embarrassed, like I should have cared about anyone in that shop at that time. I certainly had no intentions of ever going back! It was a LONG time before I ever trusted anyone to cut my hair again. Of course it took a long time for it to grow out too. :( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tammyla Posted July 26, 2012 Share Posted July 26, 2012 :grouphug: Poor thing, I wish there was a way to make it better quicker. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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