Jean in Newcastle Posted July 19, 2012 Share Posted July 19, 2012 This WWYD is partly dependent on you putting yourself in my financial shoes. Oh, and parenting shoes.;) Financial background: Dh works two jobs. We have enough to have good food on the table and some treats. We pay out a lot in medical bills. We live in a high COL area. So while we have "enough" money, we don't have money to burn. (Which I suspect covers a lot of other people too but might put us in the envy category for some.) DD10 background: Dd has a bit of an entitlement thing going on. Probably not too much more than most kids but nothing is ever "enough" for her. I've had trouble before with her telling me she has "no clothes", buying her more and finding out that she had a drawer full of clothes that fit just fine but she didn't like. She also has some sensory things going on that contribute to whether she likes clothes. We've also had a struggle getting her to take care of her things. My background: I have not always been the most involved parent with dd because of chronic illness levels. The reason she was able to get away in the past with tricking me on needing more clothes was because I was in too much pain to go into her room and bend over to look in her drawers. That is getting better and I'm much more hands on. It also means that I'm able to work harder to stem some of the drains on our finances so that hopefully we can get into a healthier place. The recent situation: Dd10 and I spent a couple of days going through all her clothing (at least so I thought). I explained that we didn't have money to waste but I wanted to buy her needed clothes that she liked. We made a list - 4 lightweight shirts, 4 pairs of pants, 1 jacket, underwear, a dress or skirt, and a leotard and gym shorts. We cannot afford to have her in gymnastics anymore and took her out a couple of years ago but she works hard on improving on her own. Honestly, she probably really doesn't need a leo (she does round-offs and handsprings no matter what she has on!) but she likes them and I'm willing to buy her one so that she has it. We went to Goodwill and I was able to find her favorite brand (Justice) shirts, dress, and jacket. Score! We couldn't find any pants because of her sensory issues (jeans are out - she'll only wear knit pants and knit pants usually don't make it as far as the thrift stores). I took her to the mall yesterday. We looked at target, Sears and Penney's first for the pants but couldn't find any that fit because she also has a size issues (she's 10 1/2 years old and wears size 8 pants but not just any size 8 because her hips are a bit bigger). I finally took her to Justice and we found pants that fit for 3 times the price of the entire receipt at Goodwill! Then I took her to the Pro shop at the gym she used to go to and bought her gym shorts (goes over the leo for a bit more modesty) and a leotard. The leo cost $40. I was just going through laundry and found two usable leos in the laundry that still fit just fine. I feel cheated on having spent so much money on a leo when she didn't really need one. $40 is a fair chunk of change for me for a piece of clothing. Would you: 1. Let it go. 2. Require her to do a few chores to "repay" me. (It won't really but it might teach her some responsibility) The leo is non-returnable and we knew that at time of purchase. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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