Georgiana Daniels Posted July 17, 2012 Share Posted July 17, 2012 This week my youngest is in soccer camp--this is totally her "thing" and she wants to make the most of it. There is 1 kid who's running amok and diverting the coach's attention away from the children who want to play and participate. I bit my tongue yesterday, rather than saying something to his grandmother when she came to pick him up, but I SOOOO wanted to. Already today I can hear the coach trying to keep the boy with the group, and we just started. And I know it's not just me and my daughter who notice....another mom said her son mentioned this kid, too, as we were leaving yesterday. My inclination is not to bring it up because I don't want to embarrass anyone, and frankly I don't like dischord. But if I get as annoyed as I was yesterday, not sure if I can hold back. This camp is a big deal to my daughter, it's a paying camp, and money doesn't grow on trees. Maybe if the kids's parents/grandparents knew, they could talk to him at home. Would you say something? Or am I being skunky? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
clarkacademy Posted July 17, 2012 Share Posted July 17, 2012 I would complain to the camp not the grandmother. I paid the camp I would be miffed over it BIG time. No money does not grow on trees I am right there with you. Before anyone blasts about special needs or whatever I have two with special needs and I don't put them in stuff like this because of these reasons. It is not fair to the other families. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Impish Posted July 17, 2012 Share Posted July 17, 2012 Talk to the coach. His/her responsibility to deal w/parents/gpa. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tap Posted July 17, 2012 Share Posted July 17, 2012 I would complain to the camp not the grandmother. I paid the camp I would be miffed over it BIG time. No money does not grow on trees I am right there with you. Before anyone blasts about special needs or whatever I have two with special needs and I don't put them in stuff like this because of these reasons. It is not fair to the other families. :iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted July 17, 2012 Share Posted July 17, 2012 It is the coach's responsibility to talk to the grandmother, not yours. If you talk to anyone, it should be to the coach or to the camp directors. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harriet Vane Posted July 17, 2012 Share Posted July 17, 2012 It is the coach's responsibility to talk to the grandmother, not yours. If you talk to anyone, it should be to the coach or to the camp directors. :iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lionfamily1999 Posted July 17, 2012 Share Posted July 17, 2012 I agree with everyone else (talk to the coach, not the grandparent). You might see if the coach wants an assistant and then volunteer. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Georgiana Daniels Posted July 17, 2012 Author Share Posted July 17, 2012 Yesterday I talked to the coach, and he totally agreed. In fact, he looked frazzled. He's just a young thing, but hopefully he said something. So unfair to the ones who want to play and learn.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cera Posted July 17, 2012 Share Posted July 17, 2012 I would speak with the camp counselor or even director about it. Someone from the camp should go to the child's parent and speak to them about behavior. If the kid can't be controlled in the group he should be dismissed from the camp in fairness to the other children. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Georgiana Daniels Posted July 17, 2012 Author Share Posted July 17, 2012 Things turned out better today than yesterday, thankfully! I feared the coach was simply too polite to speak up for himself. Anyhoo, dd told me the kid was calling the coach names today, but at least he wasn't running off and making the coach chase him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QueenCat Posted July 17, 2012 Share Posted July 17, 2012 It is the coach's responsibility to talk to the grandmother, not yours. If you talk to anyone, it should be to the coach or to the camp directors. :iagree:This... I'd be furious if a parent I didn't know came to me about my child's behavior in this type of setting. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Georgiana Daniels Posted July 17, 2012 Author Share Posted July 17, 2012 You ladies are right that the coaches should be the ones to talk to g-ma. My frustrated rant had me wanting desperately to say something, but even at my most annoyed point, the most I'd say is, "Lil' Timmy kept running away from the group and having the coach chase after him. It sure didn't seem safe." (And hope they got the point.) I'm really not confrontational. However--and it seems I'm in the minority--I'd want someone to tell me if my child was being disrespectful/disruptive, as long as they weren't jerks about it. At that point I could either A. decide they were full of turkey doo and ignore them, or B. apologize to the coach and have a talk with my kid. My whole thing was wanting the best experience for my baby--as do other parents--and one person really was ruining it for all. And the sweet coaches (there are only 3 for the whole camp, and they all look young/inexperienced) really seem too polite to say anything. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QueenCat Posted July 18, 2012 Share Posted July 18, 2012 However--and it seems I'm in the minority--I'd want someone to tell me if my child was being disrespectful/disruptive, as long as they weren't jerks about it. At that point I could either A. decide they were full of turkey doo and ignore them, or B. apologize to the coach and have a talk with my kid. I'm one that wouldn't want you to say anything to me... unless I knew you at least on a "well known" acquaintance basis. Then it would be okay. But not from someone I didn't know. Hard to explain why, mostly due to people who expect "perfect" behavior, and if I didn't know you, I wouldn't know if you were like that or not. I'd figure if the coach hadn't said something, then it can't be bad. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
acablue Posted July 18, 2012 Share Posted July 18, 2012 I tend to agree with the other posters. If the coaches can't handle the kid, the next person to go to is the director of the camp, not the grandparent. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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