Halcyon Posted July 12, 2012 Share Posted July 12, 2012 (edited) Okay, help me out here. DS's 10th birthday is coming up soon. My sister, without asking me in advance, and in front of my son, offered to buy him an ipod Touch, which he has been diligently saving for.I was annoyed because 1) she didn't ask me first 2) all his hard work at saving for it, and the lessons that implies, are out the window (not that DH and I had even AGREED yet that he could buy one, we figured it would take him a while to save) 3) she went with him that very same day to buy the itouch, not even trying to find a good deal, which in my mind, doesn't impart great habits. But whatever, right? She's the aunt, she doesn't have kids, she wants to indulge him. She bought my younger a Kindle Fire (again, had saved up 101.23 --yes, he knew the exact amount) for HIS bday too, which was last week. So anyway, I accepted this, and the limits that our family has on screen time will apply to these devices. Nevermind that I think an itouch for a 10 year old is absurd. I know the reason he wants one is because his friends in afterschool and camp have them (not all, but a few) and they are considered "cool" for having them. So I don't like that peer aspect; that he wanted something because other kids would envy him. So then today, he gets a card from grandma with 50 dollars in it, and he immediately decides he wants to buy these magnetic bucky balls that his friends have and that he likes. They are 23 bucks. I am torn--I feel he should give it some thought, not just buy the first thing that comes to his mind, the popular item, etc. We really encourage our kids to understand the value of money: older saved for 6 months for a Kindle Fire, walking dogs, doing extra chores, helping DH in the office (and yes, don't get me started on the fact that he has a Kindle Fire and aunt bought him an ipod Touch). It was a good experience for him, and now that he is getting into this phase of "what's cool" and "his friends have it so I want it"....I don't know. It bothers me. Is this normal? I am going to insist he save a portion of his gifts, but he wants to know what he's saving for LOL. DH just called me and told me that he found a bulk set of 10 bucky balls for 50 dollars and that we should encourage DS to buy them and resell the remaining 9 to his friends at a discount, and then DS would make a profit (DS9 has been trying to think of business ideas, so DH thought this might be a good one, given the popularity of these bucky balls amongst his friends). I don't know. Do you think this would be a good idea? A good lesson in turning a profit? Or would it be weird and exploitative of his friends? I don't know why I am so confused about this. I think it's because DS is getting to a new phase in his life, where the opinions and influences of his friends matter to him, and they matter in terms of STUFF--who has what, how can I buy this, what's the fastest way I can get this into my hands (he wants to do prime shipping via amazon, and I said no way).....Of course, his friendships are valuable in other ways, don't get me wrong--they play sports, invent games, etc. so it's not all "what new thing do you have" by any means. But it's an aspect. Help me out here, please. :confused: Edited July 12, 2012 by Halcyon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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