lovinmomma Posted June 26, 2012 Share Posted June 26, 2012 I'm sure no one remembers me around here, because it's been almost a year since I have been around WTM, but I used to post all the time and adored homeschooling. Lots has happened around my place. For starters, my husband of 8 years and I divorced. We needed to get away for awhile, so we moved to another state, but the kids' father and I are sharing custody. It's complicated. We have plans to be in the same state within a year (he is supposed to be moving due to job issues). If he moves I will be moving where he is because I want the kids to have access to both parents regularly. Anyways, all of that is pretty much just BG. I obviously had to go back to work full time and now I am missing homeschooling SO MUCH. My kids miss it, too. Maybe not all of them, but for sure my oldest. I would homeschool the kids still, but then who would watch them while I have to work? It just simply won't work and now I'm mourning the loss of what was. It could never be that again, because I could never go back to that, but it doesn't make it any easier. Anyways, I just had to vent and I wanted to say "hi". I'll be hanging out around here dreaming.:D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anne in CA Posted June 26, 2012 Share Posted June 26, 2012 I am sorry for your disappointment. I do know many single mothers who home school, it really can be done, but probably not now, when you know you will be moving and you don't have anyone to stay with your children while you work. One friend of mine home schooled living off child support in a two bedroom apartment and the local food bank. She was too uncomfortable with the idea of her son who had learning disabilities in public school. I would have hated to take food from the food bank when I could work, but I do understand her decision. Another friend watches a baby while homeschooling and does some after school daycare. Between those two things she gets by. In the summer when her kids spend six weeks at their dad's house she waits tables on weekends too. My dental assistant works full time while homeschooling because her kids use switched on schoolhouse and she checks on them a few times during the day. Those are just some things that work for some people, but I wanted to share a little inspiration. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lovinmomma Posted June 26, 2012 Author Share Posted June 26, 2012 I am sorry for your disappointment. I do know many single mothers who home school, it really can be done, but probably not now, when you know you will be moving and you don't have anyone to stay with your children while you work. One friend of mine home schooled living off child support in a two bedroom apartment and the local food bank. She was too uncomfortable with the idea of her son who had learning disabilities in public school. I would have hated to take food from the food bank when I could work, but I do understand her decision. Another friend watches a baby while homeschooling and does some after school daycare. Between those two things she gets by. In the summer when her kids spend six weeks at their dad's house she waits tables on weekends too. My dental assistant works full time while homeschooling because her kids use switched on schoolhouse and she checks on them a few times during the day. Those are just some things that work for some people, but I wanted to share a little inspiration. I very much appreciate the inspiration! I could use it. I've been thinking about ways that I could be self-employed and do things such as personal grocery shopping, ebay selling, etc. so that I could stay home. My 3 kids and I are living off of about $1400 a month right now, and it is REALLY hard but we are surviving. So, I wouldn't have to make that much doing outside stuff to make what I'm making full-time right now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
theYoungerMrsWarde Posted June 26, 2012 Share Posted June 26, 2012 :grouphug: Sorry about all the "icky, brown, sticky" stuff happening in your life. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lovinmomma Posted June 26, 2012 Author Share Posted June 26, 2012 :grouphug: Sorry about all the "icky, brown, sticky" stuff happening in your life. Thank you. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PollyOR Posted June 26, 2012 Share Posted June 26, 2012 :grouphug: Sorry about what you've been going through. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FairProspects Posted June 26, 2012 Share Posted June 26, 2012 I remember you! Sorry to hear about your difficulties, but glad you checked in again. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs.Gregg Posted June 26, 2012 Share Posted June 26, 2012 It sounds like you've been trough a lot this past year but that you have a plan of action to move forward. I hope your future is wonderful. If homeschooling is something you would like to try to do when the kids are older (from your siggy it looks like they are K,1st, 2nd maybe 3rd grade age). You could try to bank what you can with homeschooling being a goal. When they are in late elementary Middle school age homeschool (when they are more independent and able to stay home alone for short periods of time). I have a friend of mine, a fellow nurse. Who works fulltime. She works a 16 hour shift on Friday and Saturday and a 12 hour shift on Sunday at a nursing home while her kids are with their father. She then homeschools during the week. Best of luck with the future. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lovinmomma Posted June 27, 2012 Author Share Posted June 27, 2012 I remember you! Sorry to hear about your difficulties, but glad you checked in again. :) I remember you, too!!!! :D Glad to see your "face" again. lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lovinmomma Posted June 27, 2012 Author Share Posted June 27, 2012 :grouphug: Sorry about what you've been going through. :grouphug: Thank you. It sounds like you've been trough a lot this past year but that you have a plan of action to move forward. I hope your future is wonderful. THANK YOU If homeschooling is something you would like to try to do when the kids are older (from your siggy it looks like they are K,1st, 2nd maybe 3rd grade age). You could try to bank what you can with homeschooling being a goal. When they are in late elementary Middle school age homeschool (when they are more independent and able to stay home alone for short periods of time). I have a friend of mine, a fellow nurse. Who works fulltime. She works a 16 hour shift on Friday and Saturday and a 12 hour shift on Sunday at a nursing home while her kids are with their father. She then homeschools during the week. Best of luck with the future. Thank you so much for the ideas. I am currently going to school to go into the medical field. I thought that I may be able to do some 12 hour shifts and end up with more time devoted to the kids. Thank you. I appreciate all of the ideas. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ereks mom Posted June 27, 2012 Share Posted June 27, 2012 :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thescrappyhomeschooler Posted June 27, 2012 Share Posted June 27, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Sorry for all the upheaval in your life. I hope that once things get settled that you can find a groove that works for all of you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
besroma Posted June 28, 2012 Share Posted June 28, 2012 So sorry you are going through this. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ktgrok Posted June 28, 2012 Share Posted June 28, 2012 So sorry. I got divorced when my son was 6, so right around the age of your oldest. It was SO hard to let go of the idea of homeschooling....so hard to know he missed his father, just hard hard hard. But....it was the best decision I ever made. My life is 100 percent better now, it really is. It took time, and it was hard, but my life is amazing now. Hugs....and I hope you get to amazing sooner rather than later. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lovinmomma Posted June 28, 2012 Author Share Posted June 28, 2012 :grouphug: :grouphug: Thank you :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: Sorry for all the upheaval in your life. I hope that once things get settled that you can find a groove that works for all of you. Me, too. Lol Thank you! So sorry you are going through this. :grouphug: Thank you. I knew that I would find support here. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
annandatje Posted June 28, 2012 Share Posted June 28, 2012 Do not forget afterschooling. Maybe when things settle down a bit, you could try it. I am sorry for the difficulties you are facing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zoo Keeper Posted June 28, 2012 Share Posted June 28, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug:Good to see you back; I remember some threads we both posted on. I hope you find your calm spot soon. I'm sure that no matter who is teaching them math facts, your children have a lovin' mama. :grouphug: THAT is the important part. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lovinmomma Posted June 28, 2012 Author Share Posted June 28, 2012 So sorry. I got divorced when my son was 6, so right around the age of your oldest. It was SO hard to let go of the idea of homeschooling....so hard to know he missed his father, just hard hard hard. But....it was the best decision I ever made. My life is 100 percent better now, it really is. It took time, and it was hard, but my life is amazing now. Hugs....and I hope you get to amazing sooner rather than later. My oldest was 6, too when it happened. Turned 7 right after. Your words are extremely encouraging. Thank you. :grouphug: it is hard for them to miss their parent. My heart breaks for them for all that they have been through and are still going through. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FairyMom Posted July 1, 2012 Share Posted July 1, 2012 So sorry, Julie. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Katiebug_1976 Posted July 1, 2012 Share Posted July 1, 2012 Hey, I remember you, too! I am so sorry for all that you are going through. Wishing you the best through these hard times, and will look forward to "seeing" you around here again. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kricau Posted July 1, 2012 Share Posted July 1, 2012 :grouphug: :crying: I am new here so I don't remember you. But I am still sorry for you. That is my worst nightmare....the big D. So many people are going through it right now (both my sisters). And I see how hard it is to start your whole life over again. I really hope that you try to still homeschool and work. The only advice I have is maybe you could find a good homeschool group (if you aren't already part of one) in your area (wherever that may end up being). Then see if their is a highschool student (who wants to be a teacher when they graduate) that could help with the homeschooling of the kids. I am sure you are paying, or will have to pay for some kind of child care, so why not have it be in your home-with someone you trust-who can help you keep homeschooling? I'm sure no one remembers me around here, because it's been almost a year since I have been around WTM, but I used to post all the time and adored homeschooling. Lots has happened around my place. For starters, my husband of 8 years and I divorced. We needed to get away for awhile, so we moved to another state, but the kids' father and I are sharing custody. It's complicated. We have plans to be in the same state within a year (he is supposed to be moving due to job issues). If he moves I will be moving where he is because I want the kids to have access to both parents regularly. Anyways, all of that is pretty much just BG. I obviously had to go back to work full time and now I am missing homeschooling SO MUCH. My kids miss it, too. Maybe not all of them, but for sure my oldest. I would homeschool the kids still, but then who would watch them while I have to work? It just simply won't work and now I'm mourning the loss of what was. It could never be that again, because I could never go back to that, but it doesn't make it any easier. Anyways, I just had to vent and I wanted to say "hi". I'll be hanging out around here dreaming.:D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mimm Posted July 1, 2012 Share Posted July 1, 2012 Thank you so much for the ideas. I am currently going to school to go into the medical field. I thought that I may be able to do some 12 hour shifts and end up with more time devoted to the kids. Thank you. I appreciate all of the ideas. This could be possible. My mother is a nurse in a nursing home and she's had a variety of different schedules but one of her schedules was two 16 hour shifts on Saturday and Sunday with another small shift one evening a week where she came in and did a little paperwork. Granted, on Monday she was totally exhausted but she had all week off. :) So you never know what kind of weird schedule you might find that would allow you to be at home a lot. I'm sorry things have been rough and I hope they work out to the best for you. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lovinmomma Posted July 7, 2012 Author Share Posted July 7, 2012 So sorry, Julie. :grouphug: Ack! I hate it when I lose threads. Thank you. Hey, I remember you, too! I am so sorry for all that you are going through. Wishing you the best through these hard times, and will look forward to "seeing" you around here again. :grouphug: :seeya: Thank you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lovinmomma Posted July 7, 2012 Author Share Posted July 7, 2012 :grouphug: :crying: I am new here so I don't remember you. But I am still sorry for you. That is my worst nightmare....the big D. So many people are going through it right now (both my sisters). And I see how hard it is to start your whole life over again. I really hope that you try to still homeschool and work. The only advice I have is maybe you could find a good homeschool group (if you aren't already part of one) in your area (wherever that may end up being). Then see if their is a highschool student (who wants to be a teacher when they graduate) that could help with the homeschooling of the kids. I am sure you are paying, or will have to pay for some kind of child care, so why not have it be in your home-with someone you trust-who can help you keep homeschooling? VERY good idea to look for a local hs group. Thank you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lovinmomma Posted July 7, 2012 Author Share Posted July 7, 2012 This could be possible. My mother is a nurse in a nursing home and she's had a variety of different schedules but one of her schedules was two 16 hour shifts on Saturday and Sunday with another small shift one evening a week where she came in and did a little paperwork. Granted, on Monday she was totally exhausted but she had all week off. :) So you never know what kind of weird schedule you might find that would allow you to be at home a lot. I'm sorry things have been rough and I hope they work out to the best for you. :) Thank you so much for the encouragement. It's truly appreciated. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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