kfeusse Posted June 22, 2012 Share Posted June 22, 2012 Let me start with my question: How do you know if a behavior is a reaction or just bad behavior? Now, for some basic information. My target son (age 10) is actually quite mild in his reactions compared to many, so his reactions aren't nearly as obvious as those in other children. we did S1 100% for about 7 weeks and these are the behaviors we saw change: he could concentrate on school subjects without frustration, he could settle down in bed quicker and easier than before, when he got hurt, his reaction was age appropriate (whereas before, he would WAY overreact), he didn't get as irritated by others as quickly and our home was generally much more calm. When we were in school (I homeschool), if his concentration level dropped, I knew he had eaten something wrong (and I usually could figure it out), and that was usually my biggest, easiest marker. But now that we aren't in school, I can't use that. So now, I am tempted to use almost anything other "off" behavior as a possible reaction...but I know my son isn't the perfect child (even when he is eating perfectly), so how do I know if him getting angry at his sister and throwing something at her is a reaction or a bad behavior? How do I know if when he doesn't listen to a set of directions it is a reaction or him not wanting to do what he is told? And then the next big question I have...is how do you know when and how to discipline...hitting your sister isn't allowed reaction or no reaction...but if he ate something unclean, is his behavior really totally his fault? How do you handle this? My husband and I are really struggling with this balance and need some answers. I hope someone here will give us some answers. Thanks. Kathy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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