misidawnrn Posted June 15, 2012 Share Posted June 15, 2012 My one sister is my best friend, we talk almost every day, we eat dinner together about twice a month, my kids absolutely love her, infact when I had a hysterectomy at age 30, she carried a baby for me-my 8 year old. Right now she lives 2 miles from me. As soon as her house sells, they are moving from MT to WI. I am just so incredibly sad I can't describe it. I feel like she is going to disappear. She is a nurse at a nursing home and they are so short staffed that she has been working 14-16 hours a day or more every day for months, she is tired. Her work doesn't plan on hiring any time soon. She doesn't want to work at the only hospital in town (which I work at but don't blame her for not wanting to) which leaves little options here in our town. They have 5 kids to support so she is moving. My BIL has a daughter there and will be able to see them. They have a house lined up there and everything. It is only a 24 hour drive but we will probably only be able to make it once a year, maybe 2. I feel like I am grieving a dying person. Sorry, this was so long. Our family is the textbook of dysfunction and we are the black sheep (because we are the most normal, if that makes sense!) We have stuck through a lot and now I am losing her. I am just sad. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bettyandbob Posted June 15, 2012 Share Posted June 15, 2012 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Liz CA Posted June 15, 2012 Share Posted June 15, 2012 Losing such a precious, close relationship is really hard - it is a loss. I can only say, talk with her about it. She likely feels the same about losing this close connection with you. There is, of course, email, texting, etc but it is just not the same. Maybe focusing on seeing them and visiting them at their new home or half way would be something to look forward to. When something similar happened to me, I had to acknowledge it, grieve it and look for new ways to stay connected. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thescrappyhomeschooler Posted June 15, 2012 Share Posted June 15, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: My sisters are my best buddies. One lives with me. One lives 2 hours away. One lives 14 hours away. I'm sad for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
In the Rain Posted June 15, 2012 Share Posted June 15, 2012 :grouphug: Sisters are special. I wish I lived closer to mine. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
justLisa Posted June 15, 2012 Share Posted June 15, 2012 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happi duck Posted June 15, 2012 Share Posted June 15, 2012 Losing such a precious, close relationship is really hard - it is a loss. I can only say, talk with her about it. She likely feels the same about losing this close connection with you. There is, of course, email, texting, etc but it is just not the same. Maybe focusing on seeing them and visiting them at their new home or half way would be something to look forward to. When something similar happened to me, I had to acknowledge it, grieve it and look for new ways to stay connected. I like this advice very much. I've been in the same situation except I was the sister that moved away. What was helpful was that my sister and I acknowledged our sadness and then moved on so that I could concentrate on my move and she could be supportive...instead of us focusing on the loss. Our relationship was different due to distance but still close. We now live just a few miles apart! :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: to you and your sister. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TN Mama Posted June 15, 2012 Share Posted June 15, 2012 :grouphug: I'm sorry. I know it's tough. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AmyontheFarm Posted June 15, 2012 Share Posted June 15, 2012 Get Skype set up, quick! I loved being able to see and talk with my sister. A few times she skyped us knowing we were eating supper and she decided to eat with us! It was a riot! Of course, she was suggesting to the kids to start a food fight, since she was too far away for me to make her help clean it up! The little brat! :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fraidycat Posted June 15, 2012 Share Posted June 15, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug: Definitely talk to her about how you're feeling. I know it's not the same, but being military, I kind of liken this situation to a deployment. Unless we are very open and honest about how we're feeling about being apart, we tend to hold it in and allow it to stress us, which causes unnecessary stress and strain on the relationship. Trying to hold in the hurt, or avoid the hurt causes us to withdraw within ourselves and makes things worse. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
besroma Posted June 15, 2012 Share Posted June 15, 2012 :grouphug: I am so sorry. I miss my sister. She lives so far away that I only see her one her two times a year. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LucyStoner Posted June 15, 2012 Share Posted June 15, 2012 I understand. My 2 brothers live 5 and 45 minutes from my house. They each have spouses and kids around the same age as my kids. I would be crushed if one or both of them moved away. I am sorry that she needs to move for work. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BlessedMom Posted June 15, 2012 Share Posted June 15, 2012 :grouphug: I am so sorry. My sister moved away many years ago and I still miss her terribly. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted June 15, 2012 Share Posted June 15, 2012 :grouphug::grouphug::grouphug: I'm so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
justLisa Posted June 15, 2012 Share Posted June 15, 2012 This makes me feel sorry for myself and happy for two sisters to share these feelings. :grouphug: I wish I had a sister like you who appreciated the relationship. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
momtoamiracle Posted June 15, 2012 Share Posted June 15, 2012 HUGS! I moved away from my sister years ago - it was very hard. And then she moved even further away, 24 hours from me so it takes two days to get there (I don't fly). We see her once a year, but sometimes not that. She didn't meet my son until he was 2 yrs old. It was like a chunk of me was missing. We talk on the phone all the time but it's not the same. It was really hard on me. I dearly wish she was hear now especially since I have my son. I feel your pain. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
misidawnrn Posted June 15, 2012 Author Share Posted June 15, 2012 I will get skype set up, thanks for that! I had coffee at her house tonight and we looked up plane tickets to fly there. It is actually cheaper to fly than drive (if you take into consideration that if I drove myself with 2 kids in the car-gas hog Yukon that we would have at least 4 nights motel round trip) and time is money. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Devan Posted June 15, 2012 Share Posted June 15, 2012 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Patches Posted June 16, 2012 Share Posted June 16, 2012 I'm so sorry! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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